Archive: October, 2015

Post from Transformation Tom™- Make it Obvious that Your Primary Networking Goal is Not to Find a Job: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

Posted by tomdowd - October 26, 2015 - News
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network not find a job

 

 

 

 

 

 

Did I just read the chapter heading correctly? If you are out of work,
you are considered jobless and most likely need to find a job. As
the king-of-the-obvious, I just provided another no kidding comment.
However, if you take a step back and reassess how you’ve approached any
networking session while you are (or were) looking for a job, you might
find that the first and last question you asked was related to, “Do you have
any openings?” Even from someone like me who invests time coaching clients
about the importance of having a goal outside of job searching, I found
myself feeling the heavy weight of determining whether each networking
session was a viable lead or simply a time to build a relationship.
We get led in this direction because we are the ones who take it this
way. We might say it was tough losing our job, then sit back and wait for
the sympathy to come in—even if unintended. I didn’t want sympathy.
As much as I wanted a job, I had to remind myself that my first thought
was to build or enhance a connection, and not to cut to the chase of
what was available in that person’s organization. If someone on the street
asked you, “Are you hiring?” you probably would look at them funny.
Ultimately, if our primary goal clearly comes across as a job search, we
are creating a wall. Instead, the goal should be to get someone to like you
first. The rest will take care of itself through the developing relationship.
Don’t mistake me: I am not saying you should disguise your underlying
goal of finding a job with a thin veil of insincere small talk. I’m clearly
stating that your primary goal is not to find a job when you are specifically
networking, but to make a connection.

If the goal is not to find the next opening while networking with
someone, then what should you be doing? First, you must find the common
bond—either personal or professional. Why did you think of this
person in the first place? That most likely will provide you enough clues to
find a link. You have to relate in some way to the person you’re speaking
with so it doesn’t come across as a cold call. Whether it’s a common field
of expertise, or something you’ve picked up on LinkedIn, or the person
who referred you to them, find the common ground. As much as we may
inadvertently push the conversation into, “What can you do for me?” the
success of the session is contingent on your ability to find what’s in it for
the other person to truly make a valuable connection—both sides need to
get something from the conversation. Let the network find the job for
you. You just need to keep the process moving by building strong relationships
based on common bonds.

 

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

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Post from Transformation Tom™- Share Emotions—Chapter “From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide”

Posted by tomdowd - October 19, 2015 - News
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“From Fear to Success” Audiobook= Share Emotions

 

We all laugh, cry, and even scream when we see something scary.
Have you ever noticed that laugh tracks are included in many sitcoms
on television because laughter is contagious? Everyone does it. David
Brooks, the 1990 Toastmasters World Champion of Public Speaking,
shared a story on his “Dave’s Top Ten Techniques Every Speaker
Should Know” CD about an article in the Austin American Statesman
(LM Boyd’s “Trivia” column) that mentioned that we all share the
same emotions: happiness, sadness, anger, surprise, disgust, and fear.
As we search high and low for stories that can hit the mark, maybe we
don’t have to look so hard. Simple stories can touch one of the emotions
listed above and are guaranteed to relate to the audience in some
way. As you share your emotions, you will see members of the audience
thinking of a similar time when they felt the same emotion. Sharing
emotions instantly connects you to the audience.

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

Post from Transformation Tom™- Cross-Pollinate Your Network: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

Posted by tomdowd - October 12, 2015 - News
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Cross Pollinate

 

 

 

 

 

When thinking about networking, many professionals are too narrow minded. We often keep our various circles segregated.  Sometimes, this is wise, but other times it is not. When I lost my job in June 2013, a meeting of the minds of my blended networks helped me build my confidence, came up with a creative–and diverse–game plan, and pointed me in the right direction.

Circles of friends and colleagues often differ. We have a circle of friends with whom we may like to talk sports, others may discuss politics, and others may be strictly about business. There may be some overlap, but we sometimes build protective cones around many of our circles. However, blending these circles can mean benefits for you and others. Your network is only as good as the work it is doing for all participants, so if there’s an opportunity for crossover within some circles, take advantage of it. You may create the introduction for someone within your own circle to meet someone in your extended network. Or, you may ask if someone you are talking with knows someone in a particular field of interest that’s outside the immediate circle.

The web of a network should have key members in it. When discussing networking, we often think of going straight to the top. Instead, it’s important to make sure we are connecting with various levels within an organization. When we cross-pollinate our network and are not narrow minded in our approach, that network becomes more balanced, including friends, co-workers, former colleagues, doers, leaders, support staff, and even some fun personal network contacts.

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time–Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

Post from Transformation Tom™- Turn Off the Lights and Watch Them Snooze—Chapter “From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide”

Posted by tomdowd - October 5, 2015 - News
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Turn Lights off

 

 

 

 

 

 

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“From Fear to Success” Audiobook= Turn Off the Lights and Watch Them Snooze

 

 

Speakers turn off the lights for many reasons. One of the obvious is
that the need to see presentation slides clearly. As you have read, you
will want to minimize your dependence on slides, when possible, and
also have the font big enough that the audience doesn’t need to strain,
which may, in turn, allow for just dimming the lights or even keeping
them on altogether. Personally, I turned off the lights in my early
public-speaking experience because of the blotchiness on my neck and
face that I didn’t want seen. I also suspect that I didn’t want to look
the audience in the eyes. I might also add that I often accomplished
that mission because audience members’ eyelids would close when
the darkness came. Just think back to any school experience when the
teacher turned down the lights to show a movie, for example, in class.

 

 

When the lights go down, the comfort level of the audience goes
up. Regardless of how engaging you are, you will always fight audience
drowsiness. If you do need to project a presentation, do it in short
spurts, or simply turn the lights down, but not off. If there is background
lighting, try to use that. If you must turn off the lights, try using
interactive responses from the group to keep them focused on the message.
Don’t disengage the audience by putting them in the dark.

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time–Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby