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Post from Transformation Tom- Step Away and Clear Your Head: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - September 25, 2018 - News
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If something is not working, you are having a mental block, or you are getting frustrated with a situation, step away and clear your head. Your ability to mentally get through these types of challenging times is an important skill. Part of the mastery of this skill is to know when to give yourself a break to refresh that fragile mental state. Even in times of high intensity and urgency, the ability to take a step back and refocus on the situation is important. You can choose to spin your wheels or take a breath.

How long you step away is up to you based on the immediacy of what is going on around you at the time. Even a minute to push your chair back and not look at your computer could be beneficial during crucial times. If you can afford it, take a couple of minutes to get some water, or even better, if timed right, get up to take a lunch break. It doesn’t mean walking away from an important meeting or confrontation, unless it makes sense. You need to make an individual assessment of the situation prior to doing this. However, stepping away to clear the head is invested time that allows you to then come back with new energy and focus.

When you do choose to do it, you are not walking away from the problem. You are walking away for an answer and for a fresh perspective. Walking away can help soften some of the stress and create enough of a change in atmosphere to get the juices flowing again or calm you down from major frustration. I have had many days during which I drank a lot of water or twisted the chair around. There are other days when I have had to stick my tongue out at the computer, have a quick laugh at how immature I just was, and move on with the day.

We all need to take ourselves out of the root cause of a problem or frustration and understand the rejuvenation factor. What you choose to do to break free for that moment can be anything. If you can afford the luxury to read the news, listen to music, take a walk, or even go for a run, it is important to cause a significant enough disruption to your spinning wheels.

The break is important. I have found myself staring at a presentation and getting stuck on a particular page with writer’s block. I have tried to force my way through it by trying to find the next magical words. The inability to think clearly always seemed to get worse as I tried harder. If I just consistently make an effort to recognize that walking away is an important part of the process, I am much better off.

Make it a habit to break up a day of meetings or calls, or just go outside for the fresh air. If possible, try to find a regular time in your work day to schedule time away from the office, or at least step away from your desk. I actually put it on my calendar to take a lunch or break. Whenever possible, I personally like to go for a run and break up the day. I am convinced that since I started doing this I have been more productive and have had more creativity in my day. I am not sluggish at the end of the day. I knew going running on many days would add extra time. However, the increased productivity and satisfaction level actually cut significantly into that extended time. I was getting more done in the same amount of time. I know the concept of stepping away is counterintuitive to the notion of putting our noses to the grindstone, but it is worth it.

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

 

Post from Transformation Tom- Open the Gift of Feedback: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - September 11, 2018 - News

Gift of feedback

I loved feedback when it emphasized my strengths. I listened to opportunities I needed to work on. However, I never proactively sought out the feedback that would make me better, nor did I spend a lot of time after it was given taking action based on that feedback. I either felt the feedback wasn’t valuable or I felt I didn’t need it. In many cases, even if it was valuable, I typically fell back into old habits and waited until the next performance appraisal to hear something similar.

As previously stated, I typically hit the statistical performance expectations, so I rarely invested the appropriate amount of time or effort into making a difference for myself. The irony is that the same feedback given to me caused a lot of my frustration. I felt that the management providing me the feedback must have been part of a conspiracy if different people wrote similar feedback about me. I just didn’t get it. I now tell people that feedback is not about agreeing or disagreeing with what they’ve heard, it is about doing something with it. Whether or not it has validity, at that point in time someone deemed it worth mentioning, therefore something needs to be done about it.

Feedback is considered negative in most people’s eyes. It is human nature to defend ourselves or feel that others are simply being judgmental. Feedback is a process designed to make us better. Your reaction to the process, and the feedback itself, is what will make us stronger. With addictive behavior, it is often said that admission is half the battle. Your ability to admit that you are not perfect is your first step towards being more open to feedback. Your strength will show when you are able to recognize the validity of that feedback and be accountable enough to do something about it. We should all take action on the constructive opinions designed to make us stronger. Someone invested the time and had the courage to provide it, and therefore we should do something about it. The key is to understand that we need to move away from the feeling that it is all negative and just grasp hold of the nuggets of wisdom sitting on our doorstep.

Do we need to implement every bit of feedback presented to us? No. However, we need to seriously listen to it and consider it. Again, it is not a matter of whether we agree or not, it is a matter that someone somewhere perceives something about you that needs to be addressed. It is worth the investment to pay attention to this gift.

As we open ourselves up to being more accepting of feedback, we should also go on the offensive. We should be proactive about asking for it and not wait for a prescribed time or place. Who said you had to wait until your year-end review to make yourself better? If you are even luckier and work with a company in which you are having monthly conversations, you should consider yourself blessed.

We should take advantage of every feedback opportunity and never let it go by without actively asking what we can do to be better. Once you get comfortable with asking, you will start to gain the trust needed to expand the feedback process, thus allowing more sincerity and depth to the overall conversation. That depth, in turn, makes each subsequent conversation more impactful. The proactive approach may surprise some of the people you work with early on, but it will eventually allow you to build a bond. In time, you will find that more people become open to it. Try to imagine that every day is a holiday with the free-for-all feedback right there for the taking.

I rarely have meetings with people I directly work with without asking what I can do for them and what I can do differently. I now thirst for feedback and gain respect from anyone who is willing to stop and provide it to me.

I am an active provider of unsolicited, balanced feedback. I know that I had hesitation as to my own receptiveness to feedback early on. I also realize that many of my colleagues are not in the habit of asking for feedback, especially if they do not work directly for me. I do what I can to position my coaching in a way that they are an active part of the process or can easily buy in to it. It’s important to not let a coachable moment go, since it is a gift.

We sometimes rely on the formality of our specific manager or a specific time of the year to receive an evaluation of our performances. What we need to do is give people feedback whenever it is relevant, regardless of who reports to whom, and give it when it is still fresh in all of our minds. Immediacy is often lost otherwise, which impacts the benefit. As the one providing the feedback, I work to ensure that I am balanced in my approach, and that I gauge how the person may react, but to still make it a point to provide it as soon as realistically possible. The key is to provide non-biased critical feedback that will make an individual stronger. I have actually gained many mentors by providing this type of teaching feedback. The responses I have received have been along the lines of, “I wish someone said that to me earlier in my career,” or, “Thanks for telling me something I thought I didn’t want to hear.”

Whether you are the giver or the receiver, be honest and be direct (with a filter, if needed). I am not a big fan of the sandwich type of feedback by stating something positive, something that needs to be improved, and something positive again. The prescribed approach is too predictable and often comes across as insincere. If you are honest and forthright, you will build trust, respect, and credibility. To maximize the feedback process, make sure you attack the informal feedback channels to gather information. You can speak to your peers, as well as people that work for you and people for whom you work. In addition, you can talk with business partners whose paths you may cross but to whom you are not directly linked. The third-party, objective point of view is always valuable insight. Just be open to looking for it and doing something with it. Whether feedback is from up, down, or around, it is a gift.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

 

Post from Transformation Tom- Let Your Music Out: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - September 4, 2018 - News
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How often have you said one of the following: “I wish I could learn more about a different part of the business,” or, “I wish I could learn to lead like the person down the hall,” or, “I wish I could communicate more effectively,” or, “I wish I could do something I have always dreamed of doing?” We often wish we could do more of something or start to do something we’ve always wanted to do. We may say that we do not have the time, the resources, or the drive to make it happen. We may say we have other obligations and priorities. What we don’t have is the drive or commitment to take that one step it requires to face our “wish” head-on and make it a reality. We still have the music in us.

Oliver Wendell Holmes once said, “Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out.” I say, “Or you can be hit by a bus tomorrow.” It’s time we let the music out, now.

Many of you have heard about the sad story of the Orlando Florida Sea World trainer, Dawn Brancheau who was drowned tragically by a killer whale in February of 2010. There has been controversy over the event. I will not go into the debate about animal training and the event itself. However, one thing is clear from the many pictures of her smiling with the orca whales. She loved what she was doing and died doing what she wanted to do. Her music was being played every day she was with those beautiful animals.

On a personal note, I learned the first twelve notes from the song “The Rose” by Bette Midler when I was about ten years old in school during music class. I have never forgotten how to play it. I never learned to play an instrument or even to read music growing up. However, for more than thirty years, I played these same notes on every piano I walked past. I have been an admirer of Elton John’s and Billy Joel’s music for as long as I can remember and I love the sound a piano makes, but I never learned to play. At the age of thirty-eight, I got a call from my in-laws, who were eight hours into their twelve-hour trip to see us. I was told to get some help because they had a trailer with their old upright piano on it. What a nice surprise. We had hoped to get their piano when they got a new one, but could never come up with the right timing or means to move it from Maryland to Maine.

The next day, slightly sore, I began to “let the music out,” literally in this case. I started with my wife’s piano books, which I found in the piano bench from when she was eight years old. I began the journey to learn to read music and play the piano. I had my first informal recital in front of a close group of friends four months later on New Year’s Eve. I do not claim to be great, but I do claim that I really enjoy playing. I also claim to be doing something I’ve always wanted to do. My three beautiful children decided they also wanted to learn to play. A couple of them stopped after a few years of lessons, but only to pursue other interests to let out their own music. I chuckle to myself when the two who are no longer playing walk by the piano and play a few notes of a song they learned. It’s funny how you let out your own music and you start to influence people around you.

I share this personal story because it carried over into my professional work. I have found commonalities with people I never knew played instruments, and have come to work humming tunes I was playing the night before. My increase in personal satisfaction has bled into the professional work as I started each new day.

On the professional side, I felt I had things bottled up inside me. I knew I needed to communicate more effectively if I wanted to move forward with my career. I joined Toastmasters. Toastmasters gave me the platform to significantly increase my confidence as well as the ability to think more quickly on my feet, and to tell my stories with more personality. Toastmasters encouraged me to strive to go farther in the organization through communication and leadership certification. They walked me head on into the competitive world of speaking. Over the years, that has opened so many doors that I feel my own music had just begun to play. This book would not be possible if I had not won a door prize at one of the Toastmaster International conferences. I won a CD and book from a professional speaker who was present at the conference. I decided the next week after reading the book and listening to the CD that I wanted to do what he had done. I had always had these crazy ideas running in my head about wanting to write a book. I had work to do, but I wanted to let the music out.

We may not even know what music we want to play yet. We “don’t know what we don’t know,” and thus may need to continue to search for our own music. When something gets your attention and you say, “I wish…” you should stop and ask if it is something you should pursue. You might surprise yourself by taking the first step.

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

 

Post from Transformation Tom- Work Smarter, Not Harder: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - August 27, 2018 - News

I have known too many people who work far too many unproductive, long hours. They cause stress for themselves while running in circles to get their jobs done. Working more hours and adding more effort does not always complete the task you are attempting. I have found that when I am running on a treadmill harder, it does not get me to the destination any sooner. As I have worked harder, I have often lost my ability to think with a level head and I start to build up that feeling of self-induced pressure, pushing me to work even harder.

We may think that working harder means putting on the blinders and looking straight ahead to get to the finish line. We also think this means we need to work faster and put in more hours to get more done. When the feeling of control continues to get lost, you may feel the need to work even harder as the pressure grows more intense to meet approaching deadlines and get to that finish line. The feeling you have in the pit of your stomach may tell you to dig deeper and get more intense. I suggest the counterintuitive advice of stopping what you are doing at the moment and regrouping. I recommend trying to understand the goal or the task you are trying to accomplish. Are you trying for quantity or quality, or both? Are you trying to meet a deadline, or just trying to get through your emails? Who is putting the line in the sand? Is it your boss or personal pressure you are putting yourself under?

Taking the time to stop and understand the true purpose of your mission and task is time well invested, which will assist you in coming up with a game plan and pointing you in the right direction. You need to incorporate what should be considered a lower priority and push that to the side for now, or delegate those tasks while you accomplish the most pressing task. These first steps are critical in order to see what is on the horizon. The ability to stop what you are doing to outline the next steps will save you time and effort in the long run. It is possibly the hardest thing for go-getters to do because we have been programmed to constantly be going a million miles per minute.

I personally like to maintain and reference things I have worked on in the past. I pride myself in organizing my working files (paper and virtual) for easy access and reference. Far too many people waste time reinventing the wheel. Are you always scrambling to put together a last-minute presentation? I have base slides that I constantly keep updated and put together. There are few times that I can just copy the slides in without making modifications, but it always gives me a starting point to get past the writer’s block stage. It is also not plagiarism if you are copying from yourself and your team (as long as you have permission and are giving proper credit). The ability to have a solid foundation to work from actually gives you time to dedicate to the creative process (e.g., brainstorming, team discussions). You might be surprised that your end product looks nothing like the original, but that jumpstart puts it in motion. I have been around many hard working and smart people who have already put the effort into creating reference materials that can, and should, be used more than once when it makes sense. Using their materials is the sincerest form of flattery. The key is to keep it organized and updated, and know where to go to get off to a quick start.

There are certain times when there is a legitimate need to put in more hours to complete a job. You must ask yourself, is it necessary each day and each week? Do you find yourself constantly putting out fires and not being able to manage your calendar because of it? If this is the case, you should complete a self-assessment around what kinds of fires you are constantly putting out and what commonalities there are.

For example, at the end of every month is your manager asking for the same types of reports or summaries? The first couple of months may still be fire drills, but the rest should be routine. You should do what you can to build routines that minimize the unexpected.

In your preparation for the unexpected, you should categorize and target your efforts so that when you are under pressure, you know how to utilize your resources. For example, can you never find a phone number? If this is the case, make sure your phone directory is always updated. A few years ago, when we used to do more paper filing, I had a manager who tried to hide her files from me in a large drawer. When I asked her why she just didn’t file them immediately when she was ready to put them away, she said it would take too long. Looking at her pile, it was true, but if she had done it right away it would not have been an issue. I realize these examples are over-simplified, but that is the point. The simple actions of doing things right away are often our biggest timesavers.

Don’t let the simple tasks be your time constrainers. If you are not good at remembering to keep your directory updated, place a recurring appointment in your calendar as a reminder, delegate it to someone who can, or know where to get it from someone else. You can be creative in your simplicity, just make sure it gets done. Do not allow the small tasks to add up to a point where they are causing the frustration, or make you work harder than you need to.

Can you never find the notes you took from that meeting last week? Centralize them. Whether your notes are handwritten or done online, have an organized place to go back to them—you can have paper files, online folders, or scanned objects. It is not possible to remember every conversation you had. However, if you took notes, it was obviously important enough for you to jot it down. The key message here is to know where to go to get it. Do not dump it into a generic folder or stack in the inbox. To state the obvious, if it is related to something from Human Resources (HR), create a folder for HR. Your filing and organizational techniques will never be the same as anyone else’s. That’s all right as long as you know where to find things. I have seen too many “Miscellaneous” folders that only cause more hard work in the effort to find something that can be so easy to reference with a small investment of time.

Finally, set aside specific times to get to your routine tasks, such as reading your emails. You should set aside specified time to do this every day as opposed to managing them throughout the day while you are multitasking. Although some multitasking is necessary and can be done productively in today’s busy world, such as eliminating junk emails during a conference call, attempts to run your entire day doing multiple things at once is not working smart.

If you are attempting to read critical email details during a conference call, you are not truly listening to what the other person is saying. In reality, you are not even multitasking since you are sacrificing one of the tasks. You are simply taking up a phone line while reading emails. I am being realistic and want to make sure we all have the appropriate prioritization and dedication to the task. Remember, it is not about just getting the job done, it is about getting the job done right. You may create more work than expected if you give a half answer to a conversation you were only half paying attention to, or erroneously respond to an email without reading all the way to the bottom. I know we have been told to do more with less and to keep our noses to the grindstone. I get it. Just be smart about it.

 

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

 

 

Post from Transformation Tom- Live in the Present: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - August 20, 2018 - News
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Live in the Present

I was always worried about what people thought of me, especially if I had made a mistake in the past. This may have held me back because I was worried about old perceptions people may have had of me. My concerns about whether someone liked me or not, respected me or not, or trusted me or not, impacted my confidence level and my ability to enjoy the job I was doing in the present. For the most part, I was impacting my own ability to do the work I loved to do.

I have had some bad days, like everyone else. I also had a few undesirable jobs that I needed to grind through. Unfortunately, these negative feelings and bad days had a tendency to linger with me, because I was worried about repeating a mistake or trying to over-impress someone with whom I wanted to make an impact. I am hard-pressed to come up with immediate memories of truly enjoying what I had going on around me until the latter part of my career. The potential of repeating past mistakes worried me while my obsessive concern over potential roadblocks or traps kept me from enjoying what was happening then and there.

I think I was constantly trying to stay a couple of steps ahead of my next action, in an attempt to avoid past mistakes. I was living too far into the future at times based on my feelings from the past. I was too preoccupied to stop and live in the present. People around me were promoted and I congratulated them on their success. I would dig in, internally frustrated, and immediately went on to the next thing that needed to be checked off my list. I had presentations that went well but I never appreciated those successes because I was already thinking about the next big project that was due.

In the spring of 2010, I advanced through the first three levels of competition to reach my first Toastmasters District Finals. The winner of this Toastmaster’s contest would represent District 45 (New Brunswick, Prince Edward Island, Nova Scotia, and all of Vermont, New Hampshire, and Maine) as the Toastmasters International Speech Champion, and would then move on to the World Semi-finals. Only eighty-one people in the world would advance. On the morning before the biggest speech of my life, I ran into Joey Grondin. I recognized him from the 2009 fall conference, in which he’d given a presentation on “Developing Your Signature.” His message was clear: be yourself and enjoy what you are doing right now. I told him how memorable that presentation was and how I’d incorporated some of it in my speeches, including the one I planned to do in the competition that night.

Joe was gracious and relaxed. He was conversational and engaged in our conversation. He saw my excitement and nervousness as a competitor, yet he did not even mention that he was also participating in the contest. He simply wished me luck and tried to provide me encouragement. Since he was a trainer in the previous fall conference, it never dawned on me that he would be competing.

He chose to avoid ruining my excitement until I actually asked him the question. He was allowing me to enjoy the moment and he was along for the ride. The smile on his face never wavered. Later in the day, I was nervously trying to calm myself down when I asked him what he did to calm his nerves. He said, “Enjoy the moment and live in the present.” He also mentioned this in his book, Living in Harmony with Our Children. That day, he said to me (paraphrased), “You have done everything you can to prepare for this. Watch the audience and feed off their laughter and reactions. You will never be at that moment on stage to give this speech again, so enjoy it because it will be gone.” Joe went on to win that competition, and subsequently the semi-finals, which put him in the top nine in the world. I found out later that he had been at the district level many times before and had never won. I was proud to watch his winning performance.

I was happy with my speech, after a small hiccup. I stumbled when I almost repeated a line, but that moment isn’t what I remember most about my performance. I don’t recall being nervous when I was actually doing the speech, but I do remember how excited and animated I felt up on stage. I also clearly remember the looks on the faces of much of the audience. It was the best time I ever had giving a speech.

The key is to learn from your mistakes of the past, but don’t dwell on them or let them weigh you down. The past is over, so move on. You can also spend too much time worrying about what lies ahead as you try to predict the future. Will I fail? What will happen next? You only have so much control over any of it, and besides, there is a good chance it will change or not be exactly as you predicted anyway. Move your present forward by learning from the past, but see the joy in what you have at the moment.

Unfortunately, I also want to add that it can be over in a flash. While I was writing this passage today, I was on vacation but thought I would check my work email. I found out that there was a horrific auto accident near one of our East Coast offices. Two managers were returning from lunch when they were involved in a crash that killed one of them and put the other on life support. In cases like this, we can only love our family more than ever and give our thoughts and prayers to their families. The timing of the news was purely coincidental, but it is a stark reminder to hold on to the precious present moments while we can.

 

 

 

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby

Upcoming and Recent Events (Book Signings, Speaking, Training, Coaching, and Media Appearances)

Posted by tomdowd - August 15, 2018 - Events
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Upcoming Events

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Thomas B. Dowd III’s books:

– Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success

– The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

– Time Management Manifesto:  Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance 

Displacement Day:  When My Job was Looking for a Job (2014 Paris Book Festival and 2014 New York Book Festival Honorable Mention)

– The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World (Honorable Mention at the 2012 New England Book Festival)

– From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide (2013 Axiom Business Book Awards Gold Medal Winner and 2013 Paris Book Festival Honorable Mention).  Audiobook version of “From Fear to Success” is also available!

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Upcoming Speaking, Training, Coaching, and Book Signing Events (all times Eastern Time Zone):

 

• December 10, 2018   Time: 4:00pm – 5:00pm 

Individual Coaching- interviewing skills

• Date / Time / Location Rescheduled Time: TBD

Bebee Healthcare

Heritage Shores, 34 Royal View Drive, Bridgeville, DE 19933

“Resurrecting Resilience” keynote, MC event

 

Past Events: 

12/3/18           Individual Coaching- interviewing skills

11/19/18         Hope Elementary School, Hope, Maine

“Resurrecting Resilience” keynote

11/19/18         Individual Coaching- interviewing skills

11/26/18         Individual Coaching- interviewing skills

11/15/18         Individual Coaching- interviewing skills

11/12/18         Individual Coaching- interviewing skills

11/6/18           Individual Coaching- interviewing skills

11/6/18           Individual Coaching- interviewing skills

11/2/19           Practical Public Speaking for Business

University of Maine- Hutchinson Center, Belfast, Maine

10/19/18        Individual Coaching- resume

10/25/18       Let Your Connections Work for You—How to Build a Professional Network

Mt. Laurel, NJ

10/9/18         Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

10/8/18         Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

10/3/18         Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

10/2/18         Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

10/1/18         Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/21/18         Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/20/18        Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/19/18         Keynote address: Resurrecting Resilience

91st Annual Maine Safety and Health Conference

Augusta (Maine) Civic Center

9/17/18        Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/13/18        Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/10/18        Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/6/18          Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/3/18          Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

8/28/18        Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

8/27/18        Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

8/24/18        Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

8/20/18        Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

6/27/18        Toastmasters Leadership Institute (TLI)- “Here Comes the Judge”

Texas Instruments, Portland, Maine

6/13/18        Individual Coaching- resume

6/12/18        Individual Coaching- resume

6/12/18        Individual Coaching- resume

5/27/18       Toastmasters District 45 Table Topics Finals (First Place)

5/26/18       Toastmasters District 45 International Speech Finals (Second Place)

5/24/18       “Change Your Story”

Tri-City Toastmasters (Portsmouth, Maine)

5/23/18       “Change Your Story”

Portland Harborside (Portland, Maine)

5/23/18        “Change Your Story”

Running Hill Toastmasters (Scarborough, Maine)

5/22/18         “Change Your Story”

L-A Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

5/21/18           “Change Your Story”

Greater Portland (Portland, ME)

5/17/18            “Change Your Story”

Portsmouth Toastmasters (Portsmouth, NH)

5/16/18             “Change Your Story”

MDI Toastmasters (MDI, Maine)

5/15/18              “Change Your Story”

Ad-libs Toastmasters (Portsmouth, NH)

5/8/18              “Change Your Story”

KVTM (Augusta, Maine)

5/4/18               Individual Coaching- resume

5/1/18               “Change Your Story”

Camden (Maine) Rotary, Camden, Maine

4/4/18               Division B-level International and Table Topics Speech Contest, Waterville, Maine (won both)

4/30/18             Individual Coaching- resume

4/26/18             “Change Your Story”

Ecotoasters, Augusta, Maine

4/25/18              “Change Your Story”

TD L-A Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

4/24/18             “Change Your Story”

Carbonite Droid Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

4/24/18             “Change Your Story”

L-A Toastmasters (Lewiston, Maine)

4/17/18               “Change Your Story”

Brunswick Toastmasters

4/12/18               Individual Coaching- resume, LinkedIn

4/10/18              Area 14-level International and Table Topics Speech Contest, Augusta, Maine (won both)

4/9/18                “Change Your Story”

Rockland (Maine) Kiwanis,

Chamber of Commerce, Park St, Rockland, Maine

4/6/18               “Change Your Story”

Dexter Sunrise Kiwanis, Knights of Columbus Hall, North Dexter Rd., Dexter, Maine

4/3/18                “Change Your Story”

Winthrop Rotary, 117 Bowdoin St, Winthrop, Maine

4/2/18                Individual Coaching- resume

3/28/18            “Change Your Story”

Ecotoasters (Augusta, Maine)

3/27/18             “Change Your Story”

KVTM Club-level International and Table Topics Speech Contest, Augusta, Maine (First Place, both contests)

3/27/18              “Change Your Story”

Augusta (Maine) Rotary, Cohen Community Center, Hollowell, Maine

Individual Coaching- Interviewing

3/21/18                “Change Your Story”

Wayfair Furniture, Brunswick, Toastmasters Demo Meeting, Brunswick, Maine

3/20/18                “Change Your Story”

University of Rockland (URock)- Public Speaking Class, Rockland, Maine

3/6/18                 “Change Your Story”

Camden (Maine) Lions, Camden, Maine

3/5/18                 Individual Coaching- resume

2/19/18               Individual Coaching- resume

2/19/18               Individual Coaching- professional development coaching

2/10-2/11/18     U.S. National Toboggan Championships

Camden Snow Bowl, Camden, Maine

Honored to be the “Voice of the Toboggan Championships” since 2009

2/5/18          Individual Coaching- resume update

2/2/18            Midcoast Leadership Academy

Penbay Hospital (Physician’s Building downstairs), Rockport Maine

“Resurrecting Resilience” keynote

1/30/18          Individual Coaching- resume update

1/10/18           The Havard Club of Boston

374 Commonwealth Ave, Boston MA

“Resurrecting Resilience” keynote

12/20/17         Individual coaching- career advice

12/13/17          Amoskeag Better Communicators (Toastmasters)- “Turn the Page”, Manchester, NH

12/7/18           Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

12/5/17            Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/16/17           Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/13/17           Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/8/17             Individual Coaching- resume

11/6/17             Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

11/4/17             District 45 Fall Conference- Resurrecting Resilience

10/16/17          Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

10/12/17           EcoToasters

Augusta Maine

“Resurrecting Resilience”

10/13/17          Individual Coaching- long-term career planning

10/3/17            Brunswick Toastmasters

8 Venture Ave, Brunswick (old Brunswick Naval Air Station)

“Resurrecting Resilience”

10/4/17           Bangor Toastmasters

417 Main St Bangor Maine

“Resurrecting Resilience”

9/28/17          Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/26/17          Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/25/17          Individual Coaching- job-search strategies

9/20/17          Individual Coaching- resume

9/18/17          Individual Coaching- resume

9/7/17            Individual Coaching – resume

9/5/17            Individual Coaching – resume

9/1/17-9/3/17  Master of Ceremonies (Saturday and Sunday)

Camden Windjammer Festival

https://www.camdenwindjammerfestival.org/

8/28/17         Individual Coaching – Interviewing

8/28/17          Individual Coaching – Networking

8/21/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/21/17           Individual Coaching – resume

8/18/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/16/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/14/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

8/2/17             Individual Coaching – Networking

7/24/17           Individual Coaching – Networking

7/17/17            Individual Coaching – Networking

6/7/17              Individual Coaching- Networking

6/2/17             Individual coaching- interviewing

5/26/17           Individual Coaching- resume

5/25/17           MC Sculpture Race at Camden-Rockport Middle School

5/24/17           Individual Coaching- resume

5/20/17          District 45 International Speech Competition, Sunday River, Maine

5/19/17           Criterium Engineers, Portland, Maine: Portland Regency Hotel, Portland Maine

Generational Differences- Millennials

5/17/17           MDI Toastmasters, Hulls Cove, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/16/17          Brunswick Toastmasters, Brunswick, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep5/11/17

5/15/17          Individual coaching- resume

5/11/17           Tri-City Toastmasters, Dover, NH

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/10/17            Portland Harborside Toastmasters, Portland, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/9/17              KVTM, Augusta, ME

District 45 International Speech Competition prep

5/6/17              Division B (Maine/pasts NH) Toastmasters International Speech Competition (winner)

5/5/17              Mid-Coast Leadership Academy, Location TBD

Generational Differences- Millennials

4/27/17            EcoToasters, Lewiston, Maine

Public Speaking

4/27/17            LA TD Toastmasters, Lewiston, Maine

Public Speaking

4/25/17            Individual Coaching- professional development

4/24/17            Individual Coaching- professional development

4/24/17            Individual Coaching- professional development

4/21/17             Rockland Kiwanis, Lighthouse Museum/ Chamber Office, Rockland, Maine

Public Speaking

4/20/17              Individual Coaching- professional development

4/13/17               Individual Coaching- professional development

4/11/17                Individual Coaching- professional development

4/7/17                  Individual Coaching- professional development

4/6/17                  Individual Coaching- professional development

4/4/17                  Winthrop Rotary, American Legion Post 40, 117 Bowdoin Street Winthrop, Maine

Public Speaking

4/2/17                  Individual Coaching- reume writing

3/31/17                Dexter Kiwanis Club- Public Speaking

Knights of Columbus Hall

16 Crockett Rd, Dexter, Maine

3/21/17                Public Speaking Discussion, Coastmasters Toastmasters

Camden, Maine

3/21/17              Camden Lions Club, Camden Maine

Public Speaking

3/16/17              Individual Coaching- Public Speaking

3/15/17              Public Speaking Discussion, Bangor Toastmasters

Camden, Maine

3/14/17              Individual Coaching- resume

3/13/13              It’s Not Bragging if it’s a Fact–Improve Interviewing Skills

Wilmington Memorial Library

175 Middlesex Ave, Wilmington, MA 01887

3/12/17              Public Address Announcer

Cardboard Box Derby, Camden Snow Bowl, Camden, Maine

3/10/17             Individual Coaching- resume

3/7/17               University of Rockland, Rockland Maine

Public Speaking

3/6/17              Individual Coaching- resume

3/5/17              Individual Coaching- resume

3/5/17              Individual Coaching- resume

2/28/17           Camden Rotary Club, Camden Maine

Public Speaking

2/27/17            Individual Coaching- interviewing, networking

2/23/17            Individual Coaching- resume

2/22/17             Rockland Rotary, Elks Club Rankin St Rockland Maine

Public Speaking

2/23/17            Individual Coaching- resume

2/20/17            Individual Coaching- interviewing, networking

2/15/17              Rockland Rotary- public speaking

2/10-12/17        U.S. National Toboggan Championships

Public Address Announcer

2/7/17               Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/1/17               The Chris Wolf Show

https://www.mainecoast.tv/category/chris-wolf-show/

1/31/17             Augusta Rotary Club, Augusta Maine

Public Speaking

1/30/17             Individual Coaching- public speaking

1/271/7             Individual Coaching- career strategies

1/23/17             Individual Coaching- public speaking

1/20/17             Individual Coaching- career strategies

1/17/17             “Practical Public Speaking for Business”, Falmouth Maine

Financial Institution

1/16/17             Individual Coaching- resume

1/13/17             Individual Coaching-interviewing

1/12/17             Managing Multiple Generations in the Workplace

Mid-Maine Chamber of Commerce -2017 Business Breakfast

1/9/17              “Practical Public Speaking for Business”, Mt. Laurel, NJ

Financial Institution

1/7/17               Individual Coaching- job search strategies

1/5/17               Individual Coaching- job search strategies

1/3/17               Individual Coaching- job search strategies

12/26/16          Individual Coaching- Resume

12/19/16          Individual Coaching- Resume

12/18/16          Individual Coaching- Resume

12/14/16           Individual Coaching- Resume

11/23/16           Podcast Interview with Engel Jones- world record attempt: 1509 radio conversations

11/23/16           Professional Radio Network Interview

11/8/16             Coaching Session- Resume

11/3/16              Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Caroline Dowd-Higgins

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/1/16              Coaching Session- Networking

 

10/15/16           District 45 Division B Humorous Speech (2nd Place) and Evaluation Speech (Winner) Contest Finals

10/6/16             Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Sheila Kelley

https://ow.ly/CZX35

10/5/16               Individual coaching- resume

9/26/16              Individual coaching- career development (PM)

9/26/16              Individual coaching- career development (AM)

9/27/16               Area 14 Humorous Speech Contest and Speech Evaluation Contest, Lewiston, ME

9/20/16              TD Legendary Leaders Humorous Speech Contest and Speech Evaluation Contest, Falmouth, ME

9/15/16                Managing Multiple Generations in the Workplace with HR Association Greater Concord (NH)

9/13/16                KVTM Humorous Speech Contest and Speech Evaluation Contest, Augusta, ME

9/13/16                Winthrop Rotary Club- Public Speaking Discussion

American Legion Post 40, 117 Bowdoin Street. Winthrop ME

9/12/16                Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Tom Meyers

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/12/16                 Individual coaching- career development

9/12/16                 Individual coaching- career development

9/8/16                  Public Speaking Discussion, Coastmasters Toastmasters Club, Camden, ME

9/7/16                   Public Speaking Discussion, Bangor Toastmasters Club, Beal College, Bangor, ME

 

9/5/16                   Individual coaching- resume writing

9/1/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bob Whipple

https://ow.ly/CZX35

8/29/26                Individual coaching- resume

8/29/16                 Individual coaching- career development

 

8/30/16                 Individual coaching- resume

8/29/16                 Individual coaching- career development

8/22/16                 Individual coaching- resume

8/18/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Neil Ihde

https://ow.ly/CZX35

8/17/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/16/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/15/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/12/16                  Individual coaching- resume

8/10/16                  Flawless Virtual Presentations

Conference Call Financial Institution

8/3/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest David Riemer

https://ow.ly/CZX35

7/21/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Barbara Lee

https://ow.ly/CZX35

7/8/16                    Individual Coaching- resume

7/5/16                    Individual Coaching- resume

6/24/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

6/23/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

6/17/16                  Individual Career Coaching

6/16/16                 The Successful Author Podcast with Julie Anne Eason

6/16/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest David Balch

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/15/16                  Individual Career Coaching

6/2/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Helene Segura

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/1/16                     Individual Coaching, Interviewing

5/25/16                   Merck- Interaction and Engagement Effectiveness

Portsmouth Harbor Events & Conference Center, Spinnaker Room

5/20/16                  Maine State Library – offsite facilitation

Location: Portland Public Library, Portland Maine

5/16/16                   Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

5/19/16                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Janet Edmunson

5/15/16                   Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

5/11/16                   Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

5/5/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bob Whipple

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/2/16                     Individual Coaching Session- job-seeking strategies

 

4/30/16                 Book Signing Sherman’s Books, Camden ME

4/29/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/21/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Randy Fox

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/19/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/18/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/14/16                  Managing Multiple Generations in the Workplace

Conference Call Financial Institution

4/11/16                   Guest speaker Rockland Kiwanis

Samoset Resort, Rockland, ME

4/11/16                   Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/8/16                    Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/7/16                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Monal Pathak

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/7/16                     Guest appearance HR Power Hour with David Ciullo

4/5/16                     Individual Coaching- resume writing

4/5/16                     Guest speaker Augusta Rotary

Senator Inn Augusta, ME

4/4/16                     Guest speaker UROCK (University of Rockland), public speaking class

Rockland, ME

4/1/16                    Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/31/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/31/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/29/16                 Guest appearance on Fred Simkovsky radio show

3/23/16                 Resume Writing: Make Your Story Come Alive

Westford Job Seekers, J.V. Fletcher Library

50 Main Street Westford, MA 01886

3/22/16                 Guest speaker at Coastmasters Toastmasters       Camden, Maine

3/20/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/17/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bryce Kuhlman

https://ow.ly/CZX35

3/14/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/13/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing (3pm)

3/13/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing (5pm)

3/10/16                Speaking to Thomas College Public Speaking Classes, Waterville, Maine

3/9/16                  Radio Guest January Jones- Sharing Success Stories

3/8/16                  Guest speaker Winthrop Rotary

Winthrop Legion Hall, 40 Bowdoin St. Winthrop, Maine

3/7/16                  Individual Coaching- resume writing

3/6/16                  Cardboard Box Derby, Camden Snow Bowl-announcer

3/3/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Tom Reaoch

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/29/16                “Your Working Life” Podcast with Caroline Higgins Dowd

2/24/16                 Transformation Discussion- Virtual meeting with Financial Institution leaders

2/24/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/23/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/20/16                 Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/18/16                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Jeffrey Hayzlett

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/16/16                  Guest Speaker Camden (Maine) Lions Club

Camden, Maine

2/13/16                   Book Reading: “The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood”

Our Lady of Good Hope  Camden, Maine (cancelled)

2/12/16                  Individual Coaching- Book Marketing

2/8/16                    Make Your Connections Work for You- Networking Skills

Financial organization Mt. Laurel, NJ

2/5-2/6/16           US National Toboggan Championships

Snow Bowl, Camden, Maine

Event Announcer

2/4/16                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Al Raymond

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/3/16                    Let’s Just Talk radio with Katherine Raaker

Home

2/3/16                    Chris Wolf Show    MaineCoast.tv

1/27/16                   US National Toboggan Championship Panel Discussion

Rockport (Maine), Rockport Library

1/21/16                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Michelle Chung

https://ow.ly/CZX35

1/19/16                   Understanding Generational Differences in the Workplace

Falmouth, Maine

1/12/16                   VStv Interview- discussing US National Toboggan Championships

1/11/16                   Individual Coaching- resume

1/8/16                    Individual Coaching- resume

1/7/16                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Donna Serdula

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/31/15                Individual Coaching- resume

12/28/15                Individual Coaching- resume

12/18/15                 Book signing- Portland Jetport, Portland Maine

12/17/15                 Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Oscar Santolalla

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/14/15                  Individual Coaching- resume

12/12/15                  Book Signing, Sherman’s Maine Books & Stationery, Camden Maine

12/3/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Chris Dyer

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/2/15                    Interviewing: It’s Not Bragging If It’s a Fact

Westford Job Seekers, J.V. Fletcher Library

50 Main Street Westford, MA 01886

11/19/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Diane Williams

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/16/15                 Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/13/15                 Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/12/15                 Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/11/15                 Time Management- Baker Newman Noyes CPA (BNNCPA)- Cancelled

Portsmouth Sheraton, Portsmouth NH

11/11/15                  Podcast Interview Business Innovators Magazine

11/11/15                  Individual Coaching session- LinkedIn, Networking

11/9/15                   Individual Coaching session- resume writing

11/8/15                   District 45 Speech Evaluation Contest Finalist (winner)

11/7/15                   District 45 Humorous Speech Contest Finalist

11/5/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Brian Campkin

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/4/15                   Communicating Up, Down, and Around- Conference Call with a Financial Institution

10/27/15                Guest appearance on TalentTalk Radio Show with Chris Dyer

10/19/15                 Individual coaching- resume writing

10/17/15                 Division B (State of ME and parts of NH) Humorous Speech and Speech Evaluation Contest Finals

10/15/15                 Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio- Time Management Manifesto

https://ow.ly/CZX35

10/13/15                 Individual coaching- resume writing

10/6/15                  Resume Writing- Women in Leadership group

Falmouth Maine

10/2/15                   Command and Influence: Effective Communication

Falmouth, ME

10/1/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Alfred Manganiello

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/30/15                   Command and Influence: Effective Communication

Mt. Laurel, NJ

9/17/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Dorie Clark

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/11/15                   Individual coaching- resume writing

9/9/15                    Individual coaching- resume writing (2 different clients)

9/3/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Jen Blood

https://ow.ly/CZX35

9/1/15                     Resume Writing- Women in Leadership group

Falmouth Maine

 

8/25/15                  Resume Writing- Women in Leadership group

Falmouth Maine

8/20/15                 Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Mike Matteo

https://ow.ly/CZX35

8/19/15                 Time to Shine Podcast – Public Speaking with Oscar Santolalla

https://www.timetoshinepodcast.com/

8/13/15                 MaineHealth “Practical Public Speaking” for Trainers, Falmouth Maine

8/12/15                 Individual Coaching- Resume Writing

8/10/15                 Individual Coaching- Resume Writing (2 clients)

8/6/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Erin Dymowski (Sisterhood of the Sensible Moms)

https://ow.ly/CZX35

7/31/15                  Individual Coaching- Resume Writing

7/27/15                  Time Management Training

Conference Call

7/16/15                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Judy Robinette

7/7/15                    Resume writing coaching session

7/6/15                    Guest on CBS Radio with Shep Hyken

7/2/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Sharon Mast

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/15/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guests Henry Chamberlin and Bennet Geis

https://ow.ly/CZX35

6/10/15                   Radio guest on Destiny Moments with Angel Murchison

https://angelmurchisondestinymoments.blogspot.com/

6/4/15                      Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with the authors of “The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood”

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/31/15                   Maine Authors Publishing- “The Art of a Good Book Reading”

Sebasco Harbor Resort, Sebasco Estates
29 Kenyon Rd Sebasco Estates, ME, 04565

5/23/15                   Book signing Shermans Bookstore, Camden ME

5/21/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Bob Weinstein

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/21/15                   Podcast Interview with David Wissore on Fatherhood360

www.fatherhood360.com

5/20/15                 Facilitator- all day session with Maine Librarians

Point Lookout, North Port Maine

5/16/15                  Toastmasters District 45 (ME, NH, VT, 3 Eastern Provinces of Canada) Manchester, NH

Training Session:  “Manage Your Time, Don’t Let It Manage You”

5/14/15                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Mike Storkey

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/7/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Dr. Fay Butler

https://ow.ly/CZX35

5/5/15                    Taping VSTV “Soup du Jour” show with Nancy Nickerson

https://www.vstv.me/soupdujour.html

5/4/15                    Individual Coaching Resume Writing

5/8/15                    TV Interview Helen Fu westfordcat.org

5/9/15                    Toastmasters District 31 (Eastern MA, RI), Mansfield, MA

Afternoon Training Session:  “Manage Your Time, Don’t Let It Manage You”

5/9/15                     Toastmasters District 31 (Eastern MA, RI), Mansfield, MA

Keynote address:  “Transformation Time with Transformation Tom:  A Journey of Self-awareness, Belief, and Action”

4/24/15                   Radio Guest on “Better Business Builders Show with James Nemley” discussing “Fatherhood”

4/16/15                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Josh Coburn

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/10/15                   Discussion with 10:00am and 11:00am Public-speaking Classes at Thomas College

4/2/15                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Marc Demetriou

https://ow.ly/CZX35

4/1/15                      Radio Guest on “Better Business Builders Show with James Nemley” discussing Time Management

3/26/15                   The Successful Author Podcast with Julie Anne Eason

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/successful-author-podcast/id948069222?mt=2

3/19/15                    Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Debbie Pokornik

https://ow.ly/CZX35

3/18/15                   Camden Hills Regional High Schools

Time Management Discussion

3/15/15                    Taping for guest appearance on “Your Kind Voice” with host Dominic Domasky

Click here to listen

3/5/15                      Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Sheila Kelley

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/21/15                     Division B Toastmasters Leadership Institute – Effective Elevator Speeches

Thomas College, Waterville, Maine

2/19/19                      Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Dominick Domasky

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/19/19                       Radio guest appearance with Beth Shackleton-Anderson Click to Listen

2/12/15                       Radio guest appearance with Marc C. Demetriou on 1160am WVNJ “The Real Estate and Money Show”

2/12/15                       Falmouth (Maine) Lions Club Time Management Discussion Falmouth Legion Hall 65 Depot Rd Falmouth, ME

2/11/15                        Guest Radio Interview 93.3 WRFR with Chris Wolf / Mid-Maine.tv

2/11/15                        Individual Coaching- resume writing

2/6/15-2/8/15           US National Toboggan Championships Camden ME Announcer

2/5/15                         Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Elisabetta Faenza

https://ow.ly/CZX35

2/2/15                        Interview with Charlotte Howard on the Success & Beauty Radio Show

Click to Listen

1/26/15                      Blog Interview with Mary Motivates

Home

1/24/15                     Division B Toastmasters Leadership Institute – Effective Elevator Speeches

UNUM, Portland, Maine

1/15/15                      Midcoast Development Council – Effective Elevator Speeches

Georges River Land Trust, 8 N. Main Street, Suite 200, Rockland Maine

1/15/15                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Diana Warmsley

https://ow.ly/CZX35

1/8/15                        Radio guest appearance MPBN Radio discussing Time Management

https://news.mpbn.net/post/better-time-management

12/24/14                   Individual Coaching- interviewing

12/23/14                   Individual Coaching- business start-up discussion

12/21/14                   Guest on Al Cole Radio Show- taping

12/18/14                   Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Abbie McGilvery

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/17/14                   Guest on Visions of Success radio show with Dr. Fred Simkovsky

12/14/14                   Book signing at Sherman’s Book Store, Freeport ME

12/13/14                   Radio Guest on “Business 101 with Scott Gingold”

12/11/14                    Individual Coaching session- resume

12/12/14                   Individual Coaching session- Interviewing

12/4/14                     Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Don Holbrook

https://ow.ly/CZX35

12/1/14                       Individual coaching- Public Speaking

11/24/13                    Taping “Defining Success” Podcast with Zeb Welborn

https://definingsuccesspodcast.com/

11/24/14                    Guest appearance with Tom Evans of “The Zone Show Podcast”

Discuss “When Your Job is to Find a Job…and Yourself”

https://avanoo.com/landing/473/When-Your-Job-is-to-Find-a-Job—and-Yourself

11/24/14                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest Kit Summers

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/13/14                 Individual Coaching- professional development

11/13/14                 Mid-Maine Chamber of Commerce -2014 Business Breakfast

Thomas College 180 West River Rd. Waterville (Rt. 104)- Spann Student Commons

https://www.midmainechamber.com/cms/index.php/events/upcoming-events/range.listevents/-

11/11/14                 Individual coaching- resume

11/10/14                Radio Show Recording (The Strength Coach) with Greg Smith

11/6/14                  Transformation Time w/Transformation Tom Live Radio with guest David Frood

https://ow.ly/CZX35

11/5/14                   Radio guest appearance, HR Power Hour with David Ciullo

https://hrpowerhour.com/

11/1/14  District 31 Toastmasters:  Eastern Massachusetts & RI.  Topic:  “Running Successful Speech Contests”

Holiday Inn, 31 Hampshire Street, Mansfield, MA

10/25/14               MC Toastmasters District 45 Fall Conference Banquet, PEI, Canada

10/23/14               Guest radio appearance with Beth Shankle-Anderson host of “The Success Design Radio Show”

10/13/14                Individual Coaching Session- resume

Belfast, Maine

9/30/14               Thomas College students- “Have Your Connections Work for YOU”- professional networking

Waterville, Maine

9/25/14                Individual Coaching Session- professional development

Belfast, Maine

9/10/14                Individual Coaching Session- professional development

8/20/14               Make Your Story Come Alive — Résumé Writing Workshop, Falmouth, Maine

Radio Interview with Michelle Spaulding host of “Illuminate Together”

8/15/14               Pecha Kucha Event sponsored by Mid-Coast Magnets

Camden Amphitheater Camden,  ME

8/7/14                  Radio Guest on “Dose of Leadership with Richard Rierson”

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8/5/14                  Radio Guest on “Better Business Builders Show with James Nemley”

8/4/14                  Individual coaching session- Resume Writing

8/2/14                  Book signing Shermans Books, Camden, Maine

8/1/14                  Book signing Portland Jetport, Portland, Maine

8/1/14                  Guest on Visions of Success with Dr. Fred Simkovsky

Dr Fred Show August 1 2014

7/24/14              Interview with Charlotte Howard on the Success & Beauty Radio Show Click to Listen

7/24/14              Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Kita Szpak

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

7/22/14              Individual Coaching Session- Public-speaking

7/17/14              Sponsored by Lewiston Career Center, Maine

Auburn Public Library 49 Spring St, Auburn, ME 04210

Displacement Day:  When My Job was Looking for a Job Book Launch

7/15/14             Terri Levine Radio Show

https://www.theterrilevineshow.com/

7/10/14             Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Nadine Lajoie

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

7/2/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Ron Finklestein

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

6/23/14              Guest appearance on BFM 89.9FM: The Business Radio Show Malaysia

6/12/14              Radio Guest on “The Success Design with Beth Shankle-Anderson”

6/11/14              Guest on “People of Distinction” with Al Cole of CBS Radio

https://broadcast365.blogspot.com/2011/11/featured-station-people-of-distinction.html

6/7/14               Guest on “Business 101 with Scott Ginsgold”

https://www.facebook.com/business101withScott

6/6/14               Maine Career Development Association (MCDA)

Let Your Connections Work for You — How to Build a Professional Network

USM’s Lewiston-Auburn College, 51 Westminster Street, Lewiston, Maine 04240

6/3/14                Let’s Talk Strategies | The Womenpreneurs Network

Let’s Talk Strategies

6/2/14                Individual Coaching

5/30/14             Guest on The Hollis Chapman Show

https://www.blogtalkradio.com/hollischapmanshow

5/29/14              Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Larry Agresto

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

5/28/14              Radio Interview with Dr. Fred (DocFred) Simkovsky, CMCP host of “Simple Solutions for Complex Challenges”

https://www.lifecareerbusinesscoach.com

Radio Interview with Rafael on “The Untamed Blogger Show”

Untamed Blogger Show

5/26/14             Radio Interview with “Top of the Morning radio Show” with Dr. Fay Maureen airing

https://www.blogtalkradio.com/pastor-maureen

5/24/14             Toastmasters District 45 Spring Conference – Let YOUR Connections Work for You- How to Build a Network

Double Tree, South Portland, ME

5/23/14              Toastmasters District 45, MC of “Guts and Glory” event, S. Portland, ME

5/20/14             Woman In Leadership West Falmouth, ME

Make Your Story Come Alive — Résumé Writing Workshop

5/19/14               Guest on Talk 2 Brazil on LA Talk Radio with Tom Reaoch

www.talk2brazil.com

5/17/14                Toastmasters District 31 Spring Conference – Impromp-to-Success

Holiday Inn, 31 Hampshire Street, Mansfield, MA

5/14/14                 St John New Brunswick Chapter- Certified General Accountants,

Venue:  Lily Lake Pavilion PO Box 492 55 Lake Drive South Saint John, NB, E2L 3Z8

Keynote address: “The Transformational Journey:  A Story of Self-Awareness, Belief, and Action”

5/8/14                   Rockland Networking Group

Tradewinds Hotel, Top of the Rock, Rockland, Maine

5/7/14                   A Kind Voice on Books with Eden Blackwell

Click here to listen.

5/6/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Jeff Krantz

https://www.akindvoice.org/your-kind-voice/

5/3/14                  Book launch of Displacement Day:  When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work, sponsored by the Rockport Public Library.

Rockport Opera House located at 6 Central Street, Rockport, Maine.

4/29/14                 University College at Rockland- COM101 Public Speaking class

Breakwater Building, 4th floor, Rockland Maine

4/26/14                 Taping Radio Interview with “Top of the Morning radio Show” with Dr. Fay Maureen

4/24/14                 eTalks Virtual Roundtable with Mike Brenaug

eTalk with Mike Brenhaug Guest Tom Dowd

4/24/14                Defining Success Podcast with Jeb Welborn

https://definingsuccesspodcast.com/

4/17/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Lynnette Louise

4/10/14                Dirigo Toastmasters, Bank of America, Belfast ME

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

4/9/14                   Command and Influence Communication

West Falmouth, ME

4/8/14                    Radio Interview with Host James Lower- WJAG Radio

kjagradio.com

4/7/14                    Individual Coaching Session- Résumé Writing

4/3/14                    Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Phil Spillane

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

4/1/14                   Camden Rotary, 55 Elm St. Camden. ME

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditionally Nice” speech

3/28/14                 Rockland Rotary, Samoset Resort Rockport, ME

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditionally Nice” speech

3/25/14                 KVTM International and Table Topics Club Contest (competitor)

3/20/14                 Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Beverley Golden

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

3/19/14                  Bangor Toastmasters Club International and Table Topic Speech Contests

3/14/14                  Thomas College, 180 W River Rd, Waterville, Maine, 04901

Public Speaking Discussion

3/11/14                    Augusta Rotary, Senator’s Inn 284 Western Ave, Augusta, ME 04330

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

3/6/14                      Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Wally Hauck

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

3/5/14                     Winslow High School         20 Danielson St, Winslow, ME 04901

“Unconditionally Nice” speech at Assembly and Public-Speaking Overview with English classes

3/4/14                     Camden Lions Club, 3 Lions Ln, Camden  ME 04843

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

3/3/14                     Rockland (Maine) Kiwanis, 58 Ocean St. Rockland. ME

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

2/26/14                   MDI Toastmasters, Birch Bay Village, Bar Harbor Maine

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

2/25/14                  Coastmasters Toastmasters,

Camden National Corporation 245 Commercial St Rockport Maine 04856

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

2/20/14                  Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom radio program taping with guest Fred Maidment

blogtalkradio.com/transformationtom

2/19/14                   Bangor Toastmasters

Toastmasters Ambassador Program- Educational Overview

2/18/14                   Winthrop (Maine) Rotary, Legion Hall 117 Bowdoin St. Winthrop. ME 04364

Toastmasters Overview and “Unconditional Nice” speech

2/7/14-2/9/14     U.S. National Toboggan Championships- Announcer

1/28/14                    Hosting taping of “Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom”- guest John Brubaker

1/18/14                    Organizing and Judging Effective Toastmasters Contests- Toastmasters Leadership Institute

Texas Instruments, Portland, ME

1/16/14                    Taped “Your Kind Voice with Transformation Tom”- guest Dominck Domasky

 

Post from Transformation Tom- Do Something With Book Recommendations: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

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Do Something With Book Recommendations

I was stressed around the December holidays one year. My manager and I were not getting along well. We were having an especially difficult time communicating with each other. Still, the holidays are a time to reflect upon the previous year and to add hope for the coming year. I came back to my desk to find a small wrapped present from my boss. I opened it up and found the book, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, by Richard Carlson. We did not have to communicate directly to understand the message he was sending me.

We were not enjoying the work atmosphere because we were creating an up-tight environment ourselves. We were also spreading this throughout the work environment. The subtitle to that book is, “And it is all small stuff.” I got the point my manager was trying to say in a not-so-subtle way, and I really got hooked on what Dr. Carlson was trying to say. I received the book in 1997, and it has not left my desk since. I added a recurring calendar appointment to read a passage each day.

Reading a small passage everyday sets up my attitude with a fresh perspective and gives me the settling feeling I need to take on the business world. I am appreciative of the gift and the creative way my manager sought to provide me with the message he thought I needed. We still had our struggles and eventually found that we were both better off in other areas. However, my ability to tolerate my existing situation has improved with the enlightenment of the book.

Sometimes, a gift is just a gift. However, when it comes to book recommendations, especially obvious ones landing on your lap, it deserves to be read. Whether a book is a gift or someone says, “You ought to read this book…,” take notice and add it to your reading list.

Even if the message is not as obvious, you should take notice. You may be in a class and a book gets mentioned. Write it down and at least read the summary to pique your interest. Your world can be broadened and diversified. If you have a tendency to think one way or have a strong perspective on a subject, have a willingness to see the other side. Your openness to try to get a different perspective than your own will broaden your ability to be more diverse in your thoughts and beliefs.

You should also consider different genres, different styles, and mix between professional and personal reading. You do not have to load yourself up with 365 days of pure leadership and business self-help books. A few summers ago, I challenged myself to read War and Peace for the simple sake of saying I could do it. I had stared at the book on the shelf for so many years. Coincidently, I am friends with a couple who were also in the middle of reading it. I was excited to be able to share their thoughts when we got together. We had a great discussion for about the first half of the book. The second half may take a little longer since they decided not to finish it. I won’t give you my book review, but enjoyed the challenge of such a difficult and lengthy read. I tried to understand the complexity of the author’s attempt to weave in so many characters, and I tried to understand what had gone into making it a classic. I laughed when I had heard that the author was paid per word. I now understood, at least, a little behind the making of a classic.

I had a great manager who was also my sounding board after we went on to other positions. He is now a good friend and he referred a book to me that he was very excited about. My manager friend had such a cool head in the middle of a crisis. He always maintained a level head and provided feedback when you didn’t even realize it. He made the people around him feel these “aha” moments on their own—after a little prompting to encourage them to learn along with him, of course.

He was once described to me as having the ability to rip off your skin, and gently put it back on you. This so-called compliment of him was an accurate description because I was usually kicking myself after saying to myself, “How did I miss the obvious?” The book he recommended to me was It’s Called Work for a Reason: Your Success is Your Own Damn Fault, by Larry Winget. My manager friend was always teaching me about taking ownership. He encouraged me to put myself into situations I had always wanted to be in, but may not have been confident in my ability to do it. The book he recommended was not my natural style, but was a good lesson in learning how to read something from a different perspective. I finished the book, inspired to take on the world—with a little chuckle, of course.

Many people have referred leadership books to me over the years, with some being better than others. Without getting political, I really enjoyed Rudy Giuliani’s book Leadership. September 11 was hard hitting for the United States and much of the world. Whether we liked it or not, Rudy Giuliani was the leader when one of the more tragic historical events of the U.S. occurred. He had several key messages including “surround yourself with great people” and “weddings discretionary, funerals mandatory.” I enjoyed the cut-to-the-basics approach of his message.

If someone thinks enough of you to hand you, send you, or suggest a book, take advantage of it. You should be honored and humbled that someone thought of you when he or she picked it up. You should invest the time to read it and understand the connection that made it relevant to you. Your ability to like or dislike the book to some extent is irrelevant. The message someone is sending to you could be strong. The investment from you, and the possibility that you walk away learning something, is strong. Take advantage of the situation and read the book. Be aware: sometimes, there is not necessarily a connection to you and it is just a good book. There is nothing wrong with that, either.

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Post from Transformation Tom- Set an Example: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - August 6, 2018 - News
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Be the person you want others to be. This is easy to say but hard to do. Whether we like it or not, in the professional world we are constantly on stage in plain view of people around us. Whether it is the people we work with, work for, or customers we serve, we are always being observed and judged—in person, on the phone, or through written communications. We are constantly being viewed, whether face to face, in conference calls, video conference calls, or just walking down the hall.

Observers are making judgments constantly, and we are being labeled with an ongoing reputation, good or bad, every day. There is a laundry list of people with reputations in any office, and we have probably worked with them all at one point or other. In some cases, I know I’ve made my own uninformed observations and judgments of others.

Every company has one of the following: the complainer; the individual who refuses to work unless given A to Z instructions; the person who freezes under pressure; the one too good to associate with others; the one only in it for himself, and at least one overly competitive team member. The list can go on and on, but you get the point. Reputations and judgments can be made quickly and are tough to get rid of. There are traits and personalities that only add to the intensity of the reputations that bubble to the top. In any case, you are constantly being looked at and judged in the eyes of your peers and colleagues.

When our corporate culture was a little looser with expenses and entertainment, we had month-long events in one of our departments. We had contests and practical jokes, all in the supposed context of fun and employee satisfaction. Points could be accumulated as part of the team competition through practical jokes. The event culminated in a festive sports outing during which we went outside to release some tension and have some fun. I was constantly reminded by my manager that it was “supposed to” be fun. I say “supposed to” because over the years of this annual event, the practical jokes got more intense as teams tried to outdo each other. Besides the risk of injury, there was a higher likelihood of risk to reputations if you were a target. The atmosphere began to get a cliquish feel to it, like the days of junior high and high school. The leadership encouraged it. As a manager, I was told to play along.

I like to have fun as much as the next person, but felt the intensity was reaching a level that was pushing the line of professional boundaries. As soon as I had this feeling, I could have done something. There were several examples I could have set. I could have had a long conversation with the leaders who condoned this and clearly stated what was on my mind. I could have reacted better to the jokes that were being played on me. I could have realized nobody was getting hurt and subsequently could have made it more of a team effort.

There were times I felt that I was individually being targeted, which only exacerbated the issue, pushing the jokes to see how much further our competitors could get under my skin. I would come in as early as possible to rid my office of whatever was in it or done to it. In the month-long event, I had a reputation for overreacting to the practical jokes, and I inadvertently created a game in which the other teams would see how much they had to do to keep me from cleaning up their practical jokes before everyone came into work that day. This caused stress personally and created a divide in an event that was originally intended for the cohesion of the collective group. What kind of example was I setting?

I should have shown more maturity, gotten the right people involved, and set the example. I could have gathered the opinions of the team and determined how they wanted to handle the entire event. If we had talked through it, we may have even found that no one wanted to do any of it, but felt the peer pressure to keep it going. I had the opportunity to set the right example but never chose to take it.

Unfortunately, some of the events brought Human Resources into the picture that forced a long conversation with me. I had a chance to state all of my points. It was not easy or comfortable. However, it felt right. I wish I had set the example and not waited for HR to intervene. Although I moved on to another area the next year, the event was significantly toned down, and the pressure to find the next great practical joke was gone. Instead, it was back to good old-fashioned office fun, with competitions and food. By the way, you can never go wrong in making people happy with food.

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Post from Transformation Tom- Show Compassion: Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - July 30, 2018 - News
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Show Compassion

In over twenty-five years of working in the corporate world, I have only called out sick two or three times. Early in my career in managing people, I would often comment on why the same people were always on the verge of being placed on corrective action for tardiness or illness. Each time someone called out, I had a cynical response assuming that there was some lack of truth behind why they called out.

I only thought in terms of what stage of life I was in at the time. Prior to being married and having kids, I didn’t understand why people couldn’t make arrangements to have someone else watch their children. When I got married, I was lucky enough to have a wife who stayed home and dedicated herself to raising our family. Why couldn’t their spouse take care of their children? I still had a one-sided view. When my kids were born, I was back to work in a week while other fathers were looking for twelve weeks. When I worked forty-five hours, fifty hours, and sixty hours per week, I didn’t understand why people couldn’t commit themselves to those same hours. I didn’t get it. I lacked the compassion and understanding of what others might be going through.

As part of my progress towards transformation, I began to have ‘personal’ meetings with my managers. I would periodically set up time and just talk about their families, interests, and hobbies. During these meetings, although it started off very hard for me, I refused to discuss business. I began to learn what motivated people and made them tick. I began to understand the passion people had for things outside of work. At the time, my passion was work. My passion, loyalty, and commitment to my company was the same passion, loyalty, and commitment many people had for their families, hobbies, and other things outside of work. I was beginning to understand.

I ran into someone I used to work with about five years earlier. He had moved to another state. He was still with the company and was visiting our office. We talked about the years when we had put in mind-numbing hours of overtime. I asked him if anyone even remembered that we had put in those hours. We both laughed because we knew the answer was no, and realized that much of it at the time was for non-productive show. The funny thing was that many of the leaders we were so emphatic about impressing were no longer even with the company. What we did remember was the fun we had, the people we touched, and the relationships we built—in simple terms, the things we should care about. When compassion is clear, the job will find a way to get done.

I think it sunk in when I sent an email to one of my direct reports. She was not in the office when one of her people called in sick, so I took the call. My previous cynical side of me would have questioned it. After I hung up, in the past, I’m sure I would have made up in my head the “real” story about why she had called out. Instead, I sent a short and simple email to her manager that read, “Penny’s horse died. I finally understand.”

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Post from Transformation Tom- Control What You Can Control (You Have More Control Than You Think): Chapter from “The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas”

Posted by tomdowd - July 22, 2018 - News
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Control What You Can Control (You Have More Control Than You Think)

You should stop and ask yourself what you truly have control over. You may find yourself starting down a path of those things you can’t control, such as the weather and the stock market (at least not by yourself). You also can’t control whether or not other people talk about you, so you might as well give them something good to talk about. If you are part of a large organization, you can’t always control something happening in other parts of the company where you don’t have oversight. All of these uncontrollable factors may impact your satisfaction level, your frustration level, and your ability to make a difference. You need to trust that your teammates will get the pieces of their job done and be a good partner who will be there to assist when the need does arise.

You should focus on your own little world and the sphere of control you do have. Start with just thinking of you. You have control over your attitude, whether you take action, whether you speak up, and whether you want to offer your ideas. You may not be able to control the root cause of your stress and frustration, but you can control how you deal with that root cause.

There are plenty of factors to consider regarding what you do have control over. What is your patience level? What is your acceptance level that you can and will have an impact on the bigger picture? Are you open and willing to put yourself out there when you are not in your comfort zone? What is your acceptance to learning from your mistakes? How willing are you to put in the effort to transform yourself into someone in a better position to impact the things you can control?

I worked for a company in which people were very loyal and were leaders in the industry. As a whole, we were confident and convinced that nobody could run this type of business as well as we could. When the company was bought, it was devastating. Although the buyout saved us from ruin, we still had people walking around saying, “Who bought who?” There was a population of employees convinced that they were better than everyone, though this was just one reaction among many. Some people froze in fear of losing their jobs, while others took a more proactive approach by dusting off their résumés. I personally called a relative who worked for our new company. Her company had been acquired a few years earlier. Her advice was to control what I could control. She even mentioned that with a company this large, I might actually find more opportunities to thrive with a decent attitude. It seemed counterintuitive at the time, but she was right.

How could my small voice control anything in a company so large and that seemed constantly in flux? I began by trying to understand the new company mission and culture. Although this seems basic, the old company had an extremely strong culture. Instead of bringing the best of both worlds together, some people refused to accept the new culture and outwardly spoke against it, and even made fun of it. This type of reaction can cause conflict and limit what is within your own control. I made an effort to embrace the new culture and openly speak about the opportunities in front of us. After a while, if there was still negativity, I took control by avoiding any unnecessary interaction with the cynics.

It was possible to bring over pieces of the old culture that worked, but only after we accepted the new culture and were open enough to adapt. I saw many people leave the company. Some left on their own, while others were caught up in redundant positions and asked to leave. This was not easy to watch. However, many were left in a state of shock and felt as though they lacked control over their destiny. The unknown and unpredictability were scary, and we truly did not know where we would all land. However, we could control the small sphere around us. We could control our effort, or ability to assert ourselves within the new company culture, and keep the best pieces of our business moving forward.

I came to the realization that the old company would not have survived without the acquisition. Although I, too, was loyal and knew we did many things right, I believe I adapted to the new company culture sooner than many others. There were many people from my past in the old company who I felt had held me back or had not given me an objective chance to succeed (perceived or real). Many of these individuals were no longer with the company, either by their own choice or through the new company direction. What did I have to lose? While some others were waiting for instructions, I found myself jumping in with both feet. I decided that I would give it a try and move on if I didn’t like it.

The openness to adapt was a boost in my own confidence because I knew that it was one of the things I could control. I started to enjoy it and stopped thinking about what negative things could potentially happen to me. I started thinking instead about the opportunities I could make for myself. I was controlling my attitude. I was having fun being in this unknown, non-prescribed new world. I was controlling my actions. I had new people listening to my ideas and opinions. I was starting to enjoy this clean slate, and felt like I was making a name for myself more than I had in the previous sixteen years. As the full transition and buy-out was completed, I still saw people holding back and waiting for the next move to be made for them. Almost four years later, I still had conversations with people from the old organization who were still clinging to old habits and laughing at the new company culture. It was almost sad to watch because it was predictable that their success had reached its peak. My message wasn’t about full conformance; it was about belief in a new company that we now all worked for together. Hanging on to the old was not controlling what they could control. It would only hold them back.

I remember a conversation with an executive from the old company with whom I had worked on and off for many years. He commented on how he planned to stay low and do just enough to get by. His premise was that it was easy to get lost in a company that large and he could just hold on tight. I felt as if he had lost control of many things he could influence. He minimized his ability to control his attitude, his ability to lead, and his ability to make a difference. Several years later, he maintained this attitude, and he was let go. That was unfortunate. In the midst of what could have been a disastrous buyout of my old company and my potential long-term career, I found confidence and success because I took control of the things I could control.

 

 

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

  • Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
  • Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
  • Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
  • The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
  • From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
  • The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com.  Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

Do you know about Avanoo.com?  Two-to-three minute eLearning programs that can change your life.

When Your Job is to Find a Job—and Yourself

Manage Your Time—Don’t Let It Manage You

MP3 Downloads of “From Fear to Success:  A Practical Public-speaking Guide” are available at Apple iTunes, Amazon, Rhapsody, Emusic, Nokia, Xbox Music, Spotify, Omnifone, Google Music Store, Rdio, Muve Music, Bloom.fm, Slacker Radio, MediaNet, 7digital, 24-7, Rumblefish, and Shazam “From Fear to Success” MP3 on CD Baby