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Post from Transformation Tom- Be Impatiently Patient: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - June 19, 2018 - News
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Be Impatiently Patient

Maybe I will do it tomorrow. ‘It’ could be anything. Tomorrow I will set my goals. Tomorrow I will earn the big promotion. Tomorrow I will write the next great novel. Some of us keep wishing and some of us allow frustration to build up. Still, we take no action, except maybe a complaint or two, or maybe three. We have all heard that good things come to those who wait. However, I will tack on that great things will come to those who earn it and take action.

I have had many career conversations with individuals who complained that his or her manager had rarely, if ever, had a career development conversation with him or her. The complaints include comments that his or her manager has performance-based conversations that help with the present, but lack the long-term discussion to push them further in their careers. I have seen consistent focus group feedback and anonymous survey feedback reiterating the same thing.

I have had to provide some tough feedback to people by asking them, “When was the last time you read your performance appraisal?” A very large percentage of people I ask have answered that it was the day it was administered. People have a silver tray of feedback on their lap that they think they can memorize after a thirty to sixty-minute discussion. They are wrong. People need to reinforce the constructive feedback that will make them better. They should not wait for the next performance review that will take place six months to a year from the last one. People should take hold of that feedback and take action immediately. Grab the feedback head on and start to implement the actions needed to make you stronger. Be impatiently patient to make yourself better.

If the complaints are accurate and you are really not getting career advice or long-term direction, you have the right to understand and ask for it. You need to know exactly what it takes to get promoted or get to the next level, or even what it takes to maintain great performance results. The conversation does not have to be contentious or even demanding. A simple request of, “Can you help me to better understand what it takes…” can go a long way.

Everyone should do their homework to at least know the minimum requirements and expectations for their current role and what is needed to get to the next level. My company used to have minimum requirements to get promoted to certain officer positions, including taking certain courses, and submitting at least one original, formal, creative idea annually to make the business better. I would be amazed any time I had a conversation with a colleague who said he or she could not come up with a fresh idea or find the time to take the training courses.

The irony may be that the driving force for me early in my career was my inability to take accountability. I was driven to cover my bases for all minimum requirements to ensure that never happened to me. I refused to allow any decision maker to make an easy decision to count me out of the running for an officer promotion simply because I had not met the check-box requirements. That would make it too easy for others. Remember, I was in the habit of blaming others.

I was learning that if I was going to blame someone for not promoting me or giving me the next great role, I wanted to force the conversation to be more meaningful than, “Sorry, you missed the minimum requirements.” The drive to meet the requirements forced me to be impatiently patient because I was going to meet all of my annual requirements in January (if the cycle started at the beginning of the year), as soon as I saw it in my inbox, or as soon as physically possible to complete.

My concerns for missing small details or requirements, or gaining a reputation as a procrastinator, were not part of my personality. My fear of missing a deadline or not completing my workload actually enhanced the perception of me in the eyes of many leaders. I was gaining a reputation for getting things done quickly. I was also becoming known for reading the details that may have been glossed over by others. I was building a positive reputation based on my emerging skill set.

Although others were still getting promoted around me, it was not because I wasn’t meeting my goals. It was the many other components that had been reiterated many times over. My inability or slow adaptation to change how I got the job done was holding me back (e.g., relationship building, cynicism). The positive momentum change in how I was viewed in getting things done quickly was a good sign towards future advancements.

I would eventually find my way to meeting many of my professional goals, but it was not within my personal, unwritten timeframes. I was beginning to be more driven and more specific in establishing these goals. I would set a certain age at which I wanted to achieve a title or position. There were designated times when I wanted to expand my role. I was often close, but I was not always within my personal deadlines. I was all right with that because my impatience was driving me to take the better road to eventually get to the position or goal I wanted.

In fact, there were at least two times in my career where I was in the right place at the wrong time. I was given expanded responsibilities at a time when I was not fully prepared for the positions. In both cases, I was asked to step back to a lesser role or change my position completely. I also learned that getting exactly what you want at the wrong time can have devastating impacts professionally. I learned from both scenarios to set clear goals, but be prepared for when I get there.

The lessons of not only knowing what I wanted, but also when I wanted to get there, proved valuable. My impatience made me do more homework and research to set aggressive, but more realistic, goals. I knew myself better than anyone else and I began writing out a game plan to help me achieve my goals. Doing things on the fly and just pushing to get someplace fast happened far too many times early in my career, to my detriment. I had the drive to get there quickly, but I lacked the specificity of where I was heading. This held me back. I needed to know where I wanted to go and be impatiently patient to get there—with a plan.

Finally, if you are fortunate enough to take on a new role, you need to be impatiently patient in learning the business. You can never passively wait to meet the learning curve within a given timeframe in a new position. First, you need to understand the business is moving quickly and can’t wait around for you. Second, if you are effective in attacking the transition, you can accelerate your ascent to gaining technical knowledge. Your patient efforts to impatiently learn the business as quickly as possible will assist you in gaining credibility with the people you are working with as you gain insights on the integration between different faces of the business, technology, culture, and styles. Take advantage of a learning curve if there is one, but learn as quickly as possible by using the people and resources around you to absorb everything.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

Post from Transformation Tom- Differentiate Yourself—Make It Known: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - June 12, 2018 - News
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Differentiate YourselfMake It Known

Too many times in the professional workplace, we try too hard to conform and fit in. We do not want to rock the boat or make waves. It is human nature to want to fit in and be a part of something. If you don’t believe me, think back to your freshman year in high school. As a new employee, we are typically learning something new and do not want to make any mistakes…Or at least any big ones. We may want to simply blend in. As times goes on, blending in becomes part of the fabric and habits we’ve built.

When I first started my career in banking, I had success with my performance on the phones. I was able to take advantage of not being face to face in an interaction. I could quietly and effectively have phone conversations with my customers. My performance was consistent and I began to be recognized on a regular basis in front of my peers. I was asked to increase my job responsibilities and expand my role. I would be taught to assist with the reporting, and asked to spend time with peers who were struggling.

During my performance appraisals or the occasional internal job interview, I still sold myself short in describing what I did. If I was collecting bad loans, I would simply say I tried to help customers with their financial difficulties. I didn’t realize that I could be special and different among a sea of people with the same job responsibilities. With hundreds of collectors, everyone could give a generic job responsibility answer of, “I try to help customers with their financial difficulties.” This was a starting point but interviewers, future managers, and company decision makers wanted to hear more from someone willing to differentiate themselves. What’s interesting is that I could not identify this need myself and did not pick up on any cues given to me to stand out. I would get direction to work hard, hit my goals, and sometimes hear the phrase “try to stand out.” I always interpreted this as making more ‘widgets,’ going faster, and working longer, but not necessarily describing how I could differentiate myself. As much as we don’t want to think about it, we are always on stage, and—in many cases—in competition. This isn’t an invitation to step on others’ backs as you climb the corporate ladder. However, you do have an invitation to give yourself some credit when it is deserved, and be prepared to be your own elevator when the time is right.

I applied for an internal management development program in my second year at the bank. The program accepted fifteen leaders. I went through at least seven interviews with senior members of the company. Can you guess what number I was? I was number sixteen. Candidates aren’t typically told where they finished after the interview process, but the people who nominated me wanted to help explain why I didn’t get it. I was told I had the skills and that I was on the edge of being selected.

I said that this was unfortunate because I thought my performance spoke for itself. In collections, I was the top performer nine times out of the twelve months. I was doing extra work on the side to assist the manager, and had recently completed a manager-selected program in which our group made some significant recommendations that would improve our business. I told the person giving me the feedback that it was all there on my résumé. The decision-maker said many résumés, especially after only two years of internal experience, looked alike and I should have brought these facts to light. There are few times in your life that you should assume anything. This type of situation was one of them. I was given feedback to not assume that they had any knowledge of me, had read my résumé, background, or application, and that I needed to bring that information to the forefront.

I began sharing with everyone the saying, “It is not bragging if it is a fact.” Stating your own facts, when timed and communicated appropriately, is acceptable. I am not overly confident to begin with; therefore, I do not typically come across as cocky. However, the inverse is that I have come across as plain and non-descriptive. You should be proactive in order to find your way of differentiating yourself and make sure the people you work with know it.

We are all special in our own way. Yes, this is a cliché, but still holds true. The message here is to bring out what makes us special and different in our interactions with others. In my mentoring sessions, I will often ask the people I am working with what they accomplished during the month. I often get typical answers such as, “Not a whole lot,” or, “Nothing different or out of the ordinary.” When I keep digging deeper, I find that they were involved in a project that saved thousands (or millions) of dollars, helped out an extremely frustrated customer, or asked to assist on a project team. Did everyone else accomplish these exact things, too? The answer is often no. You don’t have to brag and shout from your rooftops telling the whole world what you have done. However, you need to realize the difference between your day-to-day functions and what makes you who you are. As a mentor and manager, I have made it my mission to exert the effort to have people spill their guts to me when it comes to their accomplishments. I encourage people to proactively share their highlights and get used to telling their own special story.

I would often ask my direct reports to submit their accomplishments on a monthly basis. There were many months when I could put two side by side, and they would look very similar. The side-by-side exercise is what started to get me thinking about how to teach the people who worked for me how to reach for higher goals and therefore put more meaningful accomplishments down on paper.

We started to share more accomplishments openly in our staff meetings. The purpose was not for competitive reasons, but to share best practices. I would often praise them, and emphasize that being creative and innovative in order to make the team better made everyone stronger. I believe that the courage to try new things, whether or not it worked, is in itself an accomplishment.

When we had managerial requirements to go back on the phones for four hours a month, my employees often listed the requirement as one of their accomplishments. I would ask them what they truly accomplished by doing that? If they answered, “Met the requirement,” they were not getting the full picture and I had more work to do to teach them. If they gave an example of how they resolved a sticky situation with a customer or mentioned how they now understood what the front-line associates were complaining about relating to their computer system and had a solution to fix it, they were differentiating themselves as leaders.

No two people are the same. I am very proud to list out the various jobs I have worked. I can say that no one in the company has followed my career trajectory. I would often joke around, saying that I couldn’t keep a job. I wasn’t sure if people were kicking me out or if people really wanted me. As I thought about this more seriously, I realized that early in my career, people were indeed ‘kicking me out.’ They were attempting to have me get more experience and to play to my strengths—the things that made me special…made me different. I realized later in my career that this was still true to some extent, with more weight on people really wanting me. People wanted me because of my diverse background and the broad knowledge I could bring to their business. I could bring best practices, creativity, and freshness to jumpstart some spinning wheels. What makes you special? Does everyone know it?

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

 

 

Post from Transformation Tom- Stand Up for What’s Right: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - June 5, 2018 - News
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Stand Up for What’s Right

Similar to communicating assertively, you have the right to show your character and integrity. There are times where you can’t—and should not—accept what is going on around you. You may not always get your way, but you will know in your heart and your head that you did the right thing. If you are anything like me, you have the pull of guilt during situations in which you’ve said to yourself, “I should have done that differently.”

One of those guilty moments that I have carried with me for years is a performance appraisal conversation I had with one of my employees. She always had been bright and creative, and exhibited great people skills in my eyes. She was likeable, but was often seen as too soft and lacking the ability to drive performance. Many of her past managers carried this perception and managed her by providing feedback to be more direct and have more forceful conversations with her subordinates.

After some of my own observations, and a significant amount of time together using open-ended questions to bring out her strengths and opportunities, we both came to a mutual agreement that there wasn’t a need to drive people harder. What she needed to do was understand the reporting and analytics of the business better in order to better target performance discussions with her people. This “aha” breakthrough moment was important to building our relationship as manager and employer. We both felt good over the outcome of our intense conversations and started to see improvement.

At performance review time, my scores for her were lowered by upper management. One senior leader had clung to the older perception that she needed to have more forceful conversations to drive performance. I “tried” to persuade the senior manager to increase the scores back to where they had been. Looking back on my argument, it was more emotion based and lacked enough substance to make a difference.

The conversation to pass on the lowered score to my employee was extremely difficult, to say the least. The reason for the difficulty was my problem. First, I had not properly prepared her for the discussion, because we both felt like we were on the same page with our assessment of her performance. Second, I was telling someone else’s story. I tried to communicate the corporate direction, but did not believe it myself; and she knew it. I did not want to come right out and say to her, I scored you higher and I disagree with my manager. The conversation was a mess. As I have pondered this conversation in my head many times over the years, I’ve realized that I had facts and figures to show her team’s improvement. Not only did I have her team’s results, I had action plans that she and I were working on that clearly identified her specific opportunity. My argument to increase her scores was glossed over with too much generalization and did not give me the facts to clearly make my points.

She was obviously upset. I found out later that she seriously considered leaving the company. Who could blame her? Do you want to work for a company that does not judge you on your true merits? During the conversation, she maintained more maturity and composure than I would have expected of anyone in that circumstance.

Although she constantly reminds me years later of that conversation, it is more jovial because she has seen my genuine learning and belief that she was better than she was scored. I learned to manage others differently based on that conversation, and I saw in her a confidence that she could prove people, like the senior leader, wrong. It showed me her strength—a strength I needed personally. Our personal relationship grew over the years and we became close. We have bounced ideas off of each other and became informal mentors as our professional paths grew apart.

She took the high road. I now make sure that I do as well. I have a card she sent to me a couple of years later. It appeared out of the blue. It was a simple hello card. She wrote in it that she wanted to thank me for taking the time to teach her about leadership, integrity, and attitude. She mentioned in the note that she appreciated the encouragement and challenge to grow. She even added, “For kicking me when I needed it.” I wish I had beaten her to the punch. I should have thanked her for her leadership in a time when she was a subordinate, for her integrity when she knew I was having conflicting thoughts, and for her positive attitude during a trying time. She “kick” started me into understanding how to act in a tough corporate environment. When there are times I feel the pull to go back to old habits, I just turn around and re-read the card. I have done this dozens of times to put myself back on track.

In an interesting twist, the senior manager who did not believe in her at the time brought her back to his line of business several years later. He clearly saw her leadership abilities by then. He showed his ability to be open to admitting he was wrong so many years before, and he needed someone who showed heart and character. She had always been willing to learn and adapt. He finally saw that and was able to utilize her maturity to assist in leading other less experienced managers.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

 

 

Upcoming and Recent Events (Book Signings, Speaking, Training, Coaching, and Media Appearances)

Posted by tomdowd - June 1, 2018 - Events
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Upcoming Events

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Thomas B. Dowd III’s books:

– Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success

– The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

– Time Management Manifesto:  Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance 

Displacement Day:  When My Job was Looking for a Job (2014 Paris Book Festival and 2014 New York Book Festival Honorable Mention)

– The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World (Honorable Mention at the 2012 New England Book Festival)

– From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide (2013 Axiom Business Book Awards Gold Medal Winner and 2013 Paris Book Festival Honorable Mention).  Audiobook version of “From Fear to Success” is also available!

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book, eBook, and audiobook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

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Upcoming Speaking, Training, Coaching, and Book Signing Events (all times Eastern Time Zone):

• June 27, 2018   Time: 5:00pm – 8:00pm 

Toastmasters Leadership Institute (TLI)- “Here Comes the Judge”

Texas Instruments, Portland, Maine

• September 18, 2018   Time: 8:30am – 9:30am 

91st Annual Maine Safety & Health Conference

Augusta Civic Center, Augusta, Maine

• November 2, 2018   Time: 8:30am – 3:30am 

Practical Public Speaking for Business

University of Maine- Hutchinson Center, Belfast, Maine

• October 1-12, 2019   Time: 9:00am – 3:00pm POSTPONED UNTIL OCTOBER 2019

Bebee Healthcare

Heritage Shores, 34 Royal View Drive, Bridgeville, DE 19933

“Resurrecting Resilience” keynote, MC event

 

Past Events: 

6/13/18        Individual Coaching- resume

6/12/18        Individual Coaching- resume

6/12/18        Individual Coaching- resume

5/27/18       Toastmasters District 45 Table Topics Finals (First Place)

5/26/18       Toastmasters District 45 International Speech Finals (Second Place)

5/24/18       “Change Your Story”

Tri-City Toastmasters (Portsmouth, Maine)

5/23/18       “Change Your Story”

Portland Harborside (Portland, Maine)

5/23/18        “Change Your Story”

Running Hill Toastmasters (Scarborough, Maine)

5/22/18         “Change Your Story”

L-A Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

5/21/18           “Change Your Story”

Greater Portland (Portland, ME)

5/17/18            “Change Your Story”

Portsmouth Toastmasters (Portsmouth, NH)

5/16/18             “Change Your Story”

MDI Toastmasters (MDI, Maine)

5/15/18              “Change Your Story”

Ad-libs Toastmasters (Portsmouth, NH)

5/8/18              “Change Your Story”

KVTM (Augusta, Maine)

5/4/18               Individual Coaching- resume

5/1/18               “Change Your Story”

Camden (Maine) Rotary, Camden, Maine

4/4/18               Division B-level International and Table Topics Speech Contest, Waterville, Maine (won both)

4/30/18             Individual Coaching- resume

4/26/18             “Change Your Story”

Ecotoasters, Augusta, Maine

4/25/18              “Change Your Story”

TD L-A Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

4/24/18             “Change Your Story”

Carbonite Droid Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

4/24/18             “Change Your Story”

L-A Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

4/17/18               “Change Your Story”

Brunswick Toastmasters

4/12/18               Individual Coaching- resume, LinkedIn

4/10/18              Area 14-level International and Table Topics Speech Contest, Augusta, Maine (won both)

4/9/18                “Change Your Story”

Rockland (Maine) Kiwanis,

Chamber of Commerce, Park St, Rockland, Maine

4/6/18               “Change Your Story”

Dexter Sunrise Kiwanis, Knights of Columbus Hall, North Dexter Rd., Dexter, Maine

4/3/18                “Change Your Story”

Winthrop Rotary, 117 Bowdoin St, Winthrop, Maine

4/2/18                Individual Coaching- resume

3/28/18            “Change Your Story”

Ecotoasters (Augusta, Maine)

3/27/18             “Change Your Story”

KVTM Club-level International and Table Topics Speech Contest, Augusta, Maine (First Place, both contests)

3/27/18              “Change Your Story”

Augusta (Maine) Rotary, Cohen Community Center, Hollowell, Maine

Individual Coaching- Interviewing

3/21/18                “Change Your Story”

Wayfair Furniture, Brunswick, Toastmasters Demo Meeting, Brunswick, Maine

3/20/18                “Change Your Story”

University of Rockland (URock)- Public Speaking Class, Rockland, Maine

3/6/18                 “Change Your Story”

Camden (Maine) Lions, Camden, Maine

3/5/18                 Individual Coaching- resume

2/19/18               Individual Coaching- resume

2/19/18               Individual Coaching- professional development coaching

2/10-2/11/18     U.S. National Toboggan Championships

Camden Snow Bowl, Camden, Maine

Honored to be the “Voice of the Toboggan Championships” since 2009

2/5/18          Individual Coaching- resume update

2/2/18            Midcoast Leadership Academy

Penbay Hospital (Physician’s Building downstairs), Rockport Maine

“Resurrecting Resilience” keynote

1/30/18          Individual Coaching- resume update

1/10/18           The Havard Club of Boston

374 Commonwealth Ave, Boston MA

“Resurrecting Resilience” keynote

12/20/17         Individual coaching- career advice

12/13/17          Amoskeag Better Communicators (Toastmasters)- “Turn the Page”, Manchester, NH

12/7/18           Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

12/5/17            Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/16/17           Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/13/17           Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/8/17             Individual Coaching- resume

11/6/17             Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/4/17             District 45 Fall Conference- Resurrecting Resilience

10/16/17          Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

10/12/17           EcoToasters

Augusta Maine

“Resurrecting Resilience”

10/13/17          Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

10/3/17            Brunswick Toastmasters

8 Venture Ave, Brunswick (old Brunswick Naval Air Station)

“Resurrecting Resilience”

10/4/17           Bangor Toastmasters

417 Main St Bangor Maine

“Resurrecting Resilience”

9/28/17          Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/26/17          Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/25/17          Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/20/17          Individual Coaching- resume

9/18/17          Individual Coaching- resume

9/7/17            Individual Coaching – resume

9/5/17            Individual Coaching – resume

9/1/17-9/3/17  Master of Ceremonies (Saturday and Sunday)

Camden Windjammer Festival

https://www.camdenwindjammerfestival.org/

8/28/17         Individual Coaching – Interviewing

8/28/17          Individual Coaching – Networking

8/21/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/21/17           Individual Coaching – resume

8/18/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/16/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/14/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/2/17             Individual Coaching – Networking

7/24/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

7/17/17            Individual Coaching – Networking

6/7/17              Individual Coaching- Networking

6/2/17             Individual coaching- interviewing

5/26/17           Individual Coaching- resume

5/25/17           MC Sculpture Race at Camden-Rockport Middle School

5/24/17           Individual Coaching- resume

5/20/17          District 45 International Speech Competition, Sunday River, Maine

5/19/17           Criterium Engineers, Portland, Maine: Portland Regency Hotel, Portland Maine

Generational Differences- Millennials

5/17/17           MDI Toastmasters, Hulls Cove, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/16/17          Brunswick Toastmasters, Brunswick, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep5/11/17

5/15/17          Individual coaching- resume

5/11/17           Tri-City Toastmasters, Dover, NH

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/10/17            Portland Harborside Toastmasters, Portland, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/9/17              KVTM, Augusta, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/6/17              Division B (Maine/pasts NH) Toastmasters International Speech Competition (winner)

5/5/17              Mid-Coast Leadership Academy, Location TBD

Generational Differences- Millennials

4/27/17            EcoToasters, Lewiston, Maine

Public Speaking

4/27/17            LA TD Toastmasters, Lewiston, Maine

Public Speaking

4/25/17            Individual Coaching- professional development

4/24/17            Individual Coaching- professional development

4/24/17            Individual Coaching- professional development

4/21/17             Rockland Kiwanis, Lighthouse Museum/ Chamber Office, Rockland, Maine

Public Speaking

4/20/17              Individual Coaching- professional development

4/13/17               Individual Coaching- professional development

4/11/17                Individual Coaching- professional development

4/7/17                  Individual Coaching- professional development

4/6/17                  Individual Coaching- professional development

4/4/17                  Winthrop Rotary, American Legion Post 40, 117 Bowdoin Street Winthrop, Maine

Public Speaking

4/2/17                  Individual Coaching- reume writing

3/31/17                Dexter Kiwanis Club- Public Speaking

Knights of Columbus Hall

16 Crockett Rd, Dexter, Maine

3/21/17                Public Speaking Discussion, Coastmasters Toastmasters

Camden, Maine

3/21/17              Camden Lions Club, Camden Maine

Public Speaking

3/16/17              Individual Coaching- Public Speaking

3/15/17              Public Speaking Discussion, Bangor Toastmasters

Camden, Maine

3/14/17              Individual Coaching- resume

3/13/13              It’s Not Bragging if it’s a Fact–Improve Interviewing Skills

Wilmington Memorial Library

175 Middlesex Ave, Wilmington, MA 01887

3/12/17              Public Address Announcer

Cardboard Box Derby, Camden Snow Bowl, Camden, Maine

3/10/17             Individual Coaching- resume

3/7/17               University of Rockland, Rockland Maine

Public Speaking

3/6/17              Individual Coaching- resume

3/5/17              Individual Coaching- resume

3/5/17              Individual Coaching- resume

2/28/17           Camden Rotary Club, Camden Maine

Public Speaking

2/27/17            Individual Coaching- interviewing, networking

2/23/17            Individual Coaching- resume

2/22/17             Rockland Rotary, Elks Club Rankin St Rockland Maine

Public Speaking

2/23/17            Individual Coaching- resume

2/20/17            Individual Coaching- interviewing, networking

2/15/17              Rockland Rotary- public speaking

2/10-12/17        U.S. National Toboggan Championships

Public Address Announcer

2/7/17               Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/1/17               The Chris Wolf Show

https://www.mainecoast.tv/category/chris-wolf-show/

1/31/17             Augusta Rotary Club, Augusta Maine

Public Speaking

1/30/17             Individual Coaching- public speaking

1/271/7             Individual Coaching- career strategies

1/23/17             Individual Coaching- public speaking

1/20/17             Individual Coaching- career strategies

1/17/17             “Practical Public Speaking for Business”, Falmouth Maine

Financial Institution

1/16/17             Individual Coaching- resume

1/13/17             Individual Coaching-interviewing

1/12/17             Managing Multiple Generations in the Workplace

Mid-Maine Chamber of Commerce -2017 Business Breakfast

1/9/17              “Practical Public Speaking for Business”, Mt. Laurel, NJ

Financial Institution

1/7/17               Individual Coaching- job search strategies

1/5/17               Individual Coaching- job search strategies

1/3/17               Individual Coaching- job search strategies

12/26/16          Individual Coaching- Resume

12/19/16          Individual Coaching- Resume

12/18/16          Individual Coaching- Resume

12/14/16           Individual Coaching- Resume

11/23/16           Podcast Interview with Engel Jones- world record attempt: 1509 radio conversations

11/23/16           Professional Radio Network Interview

11/8/16             Coaching Session- Resume

11/3/16              Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Caroline Dowd-Higgins

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/1/16              Coaching Session- Networking

 

10/15/16           District 45 Division B Humorous Speech (2nd Place) and Evaluation Speech (Winner) Contest Finals

10/6/16             Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Sheila Kelley

https://ow.ly/CZX35

10/5/16               Individual coaching- resume

9/26/16              Individual coaching- career development (PM)

9/26/16              Individual coaching- career development (AM)

9/27/16               Area 14 Humorous Speech Contest and Speech Evaluation Contest, Lewiston, ME

9/20/16              TD Legendary Leaders Humorous Speech Contest and Speech Evaluation Contest, Falmouth, ME

9/15/16                Managing Multiple Generations in the Workplace with HR Association Greater Concord (NH)

9/13/16                KVTM Humorous Speech Contest and Speech Evaluation Contest, Augusta, ME

9/13/16                Winthrop Rotary Club- Public Speaking Discussion

American Legion Post 40, 117 Bowdoin Street. Winthrop ME

9/12/16                Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Tom Meyers

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/12/16                 Individual coaching- career development

9/12/16                 Individual coaching- career development

9/8/16                  Public Speaking Discussion, Coastmasters Toastmasters Club, Camden, ME

9/7/16                   Public Speaking Discussion, Bangor Toastmasters Club, Beal College, Bangor, ME

 

9/5/16                   Individual coaching- resume writing

9/1/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bob Whipple

https://ow.ly/CZX35

8/29/26                Individual coaching- resume

8/29/16                 Individual coaching- career development

 

8/30/16                 Individual coaching- resume

8/29/16                 Individual coaching- career development

8/22/16                 Individual coaching- resume

8/18/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Neil Ihde

https://ow.ly/CZX35

8/17/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/16/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/15/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/12/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/10/16                  Flawless Virtual Presentations

Conference Call Financial Institution

8/3/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest David Riemer

https://ow.ly/CZX35

7/21/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Barbara Lee

https://ow.ly/CZX35

7/8/16                    Individual Coaching- resume

7/5/16                    Individual Coaching- resume

6/24/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

6/23/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

6/17/16                  Individual Career Coaching

6/16/16                 The Successful Author Podcast with Julie Anne Eason

6/16/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest David Balch

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/15/16                  Individual Career Coaching

6/2/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Helene Segura

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/1/16                     Individual Coaching, Interviewing

5/25/16                   Merck- Interaction and Engagement Effectiveness

Portsmouth Harbor Events & Conference Center, Spinnaker Room

5/20/16                  Maine State Library – offsite facilitation

Location: Portland Public Library, Portland Maine

5/16/16                   Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

5/19/16                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Janet Edmunson

5/15/16                   Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

5/11/16                   Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

5/5/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bob Whipple

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/2/16                     Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

 

4/30/16                 Book Signing Sherman’s Books, Camden ME

4/29/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/21/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Randy Fox

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/19/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/18/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/14/16                  Managing Multiple Generations in the Workplace

Conference Call Financial Institution

4/11/16                   Guest speaker Rockland Kiwanis

Samoset Resort, Rockland, ME

4/11/16                   Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/8/16                    Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/7/16                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Monal Pathak

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/7/16                     Guest appearance HR Power Hour with David Ciullo

4/5/16                     Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/5/16                     Guest speaker Augusta Rotary

Senator Inn Augusta, ME

4/4/16                     Guest speaker UROCK (University of Rockland), public speaking class

Rockland, ME

4/1/16                    Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/31/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/31/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/29/16                 Guest appearance on Fred Simkovsky radio show

3/23/16                 Resume Writing: Make Your Story Come Alive

Westford Job Seekers, J.V. Fletcher Library

50 Main Street Westford, MA 01886

3/22/16                 Guest speaker at Coastmasters Toastmasters       Camden, Maine

3/20/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/17/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bryce Kuhlman

https://ow.ly/CZX35

3/14/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/13/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing (3pm)

3/13/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing (5pm)

3/10/16                Speaking to Thomas College Public Speaking Classes, Waterville, Maine

3/9/16                  Radio Guest January Jones- Sharing Success Stories

3/8/16                  Guest speaker Winthrop Rotary

Winthrop Legion Hall, 40 Bowdoin St. Winthrop, Maine

3/7/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/6/16                  Cardboard Box Derby, Camden Snow Bowl-announcer

3/3/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Tom Reaoch

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/29/16                “Your Working Life” Podcast with Caroline Higgins Dowd

2/24/16                 Transformation Discussion- Virtual meeting with Financial Institution leaders

2/24/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/23/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/20/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/18/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Jeffrey Hayzlett

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/16/16                  Guest Speaker Camden (Maine) Lions Club

Camden, Maine

2/13/16                   Book Reading: “The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood”

Our Lady of Good Hope  Camden, Maine (cancelled)

2/12/16                  Individual Coaching- Book Marketing

2/8/16                    Make Your Connections Work for You- Networking Skills

Financial organization Mt. Laurel, NJ

2/5-2/6/16           US National Toboggan Championships

Snow Bowl, Camden, Maine

Event Announcer

2/4/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Al Raymond

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/3/16                    Let’s Just Talk radio with Katherine Raaker

https://www.letsjusttalkradio.com/

2/3/16                    Chris Wolf Show    MaineCoast.tv

1/27/16                   US National Toboggan Championship Panel Discussion

Rockport (Maine), Rockport Library

1/21/16                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Michelle Chung

https://ow.ly/CZX35

1/19/16                   Understanding Generational Differences in the Workplace

Falmouth, Maine

1/12/16                   VStv Interview- discussing US National Toboggan Championships

1/11/16                   Individual Coaching- resume

1/8/16                    Individual Coaching- resume

1/7/16                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Donna Serdula

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/31/15                Individual Coaching- resume

12/28/15                Individual Coaching- resume

12/18/15                 Book signing- Portland Jetport, Portland Maine

12/17/15                 Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Oscar Santolalla

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/14/15                  Individual Coaching- resume

12/12/15                  Book Signing, Sherman’s Maine Books & Stationery, Camden Maine

12/3/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Chris Dyer

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/2/15                    Interviewing: It’s Not Bragging If It’s a Fact

Westford Job Seekers, J.V. Fletcher Library

50 Main Street Westford, MA 01886

11/19/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Diane Williams

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/16/15                 Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/13/15                 Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/12/15                 Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/11/15                 Time Management- Baker Newman Noyes CPA (BNNCPA)- Cancelled

Portsmouth Sheraton, Portsmouth NH

11/11/15                  Podcast Interview Business Innovators Magazine

11/11/15                  Individual Coaching session- LinkedIn, Networking

11/9/15                   Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/8/15                   District 45 Speech Evaluation Contest Finalist (winner)

11/7/15                   District 45 Humorous Speech Contest Finalist

11/5/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Brian Campkin

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/4/15                   Communicating Up, Down, and Around- Conference Call with a Financial Institution

10/27/15                Guest appearance on TalentTalk Radio Show with Chris Dyer

10/19/15                 Individual coaching- resume writing

10/17/15                 Division B (State of ME and parts of NH) Humorous Speech and Speech Evaluation Contest Finals

10/15/15                 Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio- Time Management Manifesto

https://ow.ly/CZX35

10/13/15                 Individual coaching- resume writing

10/6/15                  Resume Writing- Women in Leadership group

Falmouth Maine

10/2/15                   Command and Influence: Effective Communication

Falmouth, ME

10/1/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Alfred Manganiello

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/30/15                   Command and Influence: Effective Communication

Mt. Laurel, NJ

9/17/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Dorie Clark

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/11/15                   Individual coaching- resume writing

9/9/15                    Individual coaching- resume writing (2 different clients)

9/3/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Jen Blood

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/1/15                     Resume Writing- Women in Leadership group

Falmouth Maine

 

8/25/15                  Resume Writing- Women in Leadership group

Falmouth Maine

8/20/15                 Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Mike Matteo

https://ow.ly/CZX35

8/19/15                 Time to Shine Podcast – Public Speaking with Oscar Santolalla

https://www.timetoshinepodcast.com/

8/13/15                 MaineHealth “Practical Public Speaking” for Trainers, Falmouth Maine

8/12/15                 Individual Coaching- Resume Writing

8/10/15                 Individual Coaching- Resume Writing (2 clients)

8/6/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Erin Dymowski (Sisterhood of the Sensible Moms)

https://ow.ly/CZX35

7/31/15                  Individual Coaching- Resume Writing

7/27/15                  Time Management Training

Conference Call

7/16/15                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Judy Robinette

7/7/15                    Resume writing coaching session

7/6/15                    Guest on CBS Radio with Shep Hyken

7/2/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Sharon Mast

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/15/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guests Henry Chamberlin and Bennet Geis

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/10/15                   Radio guest on Destiny Moments with Angel Murchison

https://angelmurchisondestinymoments.blogspot.com/

6/4/15                      Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with the authors of “The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood”

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/31/15                   Maine Authors Publishing- “The Art of a Good Book Reading”

Sebasco Harbor Resort, Sebasco Estates
29 Kenyon Rd Sebasco Estates, ME, 04565

5/23/15                   Book signing Shermans Bookstore, Camden ME

5/21/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bob Weinstein

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/21/15                   Podcast Interview with David Wissore on Fatherhood360

www.fatherhood360.com

5/20/15                 Facilitator- all day session with Maine Librarians

Point Lookout, North Port Maine

5/16/15                  Toastmasters District 45 (ME, NH, VT, 3 Eastern Provinces of Canada) Manchester, NH

Training Session:  “Manage Your Time, Don’t Let It Manage You”

5/14/15                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Mike Storkey

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/7/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Dr. Fay Butler

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/5/15                    Taping VSTV “Soup du Jour” show with Nancy Nickerson

https://www.vstv.me/soupdujour.html

5/4/15                    Individual Coaching Resume Writing

5/8/15                    TV Interview Helen Fu westfordcat.org

5/9/15                    Toastmasters District 31 (Eastern MA, RI), Mansfield, MA

Afternoon Training Session:  “Manage Your Time, Don’t Let It Manage You”

5/9/15                     Toastmasters District 31 (Eastern MA, RI), Mansfield, MA

Keynote address:  “Transformation Time with Transformation Tom:  A Journey of Self-awareness, Belief, and Action”

4/24/15                   Radio Guest on “Better Business Builders Show with James Nemley” discussing “Fatherhood”

4/16/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Josh Coburn

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/10/15                   Discussion with 10:00am and 11:00am Public-speaking Classes at Thomas College

4/2/15                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Marc Demetriou

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/1/15                      Radio Guest on “Better Business Builders Show with James Nemley” discussing Time Management

3/26/15                   The Successful Author Podcast with Julie Anne Eason

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/successful-author-podcast/id948069222?mt=2

3/19/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Debbie Pokornik

https://ow.ly/CZX35

3/18/15                   Camden Hills Regional High Schools

Time Management Discussion

3/15/15                    Taping for guest appearance on “Your Kind Voice” with host Dominic Domasky

Click here to listen

3/5/15                      Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Sheila Kelley

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/21/15                     Division B Toastmasters Leadership Institute – Effective Elevator Speeches

Thomas College, Waterville, Maine

2/19/19                      Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Dominick Domasky

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/19/19                       Radio guest appearance with Beth Shackleton-Anderson Click to Listen

2/12/15                       Radio guest appearance with Marc C. Demetriou on 1160am WVNJ “The Real Estate and Money Show”

2/12/15                       Falmouth (Maine) Lions Club Time Management Discussion Falmouth Legion Hall 65 Depot Rd Falmouth, ME

2/11/15                        Guest Radio Interview 93.3 WRFR with Chris Wolf / Mid-Maine.tv

2/11/15                        Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/6/15-2/8/15           US National Toboggan Championships Camden ME Announcer

2/5/15                         Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Elisabetta Faenza

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/2/15                        Interview with Charlotte Howard on the Success & Beauty Radio Show

Click to Listen

1/26/15                      Blog Interview with Mary Motivates

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1/24/15                     Division B Toastmasters Leadership Institute – Effective Elevator Speeches

UNUM, Portland, Maine

1/15/15                      Midcoast Development Council – Effective Elevator Speeches

Georges River Land Trust, 8 N. Main Street, Suite 200, Rockland Maine

1/15/15                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Diana Warmsley

https://ow.ly/CZX35

1/8/15                        Radio guest appearance MPBN Radio discussing Time Management

https://news.mpbn.net/post/better-time-management

12/24/14                   Individual Coaching- interviewing

12/23/14                   Individual Coaching- business start-up discussion

12/21/14                   Guest on Al Cole Radio Show- taping

12/18/14                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Abbie McGilvery

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/17/14                   Guest on Visions of Success radio show with Dr. Fred Simkovsky

12/14/14                   Book signing at Sherman’s Book Store, Freeport ME

12/13/14                   Radio Guest on “Business 101 with Scott Gingold”

12/11/14                    Individual Coaching session- resume

12/12/14                   Individual Coaching session- Interviewing

12/4/14                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Don Holbrook

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/1/14                       Individual coaching- Public Speaking

11/24/13                    Taping “Defining Success” Podcast with Zeb Welborn

https://definingsuccesspodcast.com/

11/24/14                    Guest appearance with Tom Evans of “The Zone Show Podcast”

Discuss “When Your Job is to Find a Job…and Yourself”

https://avanoo.com/landing/473/When-Your-Job-is-to-Find-a-Job—and-Yourself

11/24/14                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Kit Summers

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/13/14                 Individual Coaching- professional development

11/13/14                 Mid-Maine Chamber of Commerce -2014 Business Breakfast

Thomas College 180 West River Rd. Waterville (Rt. 104)- Spann Student Commons

https://www.midmainechamber.com/cms/index.php/events/upcoming-events/range.listevents/-

11/11/14                 Individual coaching- resume

11/10/14                Radio Show Recording (The Strength Coach) with Greg Smith

11/6/14                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest David Frood

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/5/14                   Radio guest appearance, HR Power Hour with David Ciullo

https://hrpowerhour.com/

11/1/14  District 31 Toastmasters:  Eastern Massachusetts & RI.  Topic:  “Running Successful Speech Contests”

Holiday Inn, 31 Hampshire Street, Mansfield, MA

10/25/14               MC Toastmasters District 45 Fall Conference Banquet, PEI, Canada

10/23/14               Guest radio appearance with Beth Shankle-Anderson host of “The Success Design Radio Show”

10/13/14                Individual Coaching Session- resume

Belfast, Maine

9/30/14               Thomas College students- “Have Your Connections Work for YOU”- professional networking

Waterville, Maine

9/25/14                Individual Coaching Session- professional development

Belfast, Maine

9/10/14                Individual Coaching Session- professional development

8/20/14               Make Your Story Come Alive — Résumé Writing Workshop, Falmouth, Maine

Radio Interview with Michelle Spaulding host of “Illuminate Together”

8/15/14               Pecha Kucha Event sponsored by Mid-Coast Magnets

Camden Amphitheater Camden,  ME

8/7/14                  Radio Guest on “Dose of Leadership with Richard Rierson”

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8/5/14                  Radio Guest on “Better Business Builders Show with James Nemley”

8/4/14                  Individual coaching session- Resume Writing

8/2/14                  Book signing Shermans Books, Camden, Maine

8/1/14                  Book signing Portland Jetport, Portland, Maine

8/1/14                  Guest on Visions of Success with Dr. Fred Simkovsky

Dr Fred Show August 1 2014

7/24/14              Interview with Charlotte Howard on the Success & Beauty Radio Show Click to Listen

7/24/14              Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Kita Szpak

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

7/22/14              Individual Coaching Session- Public-speaking

7/17/14              Sponsored by Lewiston Career Center, Maine

Auburn Public Library 49 Spring St, Auburn, ME 04210

Displacement Day:  When My Job was Looking for a Job Book Launch

7/15/14             Terri Levine Radio Show

https://www.theterrilevineshow.com/

7/10/14             Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Nadine Lajoie

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

7/2/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Ron Finklestein

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

6/23/14              Guest appearance on BFM 89.9FM: The Business Radio Show Malaysia

6/12/14              Radio Guest on “The Success Design with Beth Shankle-Anderson”

6/11/14              Guest on “People of Distinction” with Al Cole of CBS Radio

https://broadcast365.blogspot.com/2011/11/featured-station-people-of-distinction.html

6/7/14               Guest on “Business 101 with Scott Ginsgold”

https://www.facebook.com/business101withScott

6/6/14               Maine Career Development Association (MCDA)

Let Your Connections Work for You — How to Build a Professional Network

USM’s Lewiston-Auburn College, 51 Westminster Street, Lewiston, Maine 04240

6/3/14                Let’s Talk Strategies | The Womenpreneurs Network

Let’s Talk Strategies

6/2/14                Individual Coaching

5/30/14             Guest on The Hollis Chapman Show

https://www.blogtalkradio.com/hollischapmanshow

5/29/14              Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Larry Agresto

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

5/28/14              Radio Interview with Dr. Fred (DocFred) Simkovsky, CMCP host of “Simple Solutions for Complex Challenges”

https://www.lifecareerbusinesscoach.com

Radio Interview with Rafael on “The Untamed Blogger Show”

Untamed Blogger Show

5/26/14             Radio Interview with “Top of the Morning radio Show” with Dr. Fay Maureen airing

https://www.blogtalkradio.com/pastor-maureen

5/24/14             Toastmasters District 45 Spring Conference – Let YOUR Connections Work for You- How to Build a Network

Double Tree, South Portland, ME

5/23/14              Toastmasters District 45, MC of “Guts and Glory” event, S. Portland, ME

5/20/14             Woman In Leadership West Falmouth, ME

Make Your Story Come Alive — Résumé Writing Workshop

5/19/14               Guest on Talk 2 Brazil on LA Talk Radio with Tom Reaoch

www.talk2brazil.com

5/17/14                Toastmasters District 31 Spring Conference – Impromp-to-Success

Holiday Inn, 31 Hampshire Street, Mansfield, MA

5/14/14                 St John New Brunswick Chapter- Certified General Accountants,

Venue:  Lily Lake Pavilion PO Box 492 55 Lake Drive South Saint John, NB, E2L 3Z8

Keynote address: “The Transformational Journey:  A Story of Self-Awareness, Belief, and Action”

5/8/14                   Rockland Networking Group

Tradewinds Hotel, Top of the Rock, Rockland, Maine

5/7/14                   A Kind Voice on Books with Eden Blackwell

Click here to listen.

5/6/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Jeff Krantz

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

5/3/14                  Book launch of Displacement Day:  When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work, sponsored by the Rockport Public Library.

Rockport Opera House located at 6 Central Street, Rockport, Maine.

4/29/14                 University College at Rockland- COM101 Public Speaking class

Breakwater Building, 4th floor, Rockland Maine

4/26/14                 Taping Radio Interview with “Top of the Morning radio Show” with Dr. Fay Maureen

4/24/14                 eTalks Virtual Roundtable with Mike Brenaug

eTalk with Mike Brenhaug Guest Tom Dowd

4/24/14                Defining Success Podcast with Jeb Welborn

https://definingsuccesspodcast.com/

4/17/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Lynnette Louise

4/10/14                Dirigo Toastmasters, Bank of America, Belfast ME

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

4/9/14                   Command and Influence Communication

West Falmouth, ME

4/8/14                    Radio Interview with Host James Lower- WJAG Radio

kjagradio.com

4/7/14                    Individual Coaching Session- Résumé Writing

4/3/14                    Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Phil Spillane

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

4/1/14                   Camden Rotary, 55 Elm St. Camden. ME

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditionally Nice” speech

3/28/14                 Rockland Rotary, Samoset Resort Rockport, ME

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditionally Nice” speech

3/25/14                 KVTM International and Table Topics Club Contest (competitor)

3/20/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Beverley Golden

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

3/19/14                  Bangor Toastmasters Club International and Table Topic Speech Contests

3/14/14                  Thomas College, 180 W River Rd, Waterville, Maine, 04901

Public Speaking Discussion

3/11/14                    Augusta Rotary, Senator’s Inn 284 Western Ave, Augusta, ME 04330

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

3/6/14                      Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Wally Hauck

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

3/5/14                     Winslow High School         20 Danielson St, Winslow, ME 04901

“Unconditionally Nice” speech at Assembly and Public-Speaking Overview with English classes

3/4/14                     Camden Lions Club, 3 Lions Ln, Camden  ME 04843

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

3/3/14                     Rockland (Maine) Kiwanis, 58 Ocean St. Rockland. ME

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

2/26/14                   MDI Toastmasters, Birch Bay Village, Bar Harbor Maine

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

2/25/14                  Coastmasters Toastmasters,

Camden National Corporation 245 Commercial St Rockport Maine 04856

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

2/20/14                  Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Fred Maidment

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

2/19/14                   Bangor Toastmasters

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

2/18/14                   Winthrop (Maine) Rotary, Legion Hall 117 Bowdoin St. Winthrop. ME 04364

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

2/7/14-2/9/14     U.S. National Toboggan Championships- Announcer

1/28/14                    Hosting taping of “Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom”- guest John Brubaker

1/18/14                    Organizing and Judging Effective Toastmasters Contests- Toastmasters Leadership Institute

Texas Instruments, Portland, ME

1/16/14                    Taped “Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom”- guest Dominck Domasky

 

Post from Transformation Tom- Wait Three Months…: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - May 29, 2018 - News
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Wait Three Months…

On what I remember was one of the most frustrating days I have ever had with a boss in my career, my wife had the gall to say, “Wait three months and one of you will be hired (into another role), fired, promoted, or demoted.” It was her way of giving me a lesson in patience. I had come home after another bad day with my boss. For many reasons, including differences in management styles, personalities, and personal goals, I just didn’t get along with this particular boss. The thought had seriously crossed my mind to leave the company.

As I had found through my research with employee retention, most people choose to leave their manager rather than leaving the company. My wife was right. I needed to hang in there and things would change. Things did happen quickly. My hated boss was ‘double’ promoted into a different position. I didn’t even think it was possible, but it happened. I could not have been happier for myself and for the fact that the person moved on. The new person who came in gave me a clean slate. He listened to my ideas and gave me opportunities to drive the business and grow.

We all know that promotions in companies do not always come quickly or easily. The message is not to sit around and wait for something to happen. Opportunities are few and far between before someone is tapped on the shoulder. The message of “wait three months” is also a call to action to build the relationship, even if it is damaged. Some of my most constructive conversations have come when I have directly said to someone, “I think we got off to a rough beginning. Do you mind if we start over,” or “I think there is some misunderstanding between us.” By making the first move in reaching out to smooth over a rough relationship, I have found that many people are receptive to at least listening. Many times, we had a good laugh together over the original situation as time went on.

The “three month” concept is a good reminder that time is always ticking forward and can work in your favor. Businesses are always changing and this concept shows that you can be part of the change. By exhibiting patience with a level head, and taking action to strengthen bonds and relationships, you will move forward to success in your overall career beyond those three months.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Post from Transformation Tom- Understand that Winning Isn’t Everything—Losing Is: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - May 22, 2018 - News
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Understand that Winning Isn’t EverythingLosing Is

I have lost many things in the professional world. I have lost promotions. I have lost the next great position. I have lost confidence. I have lost my passion at times, and sometimes lost my way. The great news is that there have been very few times that I can remember when things did not work in my favor after a loss. If things did not work out as planned, I at least typically learned a valuable lesson. When I have lost, I have found myself building up my character, or something better has come along. The premise of this book is obviously my transformation based on key lessons during my professional career. This premise is based on many of my losses that really turned into wins—this book being one of them. You have two paths to take when you lose. You can get up and do something about it, or you can lick your wounds and do nothing.

I was asked to apply for a position that many thought I was qualified for in a call center. It was in a place where I had extended family close by, I was willing to relocate, and I had more than fifteen years of call center experience in quite a variety of roles. I was not an expert in the new field I would be entering, but I had taught myself all of the positions in the past and I was eager to learn a new one. The final candidates were narrowed down to three of us for two openings. Can you guess who was ranked number three?

The other two candidates had fifteen or more years in this particular business. I’m sure each of them was qualified for the job and would be great hires. I felt I could have had an advantage and could make a difference by sharing my diverse background, my experience from my other internal businesses, and my objectivity as an outsider to the business. The decision makers didn’t think so.

I was upset after learning I did not get the job, but, knew I had to do something positive about the experience. Instead of accepting the statement, “You didn’t get the job” at face value, I dug in deeper with the decision maker. I learned through his feedback that I needed to sell my diverse background, my experience level, and creative objectivity better during the interviews. I was told I could have also networked more effectively in preparation for the interview process, and prepared differently. The difference with this lesson was that I stayed on the phone and had a real conversation about what I needed to do better the next time. I was asking questions and genuinely felt good after the conversation, reassured that I had been well thought of throughout the process, but I had room to improve for the next time. What I was beginning to realize was that the “next time” was all around me if I kept my eyes wide open.

Three days later, I heard about a brand new position that was in the works to increase employee retention. I proactively went after it. I produced a clear plan of attack to address the issue, spoke to the appropriate people about my interest, and utilized my background to effectively sell the point that I could build bridges across multiple businesses to expand the impact of the work. I didn’t realize I would get to implement the feedback I had just received so quickly. I was given the job and taught a valuable lesson: certain things happen for a reason. I did have control of my career and could make a bigger impact to the overall company in my new role.

In another example, as an avid speech competitor with Toastmasters International, I have learned that competing helped to prepare me for the most stressful situations. The competitions also taught me how to clearly engage an audience for a short period of time, and showed me how to send a message that the audience would remember for a long time. I enjoy the challenge of these contests.

As I became more successful in the contests, I realized I needed to learn from my more-experienced fellow competitors. In addition to picking up many tips and learning how to broaden my style, I also learned to lose. Losing speech competitions was a great thing to push me to write a better speech, to prepare differently, and to get more people involved in the overall process by offering their input for the next competition. I knew I could always be better.

In the International Speech contest in the spring of 2010, I was the only competitor in my club who was available to continue in the next competition. I knew going in I would ‘win’ by default. I had practiced for over a month. You’ll notice that I didn’t say I prepared well for over a month. I practiced a speech that lacked a clear message for the audience. I finished in third place, out of three people. To increase the intensity of my loss, I found out that the second place finisher forgot he was in the competition until that day, and only practiced for forty-five minutes.

I was forced to re-write my speech. Apparently, the weekend of the next contest must have been a bad date, because only two of us were there. Again, the top two progressed on to the next level. I had no idea if the changes I made worked or if I moved on by default again. I was not going to leave it up to the unknown. I asked everyone I knew what they thought. I presented the speech to my club more times than they probably wanted. I gave the speech as a guest to a club in Florida while I was traveling on business. I invested time each day on my week-long vacation with the family to fine tune my message. I interjected myself into a company meeting to spend seven minutes giving the speech because there was a large gathering of people. Everyone had an opinion, and I listened to them all. I placed second in the next contest and moved on to the regional finals. The final competitive speech of the season went well, even though I did not win the competition. However, I did win by gaining valuable experience and lessons. By losing, I had won. I lost to some fantastic speakers who gave me the encouragement to continue to drive myself. I was a better speaker, a better networker, and a more confident individual because of this experience. All of these lessons would prove to pay off in future competitions and within the workplace.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Post from Transformation Tom- Learn to Communicate Assertively: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - May 15, 2018 - News
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Learn to Communicate Assertively

Many people internalize their thoughts and feelings. These thoughts may build up over time and cause pent-up frustration in the wrong circumstances. Some negative thoughts may gain momentum and may impact the future effectiveness of what you are trying to accomplish, and even impact a relationship that is being established because of a misunderstanding that needed clarification.

As stated previously, I have a tendency to be an introverted individual and have been known to internalize feelings. I have often said, to myself, “I wish they wouldn’t do that,” or, “I wish they would stop…,” or, “I wish (fill in the blank).” I have had to make a concerted effort to push myself through these types of random thoughts, and make it a point to have a conversation, especially if I want to ensure that all parties involved are on the same page.

I was flying across the country on a last minute red-eye flight from California to New York. My originally scheduled flight had been cancelled due to foul weather. I’ll even toss in the fact that I had been bumped up to first class before the other flight was cancelled. Since I had to switch airlines and make same-day arrangements, most of my normal preferences, such as window seat and front of the airplane, were not available. Unfortunately, I was given a middle seat on an airline that seemed to have smaller seats than I was used to. I was not in the most pleasant of moods as I boarded the plane.

A young woman approximately twenty-five years old was sitting next to me, to my right towards the aisle. On a flight that takes over five hours and flying through the night, I was ready to go to sleep. The airline was gracious enough to give us covers for our eyes and the seatbacks had televisions to watch when we were not sleeping. I began to warm up to the idea of this flight; until I closed my eyes for the first time. The young woman beside me was visibly nervous. She was jittery, shaking, twirling her hair, and constantly bumping into me, waking me up out of my light sleep. For two hours, I peered over her way to see her fixated on the Weather Channel. Each time the satellite picture showed the snow building up in New York, her body shook intensely. These weather updates came every twenty minutes. After being startled by her multiple times, and building up a frustration of, “Wait until I go home and tell my wife how miserable this flight was,” I stopped myself. I took my eye cover off and my headset out, and asked her if she was all right. She said that she was nervous (no kidding). She feared she would miss her connection and be stranded in New York.

I started to calm myself down in an attempt to empathize with her situation. I began to have a conversation with her by asking more questions about her situation. I didn’t want to spark a conversation for the sake of conversation. I had a purpose. I wanted to sleep and she looked like she needed a Plan B in New York. I had to be creative, but assertive enough to get there.

I used a level head to creatively determine what needed to occur to calm her down and create a game plan for her. I couldn’t scream at her because I had a few hours left of the flight and I think the close proximity might cause a slight issue. I asked more direct questions, such as, “What is your biggest worry?” She mentioned she wasn’t able to contact her parents in Virginia, who were going to pick her up after her connection. I asked her what I could do to help her, including assisting once we landed. We decided that we would go to the customer service desk to switch flights and I allowed her to use my cell phone to call her parents.

I started to think that I had a long time before I got home in order to complain to my wife about my terrible flight experience. I had a four hour layover until my next flight, so what did I have to lose by helping someone who obviously needed it? During my interaction with the young woman, I had to explain to her that worrying would not solve any of the issues, but actions would. I also realistically told her what I had coming up the next day, including a long drive after my final destination, and I needed the sleep. I was taking assertive steps that would have been difficult for me to take just a couple of years before.

She began to understand both sides. The young woman was gracious and appreciative of the advice and the assistance. I couldn’t tell you how she did for the next few hours, because I slept like a baby. We landed and took care of the things she had been worrying about.

Communicating assertively does not mean you have to communicate aggressively. The message is to say what is on your mind at the time it is on your mind. It does not mean go ahead and scream and shout when emotions are high. It does mean maintain a level head and state the facts, including what’s in it for you and what’s in it for them.

In another example, I took on a new position. I became the organizer of an important meeting and I wanted to impress my new co-workers by doing a good job. During the middle of the meeting, one of the leaders began to call me “Skippy.” I thought it was odd the first time I heard it, but chose to ignore it. The second time I heard it, she was asking me to do something for her. I stopped, and gave a look that got an interesting reaction. I told her my name was Tom. I professionally asked her to call me by my name. She unprofessionally called me “Skippy” for a third time, and this time asked for the rest of the group to join in. Striving to get beyond the immature nature of the action, I simply responded again with a level head and said, “You can call me Tom, and if you want me to respond back, you can call me by my given name.” This conversation was not pleasant, but it was needed if I wanted to establish myself appropriately with everyone there, including the one attempting to label me with a nickname.

Again, we both had something to gain. I needed early respect in my new role and she needed things from me to have the meeting run well. We both got what we wanted, including clear expectations and a real conversation.

I look back on the many times I allowed examples like this to fester and put me in a bad mood. All those times when I was swearing in my head and fuming at the person or situation, I could have been attempting to resolve the situation. I now realize there were times I allowed unnecessary things to go on in the workplace by simply internalizing my feelings of, “I wish it would stop…,” but chose to do nothing about it. We should all be assertive when the need arises and watch problems get resolved. You may be surprised at the positive reception you get from the receiver of your message and you will appreciate your own ease in tension.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

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Post from Transformation Tom: Send a Note to Say Thank You, and Mean It: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - May 8, 2018 - News
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Send a Note to Say Thank You, and Mean It

The typical email and instant message exchange at work ends with “thanks” or even “thx,” to which the receiver responds, “np” (no problem). People are appreciative of the assistance and support they receive, but it often feels so ineffective because of the overuse of one word: “thanks.” There seems to be no time or effort dedicated to it. Don’t get me wrong—I’m sure the people I help are appreciative of my efforts. However, the perception of that quick “thanks” because it is more muscle memory than genuine recognition may take away from the heartfelt feeling of that appreciation.

If an instant “thanks” response came within seconds from the person you helped, it probably even caused a little extra effort on your part to go back in and delete it. I have caused some debate at work when I’ve broached the subject that I have a large amount of “real” emails I need to get to in a day. The point is that I like to be efficient and don’t like to waste time. I don’t want to be misinterpreted, because I like a pat on the back as much as anyone. However, I don’t see the value of a message where someone took an extra six key strokes and hit send.

I have often struggled with addressing a lack of genuine sincerity of many of these quick and thankless “thanks” responses. My message is that if I do something for you in the course of my normal job responsibilities, I don’t need the thank you—I will do it for you anyway. It may be my job, or I want to just help out a teammate. That is good enough for me. If I am constantly helping you out specifically, and you want to invest the time to individually thank me with a phone call or heartfelt email, I would appreciate the gesture and take notice of the invested time you took to do it.

The genuine meaning comes when the receiver perceives the feeling behind the sender’s intentions to say thank you. When the sender adds a little note that mentions specifically what they thought was special from you, this little touch makes a world of difference. As a recipient, I feel more grateful for that type of note. As a sender of thank you notes, taking the small amount of time to handwrite one is also impactful. Likewise, adding a few sentences to an email or recognition note will add a smile to anyone’s day.

In any case, I won’t get into a contentious argument in the professional environment about the etiquette of all thank you delivery and methodology. I simply want to drive home the point to ensure that the recipient feels the effort that you put into thanking them.

Finally, the recognition should also be immediate. I have seen too many examples of formal recognition months after the event that triggered it. The instantaneous response shows you are paying attention—just have it be more than “thx.” I like to build time into my schedule once a week for about fifteen minutes to reflect upon the efforts of others to send notes based on recent performance. Try it—you will make someone’s day. You do not have to thank every person for every email that you received in your inbox during the week. Try to think of a memorable experience and genuinely thank the people who deserve it—I bet you will have a smile on your face, too.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

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Post from Transformation Tom: Stop and Smell the Roses—or At Least Stop and Say Hi: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - May 1, 2018 - News
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Stop and Smell the Rosesor At Least Stop and Say Hi

We constantly hear how busy or stressed people are. Personally, I think this topic in the workplace has overtaken the weather as the top subject matter at the water cooler. In my opinion, we have all the time in the world—it is a matter of our choice on how to use it. We are running around manically picking up documents off the printer, emailing something important, multitasking, and jumping on conference calls. I get it. We have business to take care of.

I am a naturally fast walker. I like to get to places in a straight line and typically do not deviate from my path to get to my destination. I wouldn’t say that I am always in a hurry, but I like to be efficient. The simple act of walking fast applied an unflattering label to me professionally. I was often accused of being unapproachable. Why? I was just going where I needed to be. I always seemed to give a quick smile, I thought.

What people see is all they have. They saw my eyes forward, the straight face saying, “I am on a mission.” The quick smile was not enough to elicit a response. For the most part, there usually was something to do or a place to get to, but not always a “mission.” I was unintentionally closing people out.

In all of our busy worlds, we have only a finite amount of time in each day. We must decide how to use that time. Some people like to get involved in social media (e.g., Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn), while some like to text message the person at the desk next to them. The use of electronics and the ease of virtual communication have negatively impacted our ability to even want to have a personal conversation with the people we spend a lot of time with at work. Even with the ease of electronic communications, we close people out when our faces are buried in our mobile device checking emails or simply giving a head nod to someone while a cell phone is glued to our ears.

Ask yourself the question, “Do I know the name of my co-worker’s spouse?” The message isn’t to drop everything you are doing and become inefficient at work just to get to know someone’s spouse’s name, kids, or pets. The message is to take a couple of minutes, when it makes sense, to establish a relationship with the people you work with. In some cases, it may be to re-establish a relationship with someone at a different personal level. In addition to just making someone feel valued and appreciated, the personal aspect of the job has huge benefits to the professional side.

When I managed the hardest working people in any company, the front line people who worked directly with our customers, I learned to make it a point at the beginning of every day and at the end of every day to tap the chairs of the people I worked with to say hello and thank them for their efforts. I had seen a few very well respected, senior leaders do this for years. I started doing it myself because I wanted the perception of floor presence. I kept doing it because I learned so much about people just by asking about their weekends, the ball game, or the dance recital. It created new questions and discussions for other days. I liked to surprise people with a question about their sons or daughters, or ask about a sick relative. I didn’t realize how much I was getting out of it, and how the people I worked with appreciated it.

The most important part was the thank you I wanted to provide them for coming in that day to take care of our customers. It seems like Management 101, but I must have missed that day of class. However, if it is fundamental management, then why was I one of the few people doing it in the management ranks? I actually put it on my calendar to walk on the floor at certain periods of time. The appointment pop-up in the midst of a typically busy day was a constant reminder that my success was directly tied to the people doing the hard work. People often thanked me for investing the short amount of time to do this. This observation also did not go unnoticed by them. Stop and smell the roses, and find the value of a simple greeting.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

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Post from Transformation Tom: Dedicate Time Daily, Weekly and Monthly to Write Down Your Accomplishments—What Went Right?: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - April 24, 2018 - News
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Dedicate Time Daily, Weekly, and Monthly to Writing Down Your

AccomplishmentsWhat Went Right?

One of my daughters could be with friends at school having the best time. Yet, when asked, “How was it,” or, “How was your day?” she will sometimes start with all of the things that went wrong or tell us the things she did not get the chance to do when they were together. Beyond the guilt staring me in the face at the idea that some of my negativity and cynicism had rubbed off on her, I realized there was a different approach to steer the conversation down a more positive path. I found success when asking her different questions, such as, “What was your favorite part of the day?” My previous generic questions had allowed her to start the conversation with a sour taste. The more targeted question with the positive overtones maneuvered the conversation to a better place from the beginning. Many times, the conversation ended positively because so much time and energy was dedicated to telling me what went right.

I invest time on my thirty-minute commute home daily to ask myself what went right and what was the day’s biggest accomplishment? Success breeds success. I often document the successes when I get home. If an accomplishment is meaningful enough to write down, I will add it to my accomplishments folder or type it directly into my next performance appraisal self-assessment the next day.

I have time dedicated on my calendar monthly to organize my accomplishments. You can never be too busy to set aside time to pat yourself on the back every once in a while. I am not talking about hours of time. I am talking about a couple of minutes to write down a quick note, and then move on with your day. I’ve had many managers tell me how detailed my performance appraisals were. It comes across as a complete work that is often perceived to take hours of time, when in reality, it is a simple routine that is pure brain dumping based on my wins.

I have also heard many peers complain when it was time to complete their own performance appraisals because they couldn’t remember what they had accomplished, or didn’t know where they would find the time needed to put it all together. They always saw that the deadline was fast approaching, and the procrastination had already caught up. I simply proofread and edit my performance appraisal self-assessment prior to the deadline and send it on. You might surprise yourself with the amount of work you have accomplished in that short period of time that you may have previously forgotten. You also get the benefit of reminding yourself of the many things you have done right.

If you do have people working for you or with you, and you are part of the sit-down, performance appraisal discussion, here is the next logical move: conduct the same routine for others that you do for yourself. Invest that same amount of time in keeping ongoing notes of your team’s accomplishment for your input on their performance appraisals. Accomplishments for you and your people are often synonymous, due to the teamwork needed. The simple routine of maintaining detailed and noteworthy accomplishments and events gives you the chance to provide deserving people with the recognition they deserve. I have found that many of the details are forgotten by my team and are appreciated when they see that I didn’t forget. Additionally, you lose the stress at performance appraisal time of a looming deadline ahead, since you are well prepared. Dedicating a small amount of time on a regular basis to tell yourself and people you work with that they are good at what they do allows you to enjoy the fruits of your labor. You simply proofread, edit, and send it on its way in a timely fashion to the people who need to know “what went right.”

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby