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Post from Transformation Tom- Do Something With Book Recommendations: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - August 14, 2018 - News
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Do Something With Book Recommendations

I was stressed around the December holidays one year. My manager and I were not getting along well. We were having an especially difficult time communicating with each other. Still, the holidays are a time to reflect upon the previous year and to add hope for the coming year. I came back to my desk to find a small wrapped present from my boss. I opened it up and found the book, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, by Richard Carlson. We did not have to communicate directly to understand the message he was sending me.

We were not enjoying the work atmosphere because we were creating an up-tight environment ourselves. We were also spreading this throughout the work environment. The subtitle to that book is, “And it is all small stuff.” I got the point my manager was trying to say in a not-so-subtle way, and I really got hooked on what Dr. Carlson was trying to say. I received the book in 1997, and it has not left my desk since. I added a recurring calendar appointment to read a passage each day.

Reading a small passage everyday sets up my attitude with a fresh perspective and gives me the settling feeling I need to take on the business world. I am appreciative of the gift and the creative way my manager sought to provide me with the message he thought I needed. We still had our struggles and eventually found that we were both better off in other areas. However, my ability to tolerate my existing situation has improved with the enlightenment of the book.

Sometimes, a gift is just a gift. However, when it comes to book recommendations, especially obvious ones landing on your lap, it deserves to be read. Whether a book is a gift or someone says, “You ought to read this book…,” take notice and add it to your reading list.

Even if the message is not as obvious, you should take notice. You may be in a class and a book gets mentioned. Write it down and at least read the summary to pique your interest. Your world can be broadened and diversified. If you have a tendency to think one way or have a strong perspective on a subject, have a willingness to see the other side. Your openness to try to get a different perspective than your own will broaden your ability to be more diverse in your thoughts and beliefs.

You should also consider different genres, different styles, and mix between professional and personal reading. You do not have to load yourself up with 365 days of pure leadership and business self-help books. A few summers ago, I challenged myself to read War and Peace for the simple sake of saying I could do it. I had stared at the book on the shelf for so many years. Coincidently, I am friends with a couple who were also in the middle of reading it. I was excited to be able to share their thoughts when we got together. We had a great discussion for about the first half of the book. The second half may take a little longer since they decided not to finish it. I won’t give you my book review, but enjoyed the challenge of such a difficult and lengthy read. I tried to understand the complexity of the author’s attempt to weave in so many characters, and I tried to understand what had gone into making it a classic. I laughed when I had heard that the author was paid per word. I now understood, at least, a little behind the making of a classic.

I had a great manager who was also my sounding board after we went on to other positions. He is now a good friend and he referred a book to me that he was very excited about. My manager friend had such a cool head in the middle of a crisis. He always maintained a level head and provided feedback when you didn’t even realize it. He made the people around him feel these “aha” moments on their own—after a little prompting to encourage them to learn along with him, of course.

He was once described to me as having the ability to rip off your skin, and gently put it back on you. This so-called compliment of him was an accurate description because I was usually kicking myself after saying to myself, “How did I miss the obvious?” The book he recommended to me was It’s Called Work for a Reason: Your Success is Your Own Damn Fault, by Larry Winget. My manager friend was always teaching me about taking ownership. He encouraged me to put myself into situations I had always wanted to be in, but may not have been confident in my ability to do it. The book he recommended was not my natural style, but was a good lesson in learning how to read something from a different perspective. I finished the book, inspired to take on the world—with a little chuckle, of course.

Many people have referred leadership books to me over the years, with some being better than others. Without getting political, I really enjoyed Rudy Giuliani’s book Leadership. September 11 was hard hitting for the United States and much of the world. Whether we liked it or not, Rudy Giuliani was the leader when one of the more tragic historical events of the U.S. occurred. He had several key messages including “surround yourself with great people” and “weddings discretionary, funerals mandatory.” I enjoyed the cut-to-the-basics approach of his message.

If someone thinks enough of you to hand you, send you, or suggest a book, take advantage of it. You should be honored and humbled that someone thought of you when he or she picked it up. You should invest the time to read it and understand the connection that made it relevant to you. Your ability to like or dislike the book to some extent is irrelevant. The message someone is sending to you could be strong. The investment from you, and the possibility that you walk away learning something, is strong. Take advantage of the situation and read the book. Be aware: sometimes, there is not necessarily a connection to you and it is just a good book. There is nothing wrong with that, either.

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Post from Transformation Tom- Set an Example: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - August 6, 2018 - News
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Be the person you want others to be. This is easy to say but hard to do. Whether we like it or not, in the professional world we are constantly on stage in plain view of people around us. Whether it is the people we work with, work for, or customers we serve, we are always being observed and judged—in person, on the phone, or through written communications. We are constantly being viewed, whether face to face, in conference calls, video conference calls, or just walking down the hall.

Observers are making judgments constantly, and we are being labeled with an ongoing reputation, good or bad, every day. There is a laundry list of people with reputations in any office, and we have probably worked with them all at one point or other. In some cases, I know I’ve made my own uninformed observations and judgments of others.

Every company has one of the following: the complainer; the individual who refuses to work unless given A to Z instructions; the person who freezes under pressure; the one too good to associate with others; the one only in it for himself, and at least one overly competitive team member. The list can go on and on, but you get the point. Reputations and judgments can be made quickly and are tough to get rid of. There are traits and personalities that only add to the intensity of the reputations that bubble to the top. In any case, you are constantly being looked at and judged in the eyes of your peers and colleagues.

When our corporate culture was a little looser with expenses and entertainment, we had month-long events in one of our departments. We had contests and practical jokes, all in the supposed context of fun and employee satisfaction. Points could be accumulated as part of the team competition through practical jokes. The event culminated in a festive sports outing during which we went outside to release some tension and have some fun. I was constantly reminded by my manager that it was “supposed to” be fun. I say “supposed to” because over the years of this annual event, the practical jokes got more intense as teams tried to outdo each other. Besides the risk of injury, there was a higher likelihood of risk to reputations if you were a target. The atmosphere began to get a cliquish feel to it, like the days of junior high and high school. The leadership encouraged it. As a manager, I was told to play along.

I like to have fun as much as the next person, but felt the intensity was reaching a level that was pushing the line of professional boundaries. As soon as I had this feeling, I could have done something. There were several examples I could have set. I could have had a long conversation with the leaders who condoned this and clearly stated what was on my mind. I could have reacted better to the jokes that were being played on me. I could have realized nobody was getting hurt and subsequently could have made it more of a team effort.

There were times I felt that I was individually being targeted, which only exacerbated the issue, pushing the jokes to see how much further our competitors could get under my skin. I would come in as early as possible to rid my office of whatever was in it or done to it. In the month-long event, I had a reputation for overreacting to the practical jokes, and I inadvertently created a game in which the other teams would see how much they had to do to keep me from cleaning up their practical jokes before everyone came into work that day. This caused stress personally and created a divide in an event that was originally intended for the cohesion of the collective group. What kind of example was I setting?

I should have shown more maturity, gotten the right people involved, and set the example. I could have gathered the opinions of the team and determined how they wanted to handle the entire event. If we had talked through it, we may have even found that no one wanted to do any of it, but felt the peer pressure to keep it going. I had the opportunity to set the right example but never chose to take it.

Unfortunately, some of the events brought Human Resources into the picture that forced a long conversation with me. I had a chance to state all of my points. It was not easy or comfortable. However, it felt right. I wish I had set the example and not waited for HR to intervene. Although I moved on to another area the next year, the event was significantly toned down, and the pressure to find the next great practical joke was gone. Instead, it was back to good old-fashioned office fun, with competitions and food. By the way, you can never go wrong in making people happy with food.

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Post from Transformation Tom- Show Compassion: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - July 30, 2018 - News
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Show Compassion

In over twenty-five years of working in the corporate world, I have only called out sick two or three times. Early in my career in managing people, I would often comment on why the same people were always on the verge of being placed on corrective action for tardiness or illness. Each time someone called out, I had a cynical response assuming that there was some lack of truth behind why they called out.

I only thought in terms of what stage of life I was in at the time. Prior to being married and having kids, I didn’t understand why people couldn’t make arrangements to have someone else watch their children. When I got married, I was lucky enough to have a wife who stayed home and dedicated herself to raising our family. Why couldn’t their spouse take care of their children? I still had a one-sided view. When my kids were born, I was back to work in a week while other fathers were looking for twelve weeks. When I worked forty-five hours, fifty hours, and sixty hours per week, I didn’t understand why people couldn’t commit themselves to those same hours. I didn’t get it. I lacked the compassion and understanding of what others might be going through.

As part of my progress towards transformation, I began to have ‘personal’ meetings with my managers. I would periodically set up time and just talk about their families, interests, and hobbies. During these meetings, although it started off very hard for me, I refused to discuss business. I began to learn what motivated people and made them tick. I began to understand the passion people had for things outside of work. At the time, my passion was work. My passion, loyalty, and commitment to my company was the same passion, loyalty, and commitment many people had for their families, hobbies, and other things outside of work. I was beginning to understand.

I ran into someone I used to work with about five years earlier. He had moved to another state. He was still with the company and was visiting our office. We talked about the years when we had put in mind-numbing hours of overtime. I asked him if anyone even remembered that we had put in those hours. We both laughed because we knew the answer was no, and realized that much of it at the time was for non-productive show. The funny thing was that many of the leaders we were so emphatic about impressing were no longer even with the company. What we did remember was the fun we had, the people we touched, and the relationships we built—in simple terms, the things we should care about. When compassion is clear, the job will find a way to get done.

I think it sunk in when I sent an email to one of my direct reports. She was not in the office when one of her people called in sick, so I took the call. My previous cynical side of me would have questioned it. After I hung up, in the past, I’m sure I would have made up in my head the “real” story about why she had called out. Instead, I sent a short and simple email to her manager that read, “Penny’s horse died. I finally understand.”

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

 

Post from Transformation Tom- Control What You Can Control (You Have More Control Than You Think): Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - July 22, 2018 - News
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Control What You Can Control (You Have More Control Than You Think)

You should stop and ask yourself what you truly have control over. You may find yourself starting down a path of those things you can’t control, such as the weather and the stock market (at least not by yourself). You also can’t control whether or not other people talk about you, so you might as well give them something good to talk about. If you are part of a large organization, you can’t always control something happening in other parts of the company where you don’t have oversight. All of these uncontrollable factors may impact your satisfaction level, your frustration level, and your ability to make a difference. You need to trust that your teammates will get the pieces of their job done and be a good partner who will be there to assist when the need does arise.

You should focus on your own little world and the sphere of control you do have. Start with just thinking of you. You have control over your attitude, whether you take action, whether you speak up, and whether you want to offer your ideas. You may not be able to control the root cause of your stress and frustration, but you can control how you deal with that root cause.

There are plenty of factors to consider regarding what you do have control over. What is your patience level? What is your acceptance level that you can and will have an impact on the bigger picture? Are you open and willing to put yourself out there when you are not in your comfort zone? What is your acceptance to learning from your mistakes? How willing are you to put in the effort to transform yourself into someone in a better position to impact the things you can control?

I worked for a company in which people were very loyal and were leaders in the industry. As a whole, we were confident and convinced that nobody could run this type of business as well as we could. When the company was bought, it was devastating. Although the buyout saved us from ruin, we still had people walking around saying, “Who bought who?” There was a population of employees convinced that they were better than everyone, though this was just one reaction among many. Some people froze in fear of losing their jobs, while others took a more proactive approach by dusting off their résumés. I personally called a relative who worked for our new company. Her company had been acquired a few years earlier. Her advice was to control what I could control. She even mentioned that with a company this large, I might actually find more opportunities to thrive with a decent attitude. It seemed counterintuitive at the time, but she was right.

How could my small voice control anything in a company so large and that seemed constantly in flux? I began by trying to understand the new company mission and culture. Although this seems basic, the old company had an extremely strong culture. Instead of bringing the best of both worlds together, some people refused to accept the new culture and outwardly spoke against it, and even made fun of it. This type of reaction can cause conflict and limit what is within your own control. I made an effort to embrace the new culture and openly speak about the opportunities in front of us. After a while, if there was still negativity, I took control by avoiding any unnecessary interaction with the cynics.

It was possible to bring over pieces of the old culture that worked, but only after we accepted the new culture and were open enough to adapt. I saw many people leave the company. Some left on their own, while others were caught up in redundant positions and asked to leave. This was not easy to watch. However, many were left in a state of shock and felt as though they lacked control over their destiny. The unknown and unpredictability were scary, and we truly did not know where we would all land. However, we could control the small sphere around us. We could control our effort, or ability to assert ourselves within the new company culture, and keep the best pieces of our business moving forward.

I came to the realization that the old company would not have survived without the acquisition. Although I, too, was loyal and knew we did many things right, I believe I adapted to the new company culture sooner than many others. There were many people from my past in the old company who I felt had held me back or had not given me an objective chance to succeed (perceived or real). Many of these individuals were no longer with the company, either by their own choice or through the new company direction. What did I have to lose? While some others were waiting for instructions, I found myself jumping in with both feet. I decided that I would give it a try and move on if I didn’t like it.

The openness to adapt was a boost in my own confidence because I knew that it was one of the things I could control. I started to enjoy it and stopped thinking about what negative things could potentially happen to me. I started thinking instead about the opportunities I could make for myself. I was controlling my attitude. I was having fun being in this unknown, non-prescribed new world. I was controlling my actions. I had new people listening to my ideas and opinions. I was starting to enjoy this clean slate, and felt like I was making a name for myself more than I had in the previous sixteen years. As the full transition and buy-out was completed, I still saw people holding back and waiting for the next move to be made for them. Almost four years later, I still had conversations with people from the old organization who were still clinging to old habits and laughing at the new company culture. It was almost sad to watch because it was predictable that their success had reached its peak. My message wasn’t about full conformance; it was about belief in a new company that we now all worked for together. Hanging on to the old was not controlling what they could control. It would only hold them back.

I remember a conversation with an executive from the old company with whom I had worked on and off for many years. He commented on how he planned to stay low and do just enough to get by. His premise was that it was easy to get lost in a company that large and he could just hold on tight. I felt as if he had lost control of many things he could influence. He minimized his ability to control his attitude, his ability to lead, and his ability to make a difference. Several years later, he maintained this attitude, and he was let go. That was unfortunate. In the midst of what could have been a disastrous buyout of my old company and my potential long-term career, I found confidence and success because I took control of the things I could control.

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

 

 

Post from Transformation Tom- Write Down Your Goals…in Pencil: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - July 15, 2018 - News
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Pencil

I have heard on more than one occasion that an extremely small number of people have specific written goals—as low as five percent.  As another way to differentiate yourself, be among the five percent to lay out your path for success on paper. Whether it is personal, professional, academic, health, or any other aspects of your life, you should write out your goals.

The likelihood of you taking the appropriate actions to achieve the goals goes up exponentially when you have them written. The goals should be specific so you know if and when they have been accomplished. Each goal needs to also be aggressive or it is not worth shooting for. The aggressive goal, however, should not be so far out of reach that it is not attainable. You should set progressive goals so you can see the small wins piling up. You need to understand that you may not achieve one-hundred percent of them—at least on the first try. The idea that you can go back to achieve a missed goal may refine the quality and outcome of what you are trying to accomplish. The fact that they are written allows you to see your progress and creates action plans to attain them.

If you achieve your goals, you should build on those successes and set more goals. These goals should be expandable for future steps. For example, I wanted to progress up through all of the phone positions in my line of business, and then move on to the somewhat natural progression of assistant manager, manager, and beyond. The goal of what I wanted to accomplish was set.

In addition, I set timelines for when I wanted to achieve them. The timeline has always been the hardest part for me. I have always wanted to get to each of the next steps as quickly as possible. There were many hurdles that delayed my ability to achieve my goals and I missed many of my expected timelines.

When establishing timelines, you need to account for potential roadblocks. Not everything will be clearly laid out for you. As previously stated, there were the two times in my career when I was asked to move in the other direction, to lower roles, because leadership didn’t feel I was effective or prepared for the additional responsibilities. There were also the times I felt ready to move up but did not interview well. Regardless of the reasons, I needed to reset my goals.

Resetting the goals means many things. It might mean resetting the timeline to the same goal and staying on course. Resetting the goal may mean adjusting the goal metric itself to move in a different direction. This is not always the easiest thing to do, since you may be unfamiliar with the road you are looking down. As stated earlier, pull back on the aggressive timeframes, scale, or intensity of your goals, and set the goals in smaller increments. Again, the increments should be realistic and challenging. The key message is to write down your goals and know they will evolve. Goal setting should be dynamic and fluid. More than twenty years after leaving college as a communication major, I had no idea I would have gone through so many aspects of the financial industry. When you write out your goals, I would suggest using a pencil.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

 

 

 

Post from Transformation Tom- Have Multiple and Diverse Role Models: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - July 10, 2018 - News
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Have Multiple and Diverse Role Models

We work with many people who set the right example. They may not be perfect but there is something about them we want to emulate. Take a careful look at them and see what styles and skills may work for you. Seek out the great things they have that you can grab hold of and add to your own abilities.

When it comes to role models, we sometimes think in singular terms. We pick out the one person we want to be most like and sometimes try to emulate them. This narrows down our own potential and might pigeonhole what we are trying to accomplish. Seek out multiple role models who have a wide variety of skills. A diverse set of role models will open more possibilities for adoption into your own routine and expand your proficiency. As stated in an earlier passage, you want to maintain your own uniqueness and it is important to maintain your differentiating factors. We don’t want you looking to be a clone or a wannabe, but we would be leaving an opportunity on the table if we didn’t become keen observers to role models around us. We can always find best practices to share and pick up good habits and styles that work for us.

A role model differs from a mentor because there is typically less interaction—or the opposite, constant interaction because you work closely with them. Whether you are monitoring them from up close or afar, you should take note of what makes them successful.

My first real taste in a role model was a peer of mine named John. John was the person who swapped jobs with me when I was told I needed to do something different after my first managerial stint. John was the computer programmer who was looking for a change. I was the manager not cutting it in the eyes of the leadership. Apparently, the timing was perfect. I disliked John for a variety of reasons. First, he was right next door and I saw every move he made. Second, he was a nice guy and people seemed to be having fun and working harder for him than they had for me. I realized my distaste was actually jealousy. I began to watch him from next door with a new lens and began to learn what I had done wrong when I had overseen the team.

Many of the things he was doing to earn the respect of the people came down to managing the details. He was spending individual time with the people and maximizing his floor presence. He was practicing what I now see as fundamental in people management, but was too close—or too inexperienced—to practice it when I first started managing. I was learning to study John in action, and it was fascinating. I began to understand that he was an unintentional role model who was teaching me. Watching his success early on was hard for me. As the years went on, I started to do what I had seen him do and began to see my own similar success. I began to make sure that I included this story in all of my mentoring sessions and leadership teaching sessions.

I have since targeted other role models based on my specific needs. The person who first called me a cynic has taught me about accountability, ownership, and leadership. At a social gathering, my wife asked him what he liked about his job. His response was simple and concise. He said, “I like being accountable. I like making decisions.” He is a true leader who understands that people depend on his direction and his ability to make decisions, and then act on them. He is also a fantastic leader and communicator who can rally a group of people to go on any difficult mission together. In the worst of times, people turn to him for a clear and motivational message that leaves no question as to which way they should go.

I have a good friend who I met early in my career. He taught me how to be selfless and giving. Additionally, he was the person who looked past all of the negative perceptions others had of me. He took a chance on me when I was young and inexperienced. He took an active approach to listening to my ideas and wanted to know my opinions to make the business better. He trusted me and respected me, even when I still felt people were out to get me. He gave me a sense of confidence that I truly could be a leader.

There are countless other role models who have taught me the value of technical job knowledge and being an industry leader in certain banking fields. There are other leaders who have taught me the value of being straightforward and speaking from the heart. There are still others who inspire me and give me confidence just by watching them.

There is also a small pocket of people you observe, and say to yourself, “I don’t want to be like them.” This group of people may be just as valuable for your own growth. When I was struggling in a trial position leading a group of managers, I could not seem to communicate well with my boss. I believe this was due to the fear factor he instilled in me. He attempted to drive my performance by yelling and screaming at me in the hopes that this fear would make me do things better. If he had just understood my wants, needs, and expectations, he would have figured out that I would work hard and do the job anyway. He could have put his efforts and wasted energy elsewhere to make the team better.

Instead, there was constant pressure put on me. His favorite routine, or game, seemed to happen every Friday afternoon around five o’clock P.M. He would call me to come see him in his office. Apparently, after a very long week, he wanted to ensure that I had a miserable weekend of fuming over his last instructions or put downs regarding what I hadn’t accomplished during the week. I vowed I would never be like him. He became my role model antithesis.

Another role model I worked for was bright and he knew how to dig deep into a business to reduce expenses and increase profits. He also lacked people skills and held on to original opinions for a long time. Once he formulated an opinion of you it was virtually permanent. As I learned the basics of running larger operations from him, I still struggled early in my career in grasping the people-management skills. He was not afraid to make me aware of this shortcoming. The irony was that he could observe poor people skills, but didn’t ever see them in himself. When I finally got out from under his management and saw some success managing others, he refused to see any of my growth or acknowledge any of my recent accomplishments. I had an interview with him about five years later for a job overseeing a fairly large unit. He only continued to bring up my failures from those days when I had been inexperienced and directly working for him. He said (paraphrased), “It sounds like you have done some good things, but I can’t get past the time when you…” He must have mentioned my past on at least three occasions. In the middle of the interview he said he was hungry and wanted to go to the café to grab a sandwich. I had to have a walking interview while he took care of himself. He lacked the ability to have an open mind or change judgments of me, and still had no self-awareness or was just pompous. After he refused to give me the job in his area, I vowed to never be like that. He was the perfect negative role model. I knew I had to begin to withhold my personal judgments of others, see other people’s growth, and be willing to give people second chances.

We have an advantage of seeing what goes on around us each day. Use these observations as a tool for your own development. Watch the people around you with a critical eye, and become aware of the diverse and sheer number of role models surrounding you. They will teach you a lot about who you are and who you can be. In some cases, you will acknowledge characteristics from people you want to emulate, and in other cases, find the characteristics you want to avoid. Be on the lookout for your next teaching moment—your role model may be right there in front of you.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

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Upcoming and Recent Events (Book Signings, Speaking, Training, Coaching, and Media Appearances)

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Upcoming Events

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Thomas B. Dowd III’s books:

– Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success

– The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

– Time Management Manifesto:  Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance 

Displacement Day:  When My Job was Looking for a Job (2014 Paris Book Festival and 2014 New York Book Festival Honorable Mention)

– The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World (Honorable Mention at the 2012 New England Book Festival)

– From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide (2013 Axiom Business Book Awards Gold Medal Winner and 2013 Paris Book Festival Honorable Mention).  Audiobook version of “From Fear to Success” is also available!

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book, eBook, and audiobook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

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Upcoming Speaking, Training, Coaching, and Book Signing Events (all times Eastern Time Zone):

• August 20, 2018   Time: 7:00am – 8:00am 

Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

• August 21, 2018   Time: 3:30pm – 4:30pm 

Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

• September 19, 2018   Time: 8:15am – 9:15am 

91st Annual Maine Safety & Health Conference

Augusta Civic Center, Augusta, Maine

• November 2, 2018   Time: 8:30am – 3:30am 

Practical Public Speaking for Business

University of Maine- Hutchinson Center, Belfast, Maine

• October 1-12, 2019   Time: 9:00am – 3:00pm POSTPONED UNTIL OCTOBER 2019

Bebee Healthcare

Heritage Shores, 34 Royal View Drive, Bridgeville, DE 19933

“Resurrecting Resilience” keynote, MC event

 

Past Events: 

6/27/18        Toastmasters Leadership Institute (TLI)- “Here Comes the Judge”

Texas Instruments, Portland, Maine

6/13/18        Individual Coaching- resume

6/12/18        Individual Coaching- resume

6/12/18        Individual Coaching- resume

5/27/18       Toastmasters District 45 Table Topics Finals (First Place)

5/26/18       Toastmasters District 45 International Speech Finals (Second Place)

5/24/18       “Change Your Story”

Tri-City Toastmasters (Portsmouth, Maine)

5/23/18       “Change Your Story”

Portland Harborside (Portland, Maine)

5/23/18        “Change Your Story”

Running Hill Toastmasters (Scarborough, Maine)

5/22/18         “Change Your Story”

L-A Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

5/21/18           “Change Your Story”

Greater Portland (Portland, ME)

5/17/18            “Change Your Story”

Portsmouth Toastmasters (Portsmouth, NH)

5/16/18             “Change Your Story”

MDI Toastmasters (MDI, Maine)

5/15/18              “Change Your Story”

Ad-libs Toastmasters (Portsmouth, NH)

5/8/18              “Change Your Story”

KVTM (Augusta, Maine)

5/4/18               Individual Coaching- resume

5/1/18               “Change Your Story”

Camden (Maine) Rotary, Camden, Maine

4/4/18               Division B-level International and Table Topics Speech Contest, Waterville, Maine (won both)

4/30/18             Individual Coaching- resume

4/26/18             “Change Your Story”

Ecotoasters, Augusta, Maine

4/25/18              “Change Your Story”

TD L-A Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

4/24/18             “Change Your Story”

Carbonite Droid Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

4/24/18             “Change Your Story”

L-A Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

4/17/18               “Change Your Story”

Brunswick Toastmasters

4/12/18               Individual Coaching- resume, LinkedIn

4/10/18              Area 14-level International and Table Topics Speech Contest, Augusta, Maine (won both)

4/9/18                “Change Your Story”

Rockland (Maine) Kiwanis,

Chamber of Commerce, Park St, Rockland, Maine

4/6/18               “Change Your Story”

Dexter Sunrise Kiwanis, Knights of Columbus Hall, North Dexter Rd., Dexter, Maine

4/3/18                “Change Your Story”

Winthrop Rotary, 117 Bowdoin St, Winthrop, Maine

4/2/18                Individual Coaching- resume

3/28/18            “Change Your Story”

Ecotoasters (Augusta, Maine)

3/27/18             “Change Your Story”

KVTM Club-level International and Table Topics Speech Contest, Augusta, Maine (First Place, both contests)

3/27/18              “Change Your Story”

Augusta (Maine) Rotary, Cohen Community Center, Hollowell, Maine

Individual Coaching- Interviewing

3/21/18                “Change Your Story”

Wayfair Furniture, Brunswick, Toastmasters Demo Meeting, Brunswick, Maine

3/20/18                “Change Your Story”

University of Rockland (URock)- Public Speaking Class, Rockland, Maine

3/6/18                 “Change Your Story”

Camden (Maine) Lions, Camden, Maine

3/5/18                 Individual Coaching- resume

2/19/18               Individual Coaching- resume

2/19/18               Individual Coaching- professional development coaching

2/10-2/11/18     U.S. National Toboggan Championships

Camden Snow Bowl, Camden, Maine

Honored to be the “Voice of the Toboggan Championships” since 2009

2/5/18          Individual Coaching- resume update

2/2/18            Midcoast Leadership Academy

Penbay Hospital (Physician’s Building downstairs), Rockport Maine

“Resurrecting Resilience” keynote

1/30/18          Individual Coaching- resume update

1/10/18           The Havard Club of Boston

374 Commonwealth Ave, Boston MA

“Resurrecting Resilience” keynote

12/20/17         Individual coaching- career advice

12/13/17          Amoskeag Better Communicators (Toastmasters)- “Turn the Page”, Manchester, NH

12/7/18           Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

12/5/17            Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/16/17           Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/13/17           Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/8/17             Individual Coaching- resume

11/6/17             Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/4/17             District 45 Fall Conference- Resurrecting Resilience

10/16/17          Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

10/12/17           EcoToasters

Augusta Maine

“Resurrecting Resilience”

10/13/17          Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

10/3/17            Brunswick Toastmasters

8 Venture Ave, Brunswick (old Brunswick Naval Air Station)

“Resurrecting Resilience”

10/4/17           Bangor Toastmasters

417 Main St Bangor Maine

“Resurrecting Resilience”

9/28/17          Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/26/17          Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/25/17          Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/20/17          Individual Coaching- resume

9/18/17          Individual Coaching- resume

9/7/17            Individual Coaching – resume

9/5/17            Individual Coaching – resume

9/1/17-9/3/17  Master of Ceremonies (Saturday and Sunday)

Camden Windjammer Festival

https://www.camdenwindjammerfestival.org/

8/28/17         Individual Coaching – Interviewing

8/28/17          Individual Coaching – Networking

8/21/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/21/17           Individual Coaching – resume

8/18/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/16/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/14/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/2/17             Individual Coaching – Networking

7/24/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

7/17/17            Individual Coaching – Networking

6/7/17              Individual Coaching- Networking

6/2/17             Individual coaching- interviewing

5/26/17           Individual Coaching- resume

5/25/17           MC Sculpture Race at Camden-Rockport Middle School

5/24/17           Individual Coaching- resume

5/20/17          District 45 International Speech Competition, Sunday River, Maine

5/19/17           Criterium Engineers, Portland, Maine: Portland Regency Hotel, Portland Maine

Generational Differences- Millennials

5/17/17           MDI Toastmasters, Hulls Cove, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/16/17          Brunswick Toastmasters, Brunswick, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep5/11/17

5/15/17          Individual coaching- resume

5/11/17           Tri-City Toastmasters, Dover, NH

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/10/17            Portland Harborside Toastmasters, Portland, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/9/17              KVTM, Augusta, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/6/17              Division B (Maine/pasts NH) Toastmasters International Speech Competition (winner)

5/5/17              Mid-Coast Leadership Academy, Location TBD

Generational Differences- Millennials

4/27/17            EcoToasters, Lewiston, Maine

Public Speaking

4/27/17            LA TD Toastmasters, Lewiston, Maine

Public Speaking

4/25/17            Individual Coaching- professional development

4/24/17            Individual Coaching- professional development

4/24/17            Individual Coaching- professional development

4/21/17             Rockland Kiwanis, Lighthouse Museum/ Chamber Office, Rockland, Maine

Public Speaking

4/20/17              Individual Coaching- professional development

4/13/17               Individual Coaching- professional development

4/11/17                Individual Coaching- professional development

4/7/17                  Individual Coaching- professional development

4/6/17                  Individual Coaching- professional development

4/4/17                  Winthrop Rotary, American Legion Post 40, 117 Bowdoin Street Winthrop, Maine

Public Speaking

4/2/17                  Individual Coaching- reume writing

3/31/17                Dexter Kiwanis Club- Public Speaking

Knights of Columbus Hall

16 Crockett Rd, Dexter, Maine

3/21/17                Public Speaking Discussion, Coastmasters Toastmasters

Camden, Maine

3/21/17              Camden Lions Club, Camden Maine

Public Speaking

3/16/17              Individual Coaching- Public Speaking

3/15/17              Public Speaking Discussion, Bangor Toastmasters

Camden, Maine

3/14/17              Individual Coaching- resume

3/13/13              It’s Not Bragging if it’s a Fact–Improve Interviewing Skills

Wilmington Memorial Library

175 Middlesex Ave, Wilmington, MA 01887

3/12/17              Public Address Announcer

Cardboard Box Derby, Camden Snow Bowl, Camden, Maine

3/10/17             Individual Coaching- resume

3/7/17               University of Rockland, Rockland Maine

Public Speaking

3/6/17              Individual Coaching- resume

3/5/17              Individual Coaching- resume

3/5/17              Individual Coaching- resume

2/28/17           Camden Rotary Club, Camden Maine

Public Speaking

2/27/17            Individual Coaching- interviewing, networking

2/23/17            Individual Coaching- resume

2/22/17             Rockland Rotary, Elks Club Rankin St Rockland Maine

Public Speaking

2/23/17            Individual Coaching- resume

2/20/17            Individual Coaching- interviewing, networking

2/15/17              Rockland Rotary- public speaking

2/10-12/17        U.S. National Toboggan Championships

Public Address Announcer

2/7/17               Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/1/17               The Chris Wolf Show

https://www.mainecoast.tv/category/chris-wolf-show/

1/31/17             Augusta Rotary Club, Augusta Maine

Public Speaking

1/30/17             Individual Coaching- public speaking

1/271/7             Individual Coaching- career strategies

1/23/17             Individual Coaching- public speaking

1/20/17             Individual Coaching- career strategies

1/17/17             “Practical Public Speaking for Business”, Falmouth Maine

Financial Institution

1/16/17             Individual Coaching- resume

1/13/17             Individual Coaching-interviewing

1/12/17             Managing Multiple Generations in the Workplace

Mid-Maine Chamber of Commerce -2017 Business Breakfast

1/9/17              “Practical Public Speaking for Business”, Mt. Laurel, NJ

Financial Institution

1/7/17               Individual Coaching- job search strategies

1/5/17               Individual Coaching- job search strategies

1/3/17               Individual Coaching- job search strategies

12/26/16          Individual Coaching- Resume

12/19/16          Individual Coaching- Resume

12/18/16          Individual Coaching- Resume

12/14/16           Individual Coaching- Resume

11/23/16           Podcast Interview with Engel Jones- world record attempt: 1509 radio conversations

11/23/16           Professional Radio Network Interview

11/8/16             Coaching Session- Resume

11/3/16              Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Caroline Dowd-Higgins

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/1/16              Coaching Session- Networking

 

10/15/16           District 45 Division B Humorous Speech (2nd Place) and Evaluation Speech (Winner) Contest Finals

10/6/16             Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Sheila Kelley

https://ow.ly/CZX35

10/5/16               Individual coaching- resume

9/26/16              Individual coaching- career development (PM)

9/26/16              Individual coaching- career development (AM)

9/27/16               Area 14 Humorous Speech Contest and Speech Evaluation Contest, Lewiston, ME

9/20/16              TD Legendary Leaders Humorous Speech Contest and Speech Evaluation Contest, Falmouth, ME

9/15/16                Managing Multiple Generations in the Workplace with HR Association Greater Concord (NH)

9/13/16                KVTM Humorous Speech Contest and Speech Evaluation Contest, Augusta, ME

9/13/16                Winthrop Rotary Club- Public Speaking Discussion

American Legion Post 40, 117 Bowdoin Street. Winthrop ME

9/12/16                Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Tom Meyers

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/12/16                 Individual coaching- career development

9/12/16                 Individual coaching- career development

9/8/16                  Public Speaking Discussion, Coastmasters Toastmasters Club, Camden, ME

9/7/16                   Public Speaking Discussion, Bangor Toastmasters Club, Beal College, Bangor, ME

 

9/5/16                   Individual coaching- resume writing

9/1/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bob Whipple

https://ow.ly/CZX35

8/29/26                Individual coaching- resume

8/29/16                 Individual coaching- career development

 

8/30/16                 Individual coaching- resume

8/29/16                 Individual coaching- career development

8/22/16                 Individual coaching- resume

8/18/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Neil Ihde

https://ow.ly/CZX35

8/17/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/16/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/15/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/12/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/10/16                  Flawless Virtual Presentations

Conference Call Financial Institution

8/3/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest David Riemer

https://ow.ly/CZX35

7/21/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Barbara Lee

https://ow.ly/CZX35

7/8/16                    Individual Coaching- resume

7/5/16                    Individual Coaching- resume

6/24/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

6/23/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

6/17/16                  Individual Career Coaching

6/16/16                 The Successful Author Podcast with Julie Anne Eason

6/16/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest David Balch

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/15/16                  Individual Career Coaching

6/2/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Helene Segura

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/1/16                     Individual Coaching, Interviewing

5/25/16                   Merck- Interaction and Engagement Effectiveness

Portsmouth Harbor Events & Conference Center, Spinnaker Room

5/20/16                  Maine State Library – offsite facilitation

Location: Portland Public Library, Portland Maine

5/16/16                   Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

5/19/16                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Janet Edmunson

5/15/16                   Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

5/11/16                   Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

5/5/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bob Whipple

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/2/16                     Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

 

4/30/16                 Book Signing Sherman’s Books, Camden ME

4/29/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/21/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Randy Fox

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/19/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/18/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/14/16                  Managing Multiple Generations in the Workplace

Conference Call Financial Institution

4/11/16                   Guest speaker Rockland Kiwanis

Samoset Resort, Rockland, ME

4/11/16                   Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/8/16                    Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/7/16                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Monal Pathak

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/7/16                     Guest appearance HR Power Hour with David Ciullo

4/5/16                     Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/5/16                     Guest speaker Augusta Rotary

Senator Inn Augusta, ME

4/4/16                     Guest speaker UROCK (University of Rockland), public speaking class

Rockland, ME

4/1/16                    Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/31/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/31/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/29/16                 Guest appearance on Fred Simkovsky radio show

3/23/16                 Resume Writing: Make Your Story Come Alive

Westford Job Seekers, J.V. Fletcher Library

50 Main Street Westford, MA 01886

3/22/16                 Guest speaker at Coastmasters Toastmasters       Camden, Maine

3/20/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/17/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bryce Kuhlman

https://ow.ly/CZX35

3/14/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/13/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing (3pm)

3/13/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing (5pm)

3/10/16                Speaking to Thomas College Public Speaking Classes, Waterville, Maine

3/9/16                  Radio Guest January Jones- Sharing Success Stories

3/8/16                  Guest speaker Winthrop Rotary

Winthrop Legion Hall, 40 Bowdoin St. Winthrop, Maine

3/7/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/6/16                  Cardboard Box Derby, Camden Snow Bowl-announcer

3/3/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Tom Reaoch

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/29/16                “Your Working Life” Podcast with Caroline Higgins Dowd

2/24/16                 Transformation Discussion- Virtual meeting with Financial Institution leaders

2/24/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/23/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/20/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/18/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Jeffrey Hayzlett

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/16/16                  Guest Speaker Camden (Maine) Lions Club

Camden, Maine

2/13/16                   Book Reading: “The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood”

Our Lady of Good Hope  Camden, Maine (cancelled)

2/12/16                  Individual Coaching- Book Marketing

2/8/16                    Make Your Connections Work for You- Networking Skills

Financial organization Mt. Laurel, NJ

2/5-2/6/16           US National Toboggan Championships

Snow Bowl, Camden, Maine

Event Announcer

2/4/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Al Raymond

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/3/16                    Let’s Just Talk radio with Katherine Raaker

Home

2/3/16                    Chris Wolf Show    MaineCoast.tv

1/27/16                   US National Toboggan Championship Panel Discussion

Rockport (Maine), Rockport Library

1/21/16                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Michelle Chung

https://ow.ly/CZX35

1/19/16                   Understanding Generational Differences in the Workplace

Falmouth, Maine

1/12/16                   VStv Interview- discussing US National Toboggan Championships

1/11/16                   Individual Coaching- resume

1/8/16                    Individual Coaching- resume

1/7/16                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Donna Serdula

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/31/15                Individual Coaching- resume

12/28/15                Individual Coaching- resume

12/18/15                 Book signing- Portland Jetport, Portland Maine

12/17/15                 Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Oscar Santolalla

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/14/15                  Individual Coaching- resume

12/12/15                  Book Signing, Sherman’s Maine Books & Stationery, Camden Maine

12/3/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Chris Dyer

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/2/15                    Interviewing: It’s Not Bragging If It’s a Fact

Westford Job Seekers, J.V. Fletcher Library

50 Main Street Westford, MA 01886

11/19/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Diane Williams

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/16/15                 Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/13/15                 Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/12/15                 Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/11/15                 Time Management- Baker Newman Noyes CPA (BNNCPA)- Cancelled

Portsmouth Sheraton, Portsmouth NH

11/11/15                  Podcast Interview Business Innovators Magazine

11/11/15                  Individual Coaching session- LinkedIn, Networking

11/9/15                   Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/8/15                   District 45 Speech Evaluation Contest Finalist (winner)

11/7/15                   District 45 Humorous Speech Contest Finalist

11/5/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Brian Campkin

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/4/15                   Communicating Up, Down, and Around- Conference Call with a Financial Institution

10/27/15                Guest appearance on TalentTalk Radio Show with Chris Dyer

10/19/15                 Individual coaching- resume writing

10/17/15                 Division B (State of ME and parts of NH) Humorous Speech and Speech Evaluation Contest Finals

10/15/15                 Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio- Time Management Manifesto

https://ow.ly/CZX35

10/13/15                 Individual coaching- resume writing

10/6/15                  Resume Writing- Women in Leadership group

Falmouth Maine

10/2/15                   Command and Influence: Effective Communication

Falmouth, ME

10/1/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Alfred Manganiello

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/30/15                   Command and Influence: Effective Communication

Mt. Laurel, NJ

9/17/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Dorie Clark

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/11/15                   Individual coaching- resume writing

9/9/15                    Individual coaching- resume writing (2 different clients)

9/3/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Jen Blood

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/1/15                     Resume Writing- Women in Leadership group

Falmouth Maine

 

8/25/15                  Resume Writing- Women in Leadership group

Falmouth Maine

8/20/15                 Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Mike Matteo

https://ow.ly/CZX35

8/19/15                 Time to Shine Podcast – Public Speaking with Oscar Santolalla

https://www.timetoshinepodcast.com/

8/13/15                 MaineHealth “Practical Public Speaking” for Trainers, Falmouth Maine

8/12/15                 Individual Coaching- Resume Writing

8/10/15                 Individual Coaching- Resume Writing (2 clients)

8/6/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Erin Dymowski (Sisterhood of the Sensible Moms)

https://ow.ly/CZX35

7/31/15                  Individual Coaching- Resume Writing

7/27/15                  Time Management Training

Conference Call

7/16/15                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Judy Robinette

7/7/15                    Resume writing coaching session

7/6/15                    Guest on CBS Radio with Shep Hyken

7/2/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Sharon Mast

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/15/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guests Henry Chamberlin and Bennet Geis

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/10/15                   Radio guest on Destiny Moments with Angel Murchison

https://angelmurchisondestinymoments.blogspot.com/

6/4/15                      Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with the authors of “The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood”

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/31/15                   Maine Authors Publishing- “The Art of a Good Book Reading”

Sebasco Harbor Resort, Sebasco Estates
29 Kenyon Rd Sebasco Estates, ME, 04565

5/23/15                   Book signing Shermans Bookstore, Camden ME

5/21/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bob Weinstein

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/21/15                   Podcast Interview with David Wissore on Fatherhood360

www.fatherhood360.com

5/20/15                 Facilitator- all day session with Maine Librarians

Point Lookout, North Port Maine

5/16/15                  Toastmasters District 45 (ME, NH, VT, 3 Eastern Provinces of Canada) Manchester, NH

Training Session:  “Manage Your Time, Don’t Let It Manage You”

5/14/15                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Mike Storkey

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/7/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Dr. Fay Butler

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/5/15                    Taping VSTV “Soup du Jour” show with Nancy Nickerson

https://www.vstv.me/soupdujour.html

5/4/15                    Individual Coaching Resume Writing

5/8/15                    TV Interview Helen Fu westfordcat.org

5/9/15                    Toastmasters District 31 (Eastern MA, RI), Mansfield, MA

Afternoon Training Session:  “Manage Your Time, Don’t Let It Manage You”

5/9/15                     Toastmasters District 31 (Eastern MA, RI), Mansfield, MA

Keynote address:  “Transformation Time with Transformation Tom:  A Journey of Self-awareness, Belief, and Action”

4/24/15                   Radio Guest on “Better Business Builders Show with James Nemley” discussing “Fatherhood”

4/16/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Josh Coburn

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/10/15                   Discussion with 10:00am and 11:00am Public-speaking Classes at Thomas College

4/2/15                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Marc Demetriou

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/1/15                      Radio Guest on “Better Business Builders Show with James Nemley” discussing Time Management

3/26/15                   The Successful Author Podcast with Julie Anne Eason

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/successful-author-podcast/id948069222?mt=2

3/19/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Debbie Pokornik

https://ow.ly/CZX35

3/18/15                   Camden Hills Regional High Schools

Time Management Discussion

3/15/15                    Taping for guest appearance on “Your Kind Voice” with host Dominic Domasky

Click here to listen

3/5/15                      Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Sheila Kelley

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/21/15                     Division B Toastmasters Leadership Institute – Effective Elevator Speeches

Thomas College, Waterville, Maine

2/19/19                      Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Dominick Domasky

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/19/19                       Radio guest appearance with Beth Shackleton-Anderson Click to Listen

2/12/15                       Radio guest appearance with Marc C. Demetriou on 1160am WVNJ “The Real Estate and Money Show”

2/12/15                       Falmouth (Maine) Lions Club Time Management Discussion Falmouth Legion Hall 65 Depot Rd Falmouth, ME

2/11/15                        Guest Radio Interview 93.3 WRFR with Chris Wolf / Mid-Maine.tv

2/11/15                        Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/6/15-2/8/15           US National Toboggan Championships Camden ME Announcer

2/5/15                         Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Elisabetta Faenza

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/2/15                        Interview with Charlotte Howard on the Success & Beauty Radio Show

Click to Listen

1/26/15                      Blog Interview with Mary Motivates

Home

1/24/15                     Division B Toastmasters Leadership Institute – Effective Elevator Speeches

UNUM, Portland, Maine

1/15/15                      Midcoast Development Council – Effective Elevator Speeches

Georges River Land Trust, 8 N. Main Street, Suite 200, Rockland Maine

1/15/15                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Diana Warmsley

https://ow.ly/CZX35

1/8/15                        Radio guest appearance MPBN Radio discussing Time Management

https://news.mpbn.net/post/better-time-management

12/24/14                   Individual Coaching- interviewing

12/23/14                   Individual Coaching- business start-up discussion

12/21/14                   Guest on Al Cole Radio Show- taping

12/18/14                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Abbie McGilvery

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/17/14                   Guest on Visions of Success radio show with Dr. Fred Simkovsky

12/14/14                   Book signing at Sherman’s Book Store, Freeport ME

12/13/14                   Radio Guest on “Business 101 with Scott Gingold”

12/11/14                    Individual Coaching session- resume

12/12/14                   Individual Coaching session- Interviewing

12/4/14                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Don Holbrook

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/1/14                       Individual coaching- Public Speaking

11/24/13                    Taping “Defining Success” Podcast with Zeb Welborn

https://definingsuccesspodcast.com/

11/24/14                    Guest appearance with Tom Evans of “The Zone Show Podcast”

Discuss “When Your Job is to Find a Job…and Yourself”

https://avanoo.com/landing/473/When-Your-Job-is-to-Find-a-Job—and-Yourself

11/24/14                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Kit Summers

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/13/14                 Individual Coaching- professional development

11/13/14                 Mid-Maine Chamber of Commerce -2014 Business Breakfast

Thomas College 180 West River Rd. Waterville (Rt. 104)- Spann Student Commons

https://www.midmainechamber.com/cms/index.php/events/upcoming-events/range.listevents/-

11/11/14                 Individual coaching- resume

11/10/14                Radio Show Recording (The Strength Coach) with Greg Smith

11/6/14                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest David Frood

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/5/14                   Radio guest appearance, HR Power Hour with David Ciullo

https://hrpowerhour.com/

11/1/14  District 31 Toastmasters:  Eastern Massachusetts & RI.  Topic:  “Running Successful Speech Contests”

Holiday Inn, 31 Hampshire Street, Mansfield, MA

10/25/14               MC Toastmasters District 45 Fall Conference Banquet, PEI, Canada

10/23/14               Guest radio appearance with Beth Shankle-Anderson host of “The Success Design Radio Show”

10/13/14                Individual Coaching Session- resume

Belfast, Maine

9/30/14               Thomas College students- “Have Your Connections Work for YOU”- professional networking

Waterville, Maine

9/25/14                Individual Coaching Session- professional development

Belfast, Maine

9/10/14                Individual Coaching Session- professional development

8/20/14               Make Your Story Come Alive — Résumé Writing Workshop, Falmouth, Maine

Radio Interview with Michelle Spaulding host of “Illuminate Together”

8/15/14               Pecha Kucha Event sponsored by Mid-Coast Magnets

Camden Amphitheater Camden,  ME

8/7/14                  Radio Guest on “Dose of Leadership with Richard Rierson”

Show Link

8/5/14                  Radio Guest on “Better Business Builders Show with James Nemley”

8/4/14                  Individual coaching session- Resume Writing

8/2/14                  Book signing Shermans Books, Camden, Maine

8/1/14                  Book signing Portland Jetport, Portland, Maine

8/1/14                  Guest on Visions of Success with Dr. Fred Simkovsky

Dr Fred Show August 1 2014

7/24/14              Interview with Charlotte Howard on the Success & Beauty Radio Show Click to Listen

7/24/14              Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Kita Szpak

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

7/22/14              Individual Coaching Session- Public-speaking

7/17/14              Sponsored by Lewiston Career Center, Maine

Auburn Public Library 49 Spring St, Auburn, ME 04210

Displacement Day:  When My Job was Looking for a Job Book Launch

7/15/14             Terri Levine Radio Show

https://www.theterrilevineshow.com/

7/10/14             Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Nadine Lajoie

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

7/2/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Ron Finklestein

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

6/23/14              Guest appearance on BFM 89.9FM: The Business Radio Show Malaysia

6/12/14              Radio Guest on “The Success Design with Beth Shankle-Anderson”

6/11/14              Guest on “People of Distinction” with Al Cole of CBS Radio

https://broadcast365.blogspot.com/2011/11/featured-station-people-of-distinction.html

6/7/14               Guest on “Business 101 with Scott Ginsgold”

https://www.facebook.com/business101withScott

6/6/14               Maine Career Development Association (MCDA)

Let Your Connections Work for You — How to Build a Professional Network

USM’s Lewiston-Auburn College, 51 Westminster Street, Lewiston, Maine 04240

6/3/14                Let’s Talk Strategies | The Womenpreneurs Network

Let’s Talk Strategies

6/2/14                Individual Coaching

5/30/14             Guest on The Hollis Chapman Show

https://www.blogtalkradio.com/hollischapmanshow

5/29/14              Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Larry Agresto

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

5/28/14              Radio Interview with Dr. Fred (DocFred) Simkovsky, CMCP host of “Simple Solutions for Complex Challenges”

https://www.lifecareerbusinesscoach.com

Radio Interview with Rafael on “The Untamed Blogger Show”

Untamed Blogger Show

5/26/14             Radio Interview with “Top of the Morning radio Show” with Dr. Fay Maureen airing

https://www.blogtalkradio.com/pastor-maureen

5/24/14             Toastmasters District 45 Spring Conference – Let YOUR Connections Work for You- How to Build a Network

Double Tree, South Portland, ME

5/23/14              Toastmasters District 45, MC of “Guts and Glory” event, S. Portland, ME

5/20/14             Woman In Leadership West Falmouth, ME

Make Your Story Come Alive — Résumé Writing Workshop

5/19/14               Guest on Talk 2 Brazil on LA Talk Radio with Tom Reaoch

www.talk2brazil.com

5/17/14                Toastmasters District 31 Spring Conference – Impromp-to-Success

Holiday Inn, 31 Hampshire Street, Mansfield, MA

5/14/14                 St John New Brunswick Chapter- Certified General Accountants,

Venue:  Lily Lake Pavilion PO Box 492 55 Lake Drive South Saint John, NB, E2L 3Z8

Keynote address: “The Transformational Journey:  A Story of Self-Awareness, Belief, and Action”

5/8/14                   Rockland Networking Group

Tradewinds Hotel, Top of the Rock, Rockland, Maine

5/7/14                   A Kind Voice on Books with Eden Blackwell

Click here to listen.

5/6/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Jeff Krantz

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

5/3/14                  Book launch of Displacement Day:  When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work, sponsored by the Rockport Public Library.

Rockport Opera House located at 6 Central Street, Rockport, Maine.

4/29/14                 University College at Rockland- COM101 Public Speaking class

Breakwater Building, 4th floor, Rockland Maine

4/26/14                 Taping Radio Interview with “Top of the Morning radio Show” with Dr. Fay Maureen

4/24/14                 eTalks Virtual Roundtable with Mike Brenaug

eTalk with Mike Brenhaug Guest Tom Dowd

4/24/14                Defining Success Podcast with Jeb Welborn

https://definingsuccesspodcast.com/

4/17/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Lynnette Louise

4/10/14                Dirigo Toastmasters, Bank of America, Belfast ME

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

4/9/14                   Command and Influence Communication

West Falmouth, ME

4/8/14                    Radio Interview with Host James Lower- WJAG Radio

kjagradio.com

4/7/14                    Individual Coaching Session- Résumé Writing

4/3/14                    Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Phil Spillane

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

4/1/14                   Camden Rotary, 55 Elm St. Camden. ME

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditionally Nice” speech

3/28/14                 Rockland Rotary, Samoset Resort Rockport, ME

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditionally Nice” speech

3/25/14                 KVTM International and Table Topics Club Contest (competitor)

3/20/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Beverley Golden

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

3/19/14                  Bangor Toastmasters Club International and Table Topic Speech Contests

3/14/14                  Thomas College, 180 W River Rd, Waterville, Maine, 04901

Public Speaking Discussion

3/11/14                    Augusta Rotary, Senator’s Inn 284 Western Ave, Augusta, ME 04330

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

3/6/14                      Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Wally Hauck

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

3/5/14                     Winslow High School         20 Danielson St, Winslow, ME 04901

“Unconditionally Nice” speech at Assembly and Public-Speaking Overview with English classes

3/4/14                     Camden Lions Club, 3 Lions Ln, Camden  ME 04843

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

3/3/14                     Rockland (Maine) Kiwanis, 58 Ocean St. Rockland. ME

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

2/26/14                   MDI Toastmasters, Birch Bay Village, Bar Harbor Maine

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

2/25/14                  Coastmasters Toastmasters,

Camden National Corporation 245 Commercial St Rockport Maine 04856

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

2/20/14                  Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Fred Maidment

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

2/19/14                   Bangor Toastmasters

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

2/18/14                   Winthrop (Maine) Rotary, Legion Hall 117 Bowdoin St. Winthrop. ME 04364

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

2/7/14-2/9/14     U.S. National Toboggan Championships- Announcer

1/28/14                    Hosting taping of “Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom”- guest John Brubaker

1/18/14                    Organizing and Judging Effective Toastmasters Contests- Toastmasters Leadership Institute

Texas Instruments, Portland, ME

1/16/14                    Taped “Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom”- guest Dominck Domasky

 

Post from Transformation Tom- Prove People Right: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

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Prove People Right

When you are working with many people in an office, find positive people who support you, then stick with them. There will always be some level of negativity, all with varying degrees, in an office—nobody is perfect and mistakes are made. The question is, what is done to keep it alive and what is done to make it go away? Sometimes, the negativity is short lived because a sale was lost or a promotion was missed and people quickly got over it. In some cases, it is more long term, because of an economic recession, for example, during which people need more nurturing and support to find their way through. Negativity can start with an individual and quickly gain momentum to a group. Negativity has a tendency to grow like a cancer and build upon itself if the people affected don’t make a conscious effort to stem the tide. We all have the choice to take action and surround ourselves with the types of people who want us to succeed, provide us constant support, and build a positive working environment.

In my early career, it seemed fun to sit around at lunch time and find things to complain about. One day, we would complain about the boss, the next day it may be a colleague, and the following day it may be a customer. I thought it was good therapy to get it all out and move on. However, we did not move on from the complaining. Even conversations about the weather were complaints about how hot and humid it was in the summer and how cold and miserable it was in the winter. My crowd of complainers built off the negative momentum. I found most of our conversations continued to have the same thread of negativity being pulled through.

What was interesting is how much my long-term mood and outlook changed based on who I was working with and spending most of my time with. As I took on more independent roles, I had more choices to decide who I would spend time with. I took less group lunches and started to separate myself from the companions who I felt were adding to the negative environment.

I was also learning to establish new relationships and networks. With my newer relationships, I was less comfortable openly complaining, and found myself not getting caught up in a flow of negative dialogue. I found that as I was meeting more new people, I wanted to spread positive messages. One of those ways was to proactively recognize the work of the people I was spending more time with. When co-workers are across the country, it is nice to have a recognition email waiting for them. I started to also realize that it was becoming easier to compliment the people I was working with locally because spreading a positive message was becoming contagious for me.

I started to surround myself with similar people who sought to see the glass as half full. I still had my moments of doubt and negativity, but the moments were less frequent. That doesn’t mean that I stopped providing critical and balanced feedback when appropriate. It just means it was easier to provide constructive feedback when people trusted the source as someone who was looking out for their best interest. In fact, I believe my feedback was more useful since there was more sincerity behind it as opposed to entering a complaint session.

I knew I was making a difference and was being perceived differently when people came out and said, “Your stock is rising.” I had such a feeling of satisfaction that someone would outwardly say that to me. I actually heard this more than once from several people I knew believed in me and supported me. I had a trusted group of people who looked out for my best interest and kept me focused on seeing the best in everything.

I found a network of people who saw my strengths and maximized the use of those strengths. I wanted to spend more time with them because I fed off the positive energy. They believed in me and saw a path to success. I thought I was getting more roles that played off my strengths. In reality, this was true, but not to the extent I originally believed. I was not just in positions playing to my strengths—I was working smarter to expand on these strengths, and turning my weaknesses to strengths. For example, in the past, I may not have had the confidence to question something that did not make sense. When I was surrounded by people who encouraged me to ask open-ended clarification questions, I came up the learning curve more quickly, and gained confidence. In another example, I was sent to a new manager and felt like I had to start over again. As previously mentioned, there were times when I was moved to different roles in my career when I wasn’t succeeding. In this case, my new manager said in our first conversation that I was taking over the forty-fifth ranked team in the company. His instructions were simple: “Make them number one.”  He mentioned that he trusted me and would give me space as long as he saw the team’s growth. He was giving me a clean slate. As we continued to work together, he was making me believe in myself again. I was starting to take the right actions to have the team believe in me, too. The team rose to the second-ranked team in the company in less than two months. I was riding their coat tails, while being there to provide support and encouragement. I was proving my new manager right.

You can start to prove people right by finding the motivational factors to not let that someone down or by making the extra effort to show them what you are capable of. In all cases, your own success is facilitated when you surround yourself with good people who support you, people who believe in you, people who encourage you, and people who inspire you. Fend off the negative people who may be nearby, find the uplifting people, and together create your own positive vision by feeding off the positive energy and enthusiasm of others. Then, prove them right.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

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Post from Transformation Tom- Prove People Wrong: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - June 26, 2018 - News
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Prove People Wrong

            I was about to start this section as “prove negative people wrong,” but realized that not all situations involve a negative person. Some just involve an honest person strong enough to tell you something you may not want to hear, but need to hear. Years ago, I was growing tired of my computer programming position. I had been in the role for only three months. The computer programming assignment was more a move to get me out of my previous job than a move because the job was a great fit for me. It was not a match made in heaven for a communication major with no computer expertise.

I knew I needed a change. I became more dissatisfied with my job as I realized that it was not the proper career path for me and I had a steep learning curve in a position I was not motivated to pursue. The experience was good in teaching me that this role was not for me. I am glad for the time because I was put in the shoes of people who do this difficult job of getting calls only when something is broken or receiving the urgent request when someone needed it yesterday.

I surprised myself by proactively setting up a meeting with the senior executive to see what it would take to transfer somewhere else—anywhere else, actually—to become a manager of people again. My approach was not to complain about what I was doing at this point in my career, because as much as I disliked it, I was still doing a valuable function.

If you recall, this was the time in my career when I was removed as a manager because I, the “interpersonal communications major” could not relate well with people. The senior leader said he did not see me successfully leading people. He would only make me manager again if he saw me as someone who could lead an entire department. He wanted someone in whom he could see true leadership material. He needed to see the potential of a candidate two positions ahead, not just in the next promotion. He said he did not see that potential in me as a leader, and denied my request. I can’t blame him. My reputation was not stellar when it came to people management at the time.

As I look at it now, he was being direct and honest; something I crave now. I spent many years bitterly and conveniently remembering a different tone and context: he was out to get me, and I needed to prove him wrong. Although I genuinely believed he did not like me or want to see me succeed, I realize now that I created my own perception of the conversation to fit my need to be motivated. I needed the rejection to push me further to succeed.

There are two things you can do when you get tough feedback you don’t want, but need to hear. You can do nothing. Nothing can also be expanded to complain about it, be frustrated by it, and do not seek a solution. The other option is to accept it and make the most of it. You can use the feedback to make yourself better and stronger. You can build character and put yourself into a better position to succeed. Direct and honest feedback does not come as often as we like. There is value in it and we should absorb as much of it as possible.

I believe that that interaction with the senior executive that lasted no more than ten minutes saved my career. I had a specific focus point to motivate me. I must have thought about it every day for over five years. It drove me. It pushed me harder. It became my driving force to rally at a time when I was ready to walk out the door. My wife reminds me now that my misery and frustration were growing so much that if I hadn’t changed my career course at that time, we probably wouldn’t have stayed together long enough to marry. In simple terms, I was getting on her nerves with my constant complaining.

The manager who chose not to give me another chance in a manager role did offer me a chance to support a newly-formed business in another state. I would not be managing people. However, I now had the drive to prove him wrong. I did have the added motivation on the personal front of being newly engaged to a great woman, and I wanted to have a great life for my soon-to-be wife.

Being told I could not do something or was not good enough drove me to seek out the answers I needed to improve and eventually get where I wanted to be. As often as I thought about it bitterly for so many years, I am thankful for the courage the person had to tell me what I had to hear, and I am appreciative for the extra kick I needed to want to prove to everyone that I could do whatever I set my mind to. I needed to prove the people wrong who said I wasn’t ready for it. More importantly, I needed to make the doubt in my own abilities go away. I needed to prove myself wrong. I stopped thinking about that fateful conversation every day when I got my first job managing managers about five years later. I reached my goal with hard work and a push towards transforming myself into the person I wanted to be and towards the person I knew I was capable of being. I proved him wrong. I wonder now if he was trying to motivate me from the start.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

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Post from Transformation Tom- Be Impatiently Patient: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - June 19, 2018 - News
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Be Impatiently Patient

Maybe I will do it tomorrow. ‘It’ could be anything. Tomorrow I will set my goals. Tomorrow I will earn the big promotion. Tomorrow I will write the next great novel. Some of us keep wishing and some of us allow frustration to build up. Still, we take no action, except maybe a complaint or two, or maybe three. We have all heard that good things come to those who wait. However, I will tack on that great things will come to those who earn it and take action.

I have had many career conversations with individuals who complained that his or her manager had rarely, if ever, had a career development conversation with him or her. The complaints include comments that his or her manager has performance-based conversations that help with the present, but lack the long-term discussion to push them further in their careers. I have seen consistent focus group feedback and anonymous survey feedback reiterating the same thing.

I have had to provide some tough feedback to people by asking them, “When was the last time you read your performance appraisal?” A very large percentage of people I ask have answered that it was the day it was administered. People have a silver tray of feedback on their lap that they think they can memorize after a thirty to sixty-minute discussion. They are wrong. People need to reinforce the constructive feedback that will make them better. They should not wait for the next performance review that will take place six months to a year from the last one. People should take hold of that feedback and take action immediately. Grab the feedback head on and start to implement the actions needed to make you stronger. Be impatiently patient to make yourself better.

If the complaints are accurate and you are really not getting career advice or long-term direction, you have the right to understand and ask for it. You need to know exactly what it takes to get promoted or get to the next level, or even what it takes to maintain great performance results. The conversation does not have to be contentious or even demanding. A simple request of, “Can you help me to better understand what it takes…” can go a long way.

Everyone should do their homework to at least know the minimum requirements and expectations for their current role and what is needed to get to the next level. My company used to have minimum requirements to get promoted to certain officer positions, including taking certain courses, and submitting at least one original, formal, creative idea annually to make the business better. I would be amazed any time I had a conversation with a colleague who said he or she could not come up with a fresh idea or find the time to take the training courses.

The irony may be that the driving force for me early in my career was my inability to take accountability. I was driven to cover my bases for all minimum requirements to ensure that never happened to me. I refused to allow any decision maker to make an easy decision to count me out of the running for an officer promotion simply because I had not met the check-box requirements. That would make it too easy for others. Remember, I was in the habit of blaming others.

I was learning that if I was going to blame someone for not promoting me or giving me the next great role, I wanted to force the conversation to be more meaningful than, “Sorry, you missed the minimum requirements.” The drive to meet the requirements forced me to be impatiently patient because I was going to meet all of my annual requirements in January (if the cycle started at the beginning of the year), as soon as I saw it in my inbox, or as soon as physically possible to complete.

My concerns for missing small details or requirements, or gaining a reputation as a procrastinator, were not part of my personality. My fear of missing a deadline or not completing my workload actually enhanced the perception of me in the eyes of many leaders. I was gaining a reputation for getting things done quickly. I was also becoming known for reading the details that may have been glossed over by others. I was building a positive reputation based on my emerging skill set.

Although others were still getting promoted around me, it was not because I wasn’t meeting my goals. It was the many other components that had been reiterated many times over. My inability or slow adaptation to change how I got the job done was holding me back (e.g., relationship building, cynicism). The positive momentum change in how I was viewed in getting things done quickly was a good sign towards future advancements.

I would eventually find my way to meeting many of my professional goals, but it was not within my personal, unwritten timeframes. I was beginning to be more driven and more specific in establishing these goals. I would set a certain age at which I wanted to achieve a title or position. There were designated times when I wanted to expand my role. I was often close, but I was not always within my personal deadlines. I was all right with that because my impatience was driving me to take the better road to eventually get to the position or goal I wanted.

In fact, there were at least two times in my career where I was in the right place at the wrong time. I was given expanded responsibilities at a time when I was not fully prepared for the positions. In both cases, I was asked to step back to a lesser role or change my position completely. I also learned that getting exactly what you want at the wrong time can have devastating impacts professionally. I learned from both scenarios to set clear goals, but be prepared for when I get there.

The lessons of not only knowing what I wanted, but also when I wanted to get there, proved valuable. My impatience made me do more homework and research to set aggressive, but more realistic, goals. I knew myself better than anyone else and I began writing out a game plan to help me achieve my goals. Doing things on the fly and just pushing to get someplace fast happened far too many times early in my career, to my detriment. I had the drive to get there quickly, but I lacked the specificity of where I was heading. This held me back. I needed to know where I wanted to go and be impatiently patient to get there—with a plan.

Finally, if you are fortunate enough to take on a new role, you need to be impatiently patient in learning the business. You can never passively wait to meet the learning curve within a given timeframe in a new position. First, you need to understand the business is moving quickly and can’t wait around for you. Second, if you are effective in attacking the transition, you can accelerate your ascent to gaining technical knowledge. Your patient efforts to impatiently learn the business as quickly as possible will assist you in gaining credibility with the people you are working with as you gain insights on the integration between different faces of the business, technology, culture, and styles. Take advantage of a learning curve if there is one, but learn as quickly as possible by using the people and resources around you to absorb everything.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby